How do you meet tween’s friends parents?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about if the kids were 16? Maybe I'm weird but I wouldn't let my 16 yr old go over someone's house whose parents I have never met.

Your weird. No other parents do this. You're overr protective and your kid is mortified.

When something happens to your kid because you are being the cool parent, we don't want to hear the sob story on this board.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about if the kids were 16? Maybe I'm weird but I wouldn't let my 16 yr old go over someone's house whose parents I have never met.

Your weird. No other parents do this. You're overr protective and your kid is mortified.

You’re not your. “You’re weird.” NP here and I am another parent who likes to know the adults in the homes where my kids are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How about if the kids were 16? Maybe I'm weird but I wouldn't let my 16 yr old go over someone's house whose parents I have never met.

Your weird. No other parents do this. You're overr protective and your kid is mortified.

When something happens to your kid because you are being the cool parent, we don't want to hear the sob story on this board.

Poor crazy overprotective parents. What will you do in 2 years when your helpless baby is an adult?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The kid is 12, not 4.

And a 12 year old can’t always distinguish truly troubling behavior from an adult or older relative and just innocent parental weirdness. It’s why so many tweens get molested. Or drunk or high at a friend’s house. It takes ten minutes to talk to the other kid’s parents.

And you think that you would be able to sniff this out in a ten minute conversation? Seems like reality does not support this at all. People that actually molest children rarely present any different to other people....

[Anonymous]

Lmaoooooooooooo I would die if one of my 16 year old daughters friends mothers needed to meet us in order to hang out here!

[Anonymous]

My 16 yr old can't drive so I'd be the one to drop her off at her friend's house. Yes, I'd ask to meet the parents if they are at home. I think it's weird to drop your kid off at some random house and drive away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You walk with her to dinner and introduce yourself to the parents and exchange cells. Then you leave, and either she walks home by herself (hopefully texting you) or you walk over to pick her up, as a casual evening walk activity.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don't. She's 12.

You’d let your 12 yr old go into a stranger’s house?

Uh…yes. What’s the issue?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The kid is 12, not 4.

And a 12 year old can’t always distinguish truly troubling behavior from an adult or older relative and just innocent parental weirdness. It’s why so many tweens get molested. Or drunk or high at a friend’s house. It takes ten minutes to talk to the other kid’s parents.

Good lord

[Anonymous]

I've posted a couple times that I don't know my kid's friends' parents, and don't all feel the need to for any "safety" reason. I know that a passing conversation with them is not going to change in any way the likelihood that my kid gets harmed in any way.

I do, however, sometimes wish I knew them a little better so we could help coordinate transportation. Sometimes knowing who is picking up who where and when can get a bit chaotic when they manage it themselves. I miss the old carpooling days...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The kid is 12, not 4.

And a 12 year old can’t always distinguish truly troubling behavior from an adult or older relative and just innocent parental weirdness. It’s why so many tweens get molested. Or drunk or high at a friend’s house. It takes ten minutes to talk to the other kid’s parents.

And you think that you would be able to sniff this out in a ten minute conversation? Seems like reality does not support this at all. People that actually molest children rarely present any different to other people....

+1. You will know nothing about whether the people are dangerous by having a few minutes of conversation. Most child molesters appear to be normal community members. See that pedophile in the City of Falls Church who molested his daughter’s friends at a sleepover. He was a pillar of that community along with his wife. No one suspected anything.

[Anonymous]

I agree it’s important to meet the adults. I walked over with cookies to meet new people who moved in across the street. These are all expensive five bedroom suburban homes. So I knock on the door and I can hear a male yelling. The wife comes to the door while this drunken, belligerent ahold is screaming in the background. Their young kids were crying.

If my kids walked into that, I don’t know if they’re old enough to handle it. I’m

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The kid is 12, not 4.

And a 12 year old can’t always distinguish truly troubling behavior from an adult or older relative and just innocent parental weirdness. It’s why so many tweens get molested. Or drunk or high at a friend’s house. It takes ten minutes to talk to the other kid’s parents.

And you think that you would be able to sniff this out in a ten minute conversation? Seems like reality does not support this at all. People that actually molest children rarely present any different to other people....

+1. You will know nothing about whether the people are dangerous by having a few minutes of conversation. Most child molesters appear to be normal community members. See that pedophile in the City of Falls Church who molested his daughter’s friends at a sleepover. He was a pillar of that community along with his wife. No one suspected anything.

-1. As stated repeatedly, you know more after meeting the adults than not meeting the adults!! That’s pretty obvious, guys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree it’s important to meet the adults. I walked over with cookies to meet new people who moved in across the street. These are all expensive five bedroom suburban homes. So I knock on the door and I can hear a male yelling. The wife comes to the door while this drunken, belligerent ahold is screaming in the background. Their young kids were crying.

If my kids walked into that, I don’t know if they’re old enough to handle it. I’m

Well I’m not sure how old your kids are, but if mine walked into that she (13) would come home and tell me all the drama and details. She most definitely would NOT want to go back. When I was young, I saw many belligerent drunks. Our kids are so protected they don’t even know what a belligerent drunk is! All of this has made my daughter extremely excited by any drama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree it’s important to meet the adults. I walked over with cookies to meet new people who moved in across the street. These are all expensive five bedroom suburban homes. So I knock on the door and I can hear a male yelling. The wife comes to the door while this drunken, belligerent ahold is screaming in the background. Their young kids were crying.

If my kids walked into that, I don’t know if they’re old enough to handle it. I’m

I'm glad I don't have nosy gossips showing up with cookies when I'm trying to have a wine. You've never had stress when you moved? You sound like a boring a hole.