It's funny how so many are quick to tell a woman not to be picky about looks

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Anonymous wrote:My husband freely admits he was looking for someone attractive and I freely admit that I was looking for someone with the potential to make a good income. We also just truly enjoy one another and want the same things out of life. Together 20 years and married for 17. What’s the issue?

The issue is that you are both superficial and most people don’t aspire to that but I’m glad you found each other and it works out.

NP here but I don't view that outlook as superficial. Everyone has standards for looks, class/income etc. The pp just set hers a little higher. These are just baseline standards in addition to being compatible in other ways. Nothing wrong with that.

yes, and those standards are superficial.

So you'd marry the fat day laborer earning $30K per year?

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08/13/2021 17:08

Subject: It's funny how so many are quick to tell a woman not to be picky about looks

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Anonymous wrote:I think OP makes a good point. I don’t think that men are never told to settle on looks but if they are it’s very subtle (just general “make sure you’re going for women in their league) and it happens way more to women. “Lose weight” is the very first thing a lot of people say.

Or get contacts, straighter your hair, wear such and such outfit. She's also told, go out with the nerdy guy, with the glasses, who may be a little short, or a little overweight, and bald with balls stle, but he's super sweet and will make a great husband and father.

Meanwhile when was the last time you heard a guy being told to date the super tall girl, or the flat-chested girl, or the chubby nerdy girl with thinning, or curly frizzy hair and glasses with bad style because she has a good heart and will make an awesome wife and mother?

Yep. I have never seen somebody tell a guy guy he should be open dating to the chubby girl with frizzy hair.

Have you never gone out and public and looked at the couple out there? Open your eyes and you’ll see that men don’t need to be told that.

So the hot guys or slightly above average men, or even the average looking men are dating the chubby and frizzy haired girls in droves?

This whole thread is about being told to not be so picky. The hot men can afford to be picky and still have relationships. The average men tend to pair up with average women. As for the chubby/frizzy hair women, think about all the parents' at your kids school and marvel that some of them found anyone to love them, yet they did.

No this thread is about what women are told vs what men are told. Hot women are told they are too picky, too superficial they need to settle for the nice guy no matter what he looks like or if she's attractive.

When was the last time a hot guy or any guy was told you should date her because she's so nice and looks aren't everything?

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08/13/2021 17:11

Subject: It's funny how so many are quick to tell a woman not to be picky about looks

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The only people who are told they are too picky are those who struggle to get dates.

Hot men and women do not have this struggle, so of course we are not told to lower our standards.