What’s the deal with parents who won’t acknowledge your existence at the bus stop?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We’re new at the bus stop for summer school. This is MCPS if it matters. I’m not a Chatty Cathy. Not even a wave or eye contact is pretty harsh especially when the person will then chat with other people.

This happens to me all the time. They don’t acknowledge me but are super friendly with other people. I am Latina and speak Spanish to my kids, so perhaps they think I don’t speak English.

Why do you speak Spanish to your kids? In front of other people? Are you being performative?

Why wouldn’t she speak Spanish to her kids if that’s their language? Are you the kind of racist who goes around insisting everyone speak only English in America?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’re new at the bus stop for summer school. This is MCPS if it matters. I’m not a Chatty Cathy. Not even a wave or eye contact is pretty harsh especially when the person will then chat with other people.

This happens to me all the time. They don’t acknowledge me but are super friendly with other people. I am Latina and speak Spanish to my kids, so perhaps they think I don’t speak English.

Why do you speak Spanish to your kids? In front of other people? Are you being performative?

So now speaking your native language to your kids is wrong? I guess we have found another thing that social justice warriors and right wing racists agree on.

It is generally considered rude to speak another language in mixed company.

It’s a public bus stop, not a private party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people just prefer to keep to themselves. It's not necessarily about you.

You can't say help to your immediate neighbors? What is wrong with you? Too good to say hello? You think people want something from you? Trust me, they most definitely do not.

There was another thread where someone actually replied "unless they serve me or my spouses's career, I don't bother with them" - how ignorant is that? We would have helped you with your career, if you hadn't been such a bad neighbor - is usually the case.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm an introvert. I don't actively talk to people that I don't know unless I have to. It has nothing to do with being or not being friendly. If you start a conversation, I will talk to you but it's unlikely that I will start one with a stranger.

+1 Hello is fine, but also it is rude of stranger to just walk up and try to engage someone in conversation. For all you know, they are silently practicing a speech for a big presentation they have in an hour, or memorizing lines for a stage audition, or trying to come up with the eulogy for a dearly departed, or mediating or praying. When someone is lost in their own thoughts, do not interrupt with small talk. It's not like you invited them to the bus top for a social visit. They are already immersed in their day. Say hello and if that doesn't lead to an opening to converse, politely mind your own business and don't fall for the temptation to think ill of the person. You have no idea what's on their minds (and they have no social obligation to share).

LOL. Okay. So dramatic!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some people just prefer to keep to themselves. It's not necessarily about you.

You can't say help to your immediate neighbors? What is wrong with you? Too good to say hello? You think people want something from you? Trust me, they most definitely do not.

There was another thread where someone actually replied "unless they serve me or my spouses's career, I don't bother with them" - how ignorant is that? We would have helped you with your career, if you hadn't been such a bad neighbor - is usually the case.

*hello, not help

[Anonymous]

OP do you greet them and they don't greet you back?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They have been raised by wolves. Watch their kids also and you will notice they will be devoid of any manners or basic socializing skills.

Look for educated immigrant families and make friends with them.

+1

Be more choosy, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They have been raised by wolves. Watch their kids also and you will notice they will be devoid of any manners or basic socializing skills.

Look for educated immigrant families and make friends with them.

Having worked in a DMV school system with a high percent of immigrant families from dozens of countries, both educated and uneducated, you can take out the "educated" qualifier. Across the board, these families and their children had good social skills.

[Anonymous]

Some view starting a conversation while waiting at the school bus stop (or at the preschool pick up) the same way people view starting a conversation with the passenger sitting next to them on a plane. Once you go there, you've opened the door to conversation and then you might find yourself searching for a way to exit the conversation, especially if the other person is too chatty. If you don't start the conversation, then you don't have to end it.

My kids are in high school, but when they were in grade school I discovered there are some moms who will try to pry information out of you about your child's grades. How did your kid do on the test? Beware the bus stop busy body moms!

[Anonymous]

As a mom who went at the school bus stop, I will say as soon as I heard a gaggle of moms smack talking a mom who wasn't there (or worse, running down her child), then they were suddenly persona non grata to me. Can't trust 'em as far as you can throw 'em. I wouldn't talk to those ladies. Snakes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a mom who went at the school bus stop, I will say as soon as I heard a gaggle of moms smack talking a mom who wasn't there (or worse, running down her child), then they were suddenly persona non grata to me. Can't trust 'em as far as you can throw 'em. I wouldn't talk to those ladies. Snakes.

I’m sure you’ve never ever talked about someone not present or their child. Ever.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’re new at the bus stop for summer school. This is MCPS if it matters. I’m not a Chatty Cathy. Not even a wave or eye contact is pretty harsh especially when the person will then chat with other people.

This happens to me all the time. They don’t acknowledge me but are super friendly with other people. I am Latina and speak Spanish to my kids, so perhaps they think I don’t speak English.

Why do you speak Spanish to your kids? In front of other people? Are you being performative?

So now speaking your native language to your kids is wrong? I guess we have found another thing that social justice warriors and right wing racists agree on.

It is generally considered rude to speak another language in mixed company.

Why? If it's not a conversation that you're a party to anyway, isn't it considered rude to eavesdrop?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We’re new at the bus stop for summer school. This is MCPS if it matters. I’m not a Chatty Cathy. Not even a wave or eye contact is pretty harsh especially when the person will then chat with other people.

This happens to me all the time. They don’t acknowledge me but are super friendly with other people. I am Latina and speak Spanish to my kids, so perhaps they think I don’t speak English.

Why do you speak Spanish to your kids? In front of other people? Are you being performative?

So now speaking your native language to your kids is wrong? I guess we have found another thing that social justice warriors and right wing racists agree on.

It is generally considered rude to speak another language in mixed company.

Why? If it's not a conversation that you're a party to anyway, isn't it considered rude to eavesdrop?

But it doesn't signal to people that you're approachable and open to conversation. You can't simultaneously speak in a foreign language and complain that people don't approach you or talk to you.

[Anonymous]

I'm not a morning person AND am an introvert. I'm never going to be the one to make the first move. Why don't YOU wave or say hi first?

[Anonymous]

I'm not at the bus stop to make friends. I'm there because I'm forced to be by county regulations.