TIred of sexist colleague

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm sorry, this sounds so annoying. Yet many men deny that women have a tougher time in the workplace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eww I'd remind him that he's 60 and no 20 year old woman wants to think about a 60 year old man oggling her.

And he will be correct in laughing in your face. The reality of the world is that there are plenty of ambitious 20 year old women who will dress provocatively, encourage ogling and much more in front of 60, 70 or 80 year old men for money or career advancement. There seems to be a disconnect between the real world and your perception of it.

How does one "encourage ogling"? How does that work?

If I am on my job and just happen to be attractive and young, how do you distinguish between that fact, and the notion that I am dressing up just for money and career advancement and "encouraging ogling"?

It seems that there is quite a disconnect between the real world (professional bright women who are attractive) and your perception of it (women using their sexuality as a weapon). I suggest some mindfulness exercises in which you realize that your thoughts belong to you, you own your own perceptions and paranoia.

[Anonymous]

Say, "Ew, that's disgusting and lechy." Or "ugh, do you really want to become a dirty old man? You're well on the way."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eww I'd remind him that he's 60 and no 20 year old woman wants to think about a 60 year old man oggling her.

And he will be correct in laughing in your face. The reality of the world is that there are plenty of ambitious 20 year old women who will dress provocatively, encourage ogling and much more in front of 60, 70 or 80 year old men for money or career advancement. There seems to be a disconnect between the real world and your perception of it.

How does one "encourage ogling"? How does that work?

If I am on my job and just happen to be attractive and young, how do you distinguish between that fact, and the notion that I am dressing up just for money and career advancement and "encouraging ogling"?

It seems that there is quite a disconnect between the real world (professional bright women who are attractive) and your perception of it (women using their sexuality as a weapon). I suggest some mindfulness exercises in which you realize that your thoughts belong to you, you own your own perceptions and paranoia.

They stand there and giggle at the sexist jokes, flirt back, etc. Maybe even give blowjobs if the guy is a silver fox as opposed to really fat or really old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work at small company. One employee in his early 60s constantly makes comments about how we need to hire more attractive young women. He did actually just hire a 40ish male, but in deciding on second interviews, he said one woman was too ugly to call back in. He complains about every photo of older people or not stunningly attractive women in our publications.

We are in different departments, but both report to the owner of the company, who I know has heard this stuff and just kind of rolls his eyes. I've made my views known, but tit continues. No HR department. Any recourse or do I just have to listen to this stuff?

Freudian slip? I don't know that you can teach an old dog new tricks. Just hope he retires soon.

[Anonymous]

Call him Grandpa.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eww I'd remind him that he's 60 and no 20 year old woman wants to think about a 60 year old man oggling her.

And he will be correct in laughing in your face. The reality of the world is that there are plenty of ambitious 20 year old women who will dress provocatively, encourage ogling and much more in front of 60, 70 or 80 year old men for money or career advancement. There seems to be a disconnect between the real world and your perception of it.

How does one "encourage ogling"? How does that work?

If I am on my job and just happen to be attractive and young, how do you distinguish between that fact, and the notion that I am dressing up just for money and career advancement and "encouraging ogling"?

It seems that there is quite a disconnect between the real world (professional bright women who are attractive) and your perception of it (women using their sexuality as a weapon). I suggest some mindfulness exercises in which you realize that your thoughts belong to you, you own your own perceptions and paranoia.

They stand there and giggle at the sexist jokes, flirt back, etc. Maybe even give blowjobs if the guy is a silver fox as opposed to really fat or really old.

And then you turn the page and the Penthouse Letter is finished.

[Anonymous]

Start matching him comment for comment with old person insults.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Start matching him comment for comment with old person insults.

Bad plan. More discrimination is not the answer to discrimination.