Does this mean he's serious?

[Anonymous]

Never assume anything OP because later on you may regret it.

Since you have shared so much together and have gotten to know each other so deeply, why are you hesitant to have that exclusivity talk? I never understand why some women are afraid to bring this issue up? I have no issue with it...I mean for obvious reasons I wouldn't do it on the first few dates, but after knowing him this long I think you should feel comfortable enough approaching the subject.

Are you afraid of what he may say?

[Anonymous]

Op here. I am definitely not uptight! Before this I spent 6 months with my " ex". We never had the talk but I assumed we were exclusive. It was like any relationship. Spending all our time together, constant talking, lots of sex, meaningful conversation, taking trips, meeting family/friends, etc.
That 6 month my friend joined a dating site and came across a profile of him ( we didn't meet online) and I asked him about it. He told me " We are not exclusive. What have you that impression. Did I ask you to be my girlfriend".

This is why I am not assuming and worry about bringing it up. I was deeply hurt by that and don't want to go through that situation again.

[Anonymous]

OP, I understand your concern, especially based on your past. However I would not ask if whether you guys are exclusive yet. I think it is still too new. I would just enjoy it for now, and let the relationship develop, as a pp said. If in another month, everything is like now but he hasn't brought it up, then I'd probably ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To be more specific and candid.

We first had sex on Valentines day. That weekend alone we had sex somewhere between 7- 10 times. Since then we have gone out or each other's house the wknd after Vday, this wknd and about 5 times during the last two weekdays. We have had sex maybe 10 times more or less since VDay wknd. We generally have a lot of sex over the weekend. We didn't have sex yesterday or a few times last week but we have sex Friday and almost all day yesterday. I highly doubt he is gay or has a low libido. There has only been 5 times we haven't had sex.

He has initiated majority of the sex but I've done it as well. He is physical in the sense that he loves holding and cuddling me. We make out all the time. He gropes me even if we don't have sex. He is a butt man and loves to grab and lightly spank my ass.

I realize it's best to ask but I believe he views us as becoming serious. We we're suppose to see each other tonight but he is working late.

He isn't working late. He is with another woman. You should have the exclusive talk before you have sex.

+1

You should have had this discussion before sex. If he baulks at exclusivity you have your answer. He's also sleeping with someone else.

[Anonymous]

Met him ealiee today at his office for a pre-dinner. He introduced me as his gf ( This is my gf, A) to his boss and two colleagues. As we were walking out I say " girlfriend, huh". He responded " I thought you were. Aren't you?". So cute. So it's official and I don have to worry!

[Anonymous]

That's great, OP!

[Anonymous]

Aww, that's nice, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be cautious about guy who doesn't initiate sex once he is getting it. Could have low libido or be gay? BTDT. Run.

BTDT? These guys just lose their attraction to you. No gayness about it.

[Anonymous]

There you go, OP - have your answer. Happy for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be cautious about guy who doesn't initiate sex once he is getting it. Could have low libido or be gay? BTDT. Run.

BTDT? These guys just lose their attraction to you. No gayness about it.

It was just one guy. There were problems from the start, which I made the mistake of ignoring. I'm happy that OP's situation has turned out to be different.

[Anonymous]

What do YOU want?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do YOU want?

Him, duh!