Does this mean he's serious?

[Anonymous]

Been seeing this guy for two months. Hes already cooked me dinner, asked me to stay weekends at his place, met his friends, etc. He asked me today if I would be his date to a family wedding in April. We are sleeping together but only as of recently ( 2 weeks). We have not had any exclusivity talk but we are together enough to believe we are both only seeing each other. I don't want to say yes until I know we are exclusive. My ex bf screwed me over so I don't want to jump to any judgement. I do want to bring up the exclusivity talk but only if I know he is somewhat serious about me.

[Anonymous]

I would assume so. Most men will not do those things unless his intentions were for you to be long-term.

[Anonymous]

Yes? No? Who the fuck knows after 4 sentences.

Learn how to ask him questions not a bunch of keyboard hero's on the web!

[Anonymous]

Yes, sounds serious and appropriate to bring up the exclusivity talk. Do it separate from the date to the wedding though. Say "Yes!" very excitedly - and a few days later, not mentioning the wedding at all - bring up being exclusive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Been seeing this guy for two months. Hes already cooked me dinner, asked me to stay weekends at his place, met his friends, etc. He asked me today if I would be his date to a family wedding in April. We are sleeping together but only as of recently ( 2 weeks). We have not had any exclusivity talk but we are together enough to believe we are both only seeing each other. I don't want to say yes until I know we are exclusive. My ex bf screwed me over so I don't want to jump to any judgement. I do want to bring up the exclusivity talk but only if I know he is somewhat serious about me.

As Jerry asked George:

Jerry: Is there an implied date on Saturday night?
George: (meekly) Yes
Jerry: Well, you got yourself a girlfriend.

As a guy...assuming that you're describing his actions accurately...I'd say yes, he's serious. You got yourself a boyfriend. If you want one, I mean.

[Anonymous]

If he's planning to introduce you to him family (via the family wedding), an exclusivity talk is not inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he's planning to introduce you to him family (via the family wedding), an exclusivity talk is not inappropriate.

I have met his brother and his nephew once already. I've met his friends and their significant others. I started staying nights around month in before and this before we started having sex. We see each other 2-3 times a week. Normally dinner, a movie, out with friends, or at his place. He has cooked me dinner twice but he enjoys cooking so that may not say much. There is more like he will text or call everyday to talk or see how my day is.

A few weeks ago I canceled a girls night because I wasn't feeling well ( painful cramps). He canceled his plans and showed up with my favorite take-out and chocolate. We watched movies while he gave me a massage. It was really sweet.

He is 32 and definitely looking for something leading to marriage and a family. He told me he wants to find the right woman and settle down.

[Anonymous]

Why are you even second guessing this? Put on your big girl panties and ask if youre exclusive.

[Anonymous]

More communication is never a bad thing!

IME men have to be around for 3-4 months before the relationship is solid. Then again I don't have sex without a talk of exclusivity for safety reasons.

[Anonymous]

JUST ASK HIM

[Anonymous]

Definitely a good sign-but why not try to break whatever bad pattern you had with the ex and just be open and direct with this guy. If he's going to freak out if you say "so, where are we at" better to know that now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definitely a good sign-but why not try to break whatever bad pattern you had with the ex and just be open and direct with this guy. If he's going to freak out if you say "so, where are we at" better to know that now.

True. I guess I didn't want to ask for fear he may not know and I scare him away of something. I will just ask tonight when I'm at his place.

I normally don't have sex before exclusivity but I really like him and couldn't help it. We have had 10 dates in 6 weeks. We still have only had sex 3 times out of the 5 we hung out in the past 2 weeks. What kind of worries me is most men I've known try I make a move or push for sex once they are getting it but he doesn't much. He has initiated but we hung out yesterday and didn't have sex at all.

[Anonymous]

Don't ask. If you are willing to go/want to go to the wedding, GO!

Enjoy. Have good times together. Let the relationship develop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely a good sign-but why not try to break whatever bad pattern you had with the ex and just be open and direct with this guy. If he's going to freak out if you say "so, where are we at" better to know that now.

True. I guess I didn't want to ask for fear he may not know and I scare him away of something. I will just ask tonight when I'm at his place.

I normally don't have sex before exclusivity but I really like him and couldn't help it. We have had 10 dates in 6 weeks. We still have only had sex 3 times out of the 5 we hung out in the past 2 weeks. What kind of worries me is most men I've known try I make a move or push for sex once they are getting it but he doesn't much. He has initiated but we hung out yesterday and didn't have sex at all.

OK, now this is just weird. Relax for crying out loud.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't ask. If you are willing to go/want to go to the wedding, GO!

Enjoy. Have good times together. Let the relationship develop.

Yeah. This. A lot of over-thinking going on in this thread.

Given the description it seems unlikely that the guy would have any time to be anything but exclusive. But why press for some sort of verbal commitment at this point?

Am I the only one who thinks it's odd that OP would sleep with someone before exclusivity, but not consider attend a wedding without exclusivity? What's so special about attending a wedding?