toxic rumor child wants to leave

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to a college where, to my devastation, about half a dozen of my bullies also went. It was hardcore bullying, from 1st through 12th grades. From emotional, to physical. Teachers and admin and parents were involved, kids got suspended, my parents hired a lawyer, it was hardcore.

And when I walked into a class and saw 4 kids who'd tortured me, my heart sank. I booked it out of there the second we were excused, and ran to call my mom. She told me college is big (I wasn't at a big school, but college is always bigger than high school) and I needed to make friends with other kids and let them see what a great person I was. I still got teased by those four and they said horrible things about me to everyone in that class. But I seemed .. perfectly nice. Because I was. So the other kids didn't really put a lot of stock into what my bullies said. One of them was especially vicious one day, and so as he went to sit down I kicked his chair out from under him, letting him fall hard to the floor - something he'd done to me countless times. He shut up after that.

Moral of your story is to resort to bullying?

Seems you don’t understand what bullying is. Read the definition of it. What I did was not bullying.

DP. I agree with you that it wasn't bullying. But it was horrible and reflects very poorly on you. I think you're as bad as the person you claim was bullying you and I am very happy that I don't know you because I think you are disgusting to be proud of your physical attack on another person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. A few things. Yeah. I’m not going to repeat the rumor. Let’s just say it’s a really shorty rumor and I’m 100% sure it’s not true (and not just bc im the mom). But guess what! Rumors don’t care if they’re true. They spread anyway (just look at this thread wow! People who know nothing are ready to wish my child very ill).
Also, he did delete all social media long ago but the scary news is that you don’t have to be on social media for social media to share rumors about you. These kids are all networked and plugged into together. Not being on social media does not protect you.
Thank you for all the sincere posters who offered advice and well wishes. I’m not sure what he’s going to do. It’s a really really unfair situation. Thank you for lending an ear.

Have you tried getting your kid to talk things out with this other person and you do the same with the other kid's parents. I know these kids are probably 18 now but they were just in HS. I'm sure everyone wants to bury the hatchet and get along.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I went to a college where, to my devastation, about half a dozen of my bullies also went. It was hardcore bullying, from 1st through 12th grades. From emotional, to physical. Teachers and admin and parents were involved, kids got suspended, my parents hired a lawyer, it was hardcore.

And when I walked into a class and saw 4 kids who'd tortured me, my heart sank. I booked it out of there the second we were excused, and ran to call my mom. She told me college is big (I wasn't at a big school, but college is always bigger than high school) and I needed to make friends with other kids and let them see what a great person I was. I still got teased by those four and they said horrible things about me to everyone in that class. But I seemed .. perfectly nice. Because I was. So the other kids didn't really put a lot of stock into what my bullies said. One of them was especially vicious one day, and so as he went to sit down I kicked his chair out from under him, letting him fall hard to the floor - something he'd done to me countless times. He shut up after that.

Moral of your story is to resort to bullying?

Seems you don’t understand what bullying is. Read the definition of it. What I did was not bullying.

NP. Sometimes people need a taste of their own medicine. Good for you.