People sharing an experience that wasn’t the same as yours isn’t gaslighting. Hope this helps. |
These uninformative posts are the worst. The point of this is to help others with expectations when visiting a place. Why didn’t you like it? Did you visit on a cruise or stay longer? |
It’s a cultural thing. I think it would be dangerous to react. It’s just so common there. The fact that they call it “eve teasing”, as if groping and openly leering at a strange woman’s body in public, when she is clearly uncomfortable, says a lot. They don’t see it as a big deal. You won’t have men jumping in to stop it like you would in Europe or the US. The women’s rights stats re: domestic violence and rape in India are horrifying. It is not a good place for women. |
You dont like South Beach Miami? |
Not the PP but South Beach was awful. SB was incredibly vain IMO and geared toward young twentysomethings. There was an encampment of heavy drug users at sections of the beach who slept on the benches. The Wynwood area seemed to have shootings with great frequency, we turned a block from the walls everyone goes to check out and there were crime cameras set to catch gunshots. |
I’ve been to South Beach just once and thought it was awful. Bunch of people just trying to look rich. Too fake for me. I’ll take the Keys…hard pass on Miami. |
Frederick is great, but I live there, which makes me biased. As much as I like living here, as a tourist destination, it’s just a day trip- probably a one and done. Harpers Ferry is fantastic too. Since I’m just 20 minutes from it, I can go at non-peak times, which is key. The hike to Maryland Heights is great, but on a nice weekend you’re sharing the view with hundreds of other people. Also, there are lots of other great hikes nearby that aren’t nearly as crowded. There is also biking, rafting and the views are amazing. Admittedly, the restaurant in HF leave a lot to be desired. It’s tourist food with tourist prices, but nobody goes to HF for the food. |
This is really great and insightful. |
Cancun.
Atlantis in the Bahamas. Venice. Kuala Lumpur. |
Another blonde white woman here who lived in India and subsequently travelled there 15+ times for work. I am German, so can definitely compare the two. PP is spot on, German trains might get crowded, but not only would it be rare for someone to touch you (I mean that happens around the world, there are pervs everywhere), if they did they would likely get smacked by some little old lady's umbrella. Those Omas are no joke. ![]() The PP who traveled around India alone as a blonde white woman was really risking her safety. I have been stared and followed, sometimes by a crowd--it's unsettling. I never went anywhere completely alone, there is no real penalty in India for men who attack women. At least not in the years I lived and travelled there (2000-2018). It's a fascinating and beautiful country in many ways, definitely worth going to, but I can understand why some people don't like it. I won't say it was the worst, I have been to Pakistan. That's the worst. |
I feel like a lot more attention has been paid to this issue in years past. I considered doing study abroad in India in the 90s and that wasn’t something that was flagged for me at all. People talked about the issues with water/stomach/bugs, but no one was talking about the risk of sexual assault/rape. Female activists in India are doing a good elevating these issues now and there’s been a lot of news coverage of some of the more horrific cases. |
I'm PP who loves food. So you all did not stay at the right place then. My underweight 12 yr old son who hates everything gained 3lbs over 10 days even with activities. He hates rice and beans but loved it there! He loved the food there as we all loved local food and at our resort. They have wonderful fruit and juices and the chicken is great. Now on the tours the food wasn't good but in MA Tulemar the area is amazing. |
Malta These uninformative posts are the worst. The point of this is to help others with expectations when visiting a place. Why didn’t you like it? Did you visit on a cruise or stay longer? I am the OP who said Malta. At the time, I was living and working in Europe and went with some girlfriends for a 4-day vacation. It was awful. We stayed at the nicest hotel advertised (we're all professionals and traveled together regularly), and it was old and rundown. The food was terrible, which was disappointing. The seafood should have been spectacular. Relaxing by the pool wasn't relaxing because the upkeep and amenities were non existent and pool was unkempt. No nightlife. We went to a bingo hall for amusement (we were all under 40). Nothing terribly interesting to see and we toured all over the island. I can usually find some silver lining and none to be had here. Wouldn't even recommend it as a port of call on a cruise for a couple of hours. |
I am the OP who said Malta. At the time, I was living and working in Europe and went with some girlfriends for a 4-day vacation. It was awful. We stayed at the nicest hotel advertised (we're all professionals and traveled together regularly), and it was old and rundown. The food was terrible, which was disappointing. The seafood should have been spectacular. Relaxing by the pool wasn't relaxing because the upkeep and amenities were non existent and pool was unkempt. No nightlife. We went to a bingo hall for amusement (we were all under 40). Nothing terribly interesting to see and we toured all over the island. I can usually find some silver lining and none to be had here. Wouldn't even recommend it as a port of call on a cruise for a couple of hours. When were you there? |
I'd love to get your insights into KL. Was strongly considering for next summer due to recommendation from social circle - any ideas for a better itineraries in SEA? |