What’s the deal with parents who won’t acknowledge your existence at the bus stop?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We’re new at the bus stop for summer school. This is MCPS if it matters. I’m not a Chatty Cathy. Not even a wave or eye contact is pretty harsh especially when the person will then chat with other people.

This happens to me all the time. They don’t acknowledge me but are super friendly with other people. I am Latina and speak Spanish to my kids, so perhaps they think I don’t speak English.

Why do you speak Spanish to your kids? In front of other people? Are you being performative?

So now speaking your native language to your kids is wrong? I guess we have found another thing that social justice warriors and right wing racists agree on.

It is generally considered rude to speak another language in mixed company.

No, not its not. Try to tone down the jealousy. Every parent in the DMV is paying thousands a year for foreign-language immersion for their kids and you're just mad PP can do it on it her own and ensure her kids fluency in a second language without anyone else.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are parents hanging out at the bus stop anyhow?

Helicopters.

For real. This is a Metro bus, it is a school bus. From K-10th grade, I don’t recall a single parent ever at the bus stop. The one exception would be in extreme weather one parent might show up in van and let us all get in while we waited, but that happened maybe once per year. The rest of the time we waited there with each other, no parents, in all kinds of weather.

I teach MS. At least once a month, we hear that something bad happens at the bus stop. Sometimes it’s a pervert. However, at least three times in the past five years, a kid had a medical emergency several minutes before the bus arrived.

I grew up in the 1980s in a major city so I am not a nervous Nellie.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why are parents hanging out at the bus stop anyhow?

Helicopters.

Right, my mother would have never hung out at bus stop. My father was usually off to work before we left. I don't get this bus stop drop off and pick up culture. We walked to school by ourselves and stood at the bus stop by ourselves.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are parents hanging out at the bus stop anyhow?

Helicopters.

For real. This is a Metro bus, it is a school bus. From K-10th grade, I don’t recall a single parent ever at the bus stop. The one exception would be in extreme weather one parent might show up in van and let us all get in while we waited, but that happened maybe once per year. The rest of the time we waited there with each other, no parents, in all kinds of weather.

I teach MS. At least once a month, we hear that something bad happens at the bus stop. Sometimes it’s a pervert. However, at least three times in the past five years, a kid had a medical emergency several minutes before the bus arrived.

I grew up in the 1980s in a major city so I am not a nervous Nellie.

DP Like this pervert in May...

[Anonymous]

Are you new to the DC area? Everyone is like that. It’s not a friendly area. We moved south and it’s so much better!

[Anonymous]

They are rude and lacking in basic manners, nothing to do with being shy or an introverted.

[Anonymous]

I feel like everyone is so stressed out in close-in DMV. We moved from the exurbs to Town of Vienna, which is supposed to be super friendly (if you’re white I guess). At preschool drop-off everyone’s face is so closed. Not a hint of a smile, even if you smile at them! Turns me off.

[Anonymous]

Redness is insane, I will say. A tiny smile or a wave or a nod costs nothing. Yet, it goes a long way. You know it is a choice. A conscious choice to be unfriendly, to stare ahead when you show up.
Miserable, mannerless people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you new to the DC area? Everyone is like that. It’s not a friendly area. We moved south and it’s so much better!

Wasn't like that in Olney.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you new to the DC area? Everyone is like that. It’s not a friendly area. We moved south and it’s so much better!

How do you explain that most people here are transplants?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’re new at the bus stop for summer school. This is MCPS if it matters. I’m not a Chatty Cathy. Not even a wave or eye contact is pretty harsh especially when the person will then chat with other people.

This happens to me all the time. They don’t acknowledge me but are super friendly with other people. I am Latina and speak Spanish to my kids, so perhaps they think I don’t speak English.

Why do you speak Spanish to your kids? In front of other people? Are you being performative?

So now speaking your native language to your kids is wrong? I guess we have found another thing that social justice warriors and right wing racists agree on.

It is generally considered rude to speak another language in mixed company.

The one exception being if the parent is giving the kid quick social feedback, like “Larla looks like she wants to be included.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel like everyone is so stressed out in close-in DMV. We moved from the exurbs to Town of Vienna, which is supposed to be super friendly (if you’re white I guess). At preschool drop-off everyone’s face is so closed. Not a hint of a smile, even if you smile at them! Turns me off.

We were in Vienna for awhile, and I had trouble making friends in preschool, too. I wish I knew why.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We’re new at the bus stop for summer school. This is MCPS if it matters. I’m not a Chatty Cathy. Not even a wave or eye contact is pretty harsh especially when the person will then chat with other people.

This happens to me all the time. They don’t acknowledge me but are super friendly with other people. I am Latina and speak Spanish to my kids, so perhaps they think I don’t speak English.

Why do you speak Spanish to your kids? In front of other people? Are you being performative?

So now speaking your native language to your kids is wrong? I guess we have found another thing that social justice warriors and right wing racists agree on.

It is generally considered rude to speak another language in mixed company.

No, not its not. Try to tone down the jealousy. Every parent in the DMV is paying thousands a year for foreign-language immersion for their kids and you're just mad PP can do it on it her own and ensure her kids fluency in a second language without anyone else.

NP. My husband speaks a second language with our kid, but not in front of others ( besides family). It IS rude. People want to know what to say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are parents hanging out at the bus stop anyhow?

Helicopters.

Right, my mother would have never hung out at bus stop. My father was usually off to work before we left. I don't get this bus stop drop off and pick up culture. We walked to school by ourselves and stood at the bus stop by ourselves.

Depending on where you live, it’s required. There are plenty of DCUM threads on this and how annoyed parents have to go out and stand there when they live 2-3 houses away.

[Anonymous]

Might not have had their morning coffee yet