How do you meet tween’s friends parents?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 16 yr old can't drive so I'd be the one to drop her off at her friend's house. Yes, I'd ask to meet the parents if they are at home. I think it's weird to drop your kid off at some random house and drive away.

If you are getting out to meet the parents after elementary school it's understandable that some people can't stop hovering and lean back a little

But dear God if you're doing it in HIGH SCHOOL there's something wrong with you.

[Anonymous]

Isn’t it just polite to meet people? Especially if they’re new to the neighborhood? At a minimum, your child is a guest in their home, but it’s a neighborly thing to do, and agree that you can also get a sense of the vibe.

+1 for drop off with DD, a quick hello and have kid walk home.

[Anonymous]

At 12, I'd walk her over and introduce myself and stay for five minutes, exchange pleasantries and phone numbers with the parents, and then kiss my kid goodbye and leave. When they're in high school, I met my teen's friend's parents at Back to School Nights and Parent/Teacher conferences and the like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree it’s important to meet the adults. I walked over with cookies to meet new people who moved in across the street. These are all expensive five bedroom suburban homes. So I knock on the door and I can hear a male yelling. The wife comes to the door while this drunken, belligerent ahold is screaming in the background. Their young kids were crying.

If my kids walked into that, I don’t know if they’re old enough to handle it. I’m

I'm sure they were thrilled that someone showed up at the door when they were dealing with the "fun" of getting moved in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lmaoooooooooooo I would die if one of my 16 year old daughters friends mothers needed to meet us in order to hang out here!

Meet? No. But how would you react if your 16 year old daughter’s friend’s mother texted you and said “I know my Larla has been hanging out a lot at your house. Thank you for hosting. This is the best number to reach me at should you ever need to.” Coz that happens to me and I find it totally normal and frankly comforting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree it’s important to meet the adults. I walked over with cookies to meet new people who moved in across the street. These are all expensive five bedroom suburban homes. So I knock on the door and I can hear a male yelling. The wife comes to the door while this drunken, belligerent ahold is screaming in the background. Their young kids were crying.

If my kids walked into that, I don’t know if they’re old enough to handle it. I’m

I'm glad I don't have nosy gossips showing up with cookies when I'm trying to have a wine. You've never had stress when you moved? You sound like a boring a hole.

“A wine”? That’s not a thing. A glass? A bottle?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree it’s important to meet the adults. I walked over with cookies to meet new people who moved in across the street. These are all expensive five bedroom suburban homes. So I knock on the door and I can hear a male yelling. The wife comes to the door while this drunken, belligerent ahold is screaming in the background. Their young kids were crying.

If my kids walked into that, I don’t know if they’re old enough to handle it. I’m

I'm glad I don't have nosy gossips showing up with cookies when I'm trying to have a wine. You've never had stress when you moved? You sound like a boring a hole.

“A wine”? That’s not a thing. A glass? A bottle?

What a weird thing for you to be picking out. People have a beer. They have a scotch. They have a drink. They can have a wine. It isn't like it was confusing....

[Anonymous]

OP- DD met a girl at our pool 2 years ago at 11. She wanted to get together at her house. I told her I wanted to meet parents first. We exchanged text messages and had a quick meeting while we were both at the pool. No big deal.
I would do the same at even now at 13- don’t care what others think. IMO there is a big difference between 13 and 16.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How about if the kids were 16? Maybe I'm weird but I wouldn't let my 16 yr old go over someone's house whose parents I have never met.

Your weird. No other parents do this. You're overr protective and your kid is mortified.

When something happens to your kid because you are being the cool parent, we don't want to hear the sob story on this board.

Poor crazy overprotective parents. What will you do in 2 years when your helpless baby is an adult?

Your comment makes no sense. First, as parents, we do what is age-appropriate now. You don’t allow a four-year-old to use the stove just because in two years they’ll be able to do it. Second, in two years OP’s kid will be 14 and still four years short of being an adult.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Lmaoooooooooooo I would die if one of my 16 year old daughters friends mothers needed to meet us in order to hang out here!

Meet? No. But how would you react if your 16 year old daughter’s friend’s mother texted you and said “I know my Larla has been hanging out a lot at your house. Thank you for hosting. This is the best number to reach me at should you ever need to.” Coz that happens to me and I find it totally normal and frankly comforting.

OP’s kid is 12. Huge difference between 12 and 16.

[Anonymous]

For a new neighborhood family, I walk over and introduce myself. For a school friend, I just call and meet the family when I drop DD off. All other parents of kids my DD has invited over do that same. I’m shocked posters here think it’s weird. These kids are between 10 and 14.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Lmaoooooooooooo I would die if one of my 16 year old daughters friends mothers needed to meet us in order to hang out here!

Meet? No. But how would you react if your 16 year old daughter’s friend’s mother texted you and said “I know my Larla has been hanging out a lot at your house. Thank you for hosting. This is the best number to reach me at should you ever need to.” Coz that happens to me and I find it totally normal and frankly comforting.

I find it weird parents don't do that. We were always required to provide a phone number and address and parents would sometimes confirm with parents.

I would prefer kids at my house if I don't know the parents/home environment.

[Anonymous]

OP, just re-read and realized your new to the area. Sorry to say it’s not a very friendly area

[Anonymous]

Bear in mind you're the type of parents who are so absorbed with your teenagers that you're regulars on a message board about them.
None of my sons friends parents have called, texted or came to the door since the end of elementary school/early middle school.
They all have cell phones and it is their responsibility to tell their parents where they are and to let them know if they need anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Bear in mind you're the type of parents who are so absorbed with your teenagers that you're regulars on a message board about them.
None of my sons friends parents have called, texted or came to the door since the end of elementary school/early middle school.
They all have cell phones and it is their responsibility to tell their parents where they are and to let them know if they need anything.

Eh, you know you’re on a message board about teens, right? So you’re equally “absorbed with your teenagers” as proven by your own post.