help me be rational - pregnant and not vaccinated

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I dont think your anxiety is out of line. I gave birth last fall and am relieved I didnt have to face the vaccine pressure. I would not choose to get it because I have relatives who were DES Daughters.

OP here - this right here it’s these plausible but unlikely events and scenarios that stick in my mind.

Let me ask you hypothetically would you consider it later in the third trimester like even the first shot?

Yes my mental health is declining, husband and I are arguing more, and my 3 year old is acting up a ton. It just makes me scared about when baby is here and it’ll be worse.

Will your 3 year old be in preschool when the baby is born? If so, especially with delta coming, there is a very real possibility that your three year old will come home snd bring covid to the baby. Covid is very dangerous for newborns. I am originally from a country where delta is now spreading. 45% of the population was fully vaccinated when the delta variant hit. My cousin’s cousin has four kids - 3 which go to school in person and a newborn. 5 year old got covid. Brought it home. My cousin’s cousin got covid from 5 year old and passed to to baby. Baby has been in PICU for at least three weeks (not sure what status is now). Mom (my cousin’s cousin) unfortunately died. All four children are orphaned. Don’t let that be you. Get the vaccine to protect yourself and pass the antibodies to your newborn who will be extremely vulnerable to covid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a lawyer have a healthy three year old and am 35. I am currently 18 weeks pregnant and not yet vaccinated and I cannot get over my irrational fear of the vaccine.


I work from home, kid stays at home, no family or friends near, and a small town with 2 cases in the last month and in a state with over 60% vaccinated.
I am self isolating still and only outings are hikes and empty playground and yard and maybe a curbside pickup for food. But I am miserable and lonely and I want my kiddo and husband to go out in the world after a year plus of this.

I am afraid of two things: if I get the vaccine, am I 100% guaranteed it won’t affect the baby (like cause a stroke or cleft lip or no arm or neurological issue anything)? if I get the vaccine, am I 100% guaranteed my baby later in life won’t have any issues?

I don’t know why I can’t be rational about this - the only way the two questions above are 100% is if I don’t get the vaccine. But delta and covid scare the heck out of me. I wanted immediate vaccination after giving birth but not sure that waiting is smart.

Help me be rational (and yes I have healthy anxiety).

A doc on TV said it messes with placenta. Messed up my period. I sure wouldn't.

Signed
Vaccinated person

"A doc on tv" WHAT THE EFFFFFF.

OP, please talk through your fears with YOUR doctor. About what is best for YOU, the BABY and your family. That is the best person to work this through with.

I would encourage you to get vaccinated, but I am just a stranger on the internet. Please find reputable sources to get information from (not someone wearing a lab coat on tv during a paid appearance).

The vaccine is safe. Billions of people have been vaccinated. If there were issues, we would know about them by now.

Glad you responded to this. "A doc on tv"....what the effff, indeed.
I hope you choose to get the vaccine, OP.

[Anonymous]

I understand your concern, OP. I didn’t even take Tylenol when I was pregnant. That said, get the vaccine. The benefits outweigh any theoretical risk. I would be super stressed out about it - I would 100% suck it up and get the vaccine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I understand your concern, OP. I didn’t even take Tylenol when I was pregnant. That said, get the vaccine. The benefits outweigh any theoretical risk. I would be super stressed out about it - I would 100% suck it up and get the vaccine.

OP here this will be my anxiety showing but yes I don’t take anything besides prenatals, I force myself to eat well even in between throwing up in first trimester, I workout, I try everything that is in my control to affect the baby positively. Yes to the Tylenol but I don’t even take tums..

I do go indoor for appointments but wear double masks face shield and gloves and yes I look ridiculous and am still freaked out of the appointments.

My 3 year old will not be going to preschool or daycare or anything until baby is vaccinated (we have no plans on that front except he stays at home).

[Anonymous]

Oh OP. I went through a super anxious pregnancy last year. Every newspaper was carrying stories about women dying on ventilators, never meeting their babies. Babies dying and women waking up from medically induced comas, never knowing their babies has been born, and died, without them. Husbands and parents watching on FaceTime because they weren’t allowed to visit. It was my first baby and I cried weekly, just afraid.

You have never been told something has a 100% chance of not harming your baby. Not even when they gave you your Tdap booster in the third trimester, which they give you to protect your baby. You have always taken risks— and you have always measured costs and benefits. This is just one you didn’t expect to have to consider.

So, given the choice between going through my pregnancy with the fear of dying without meeting my daughter or being vaccinated at some potential risk to her, I would get vaccinated. I hope you do too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh OP. I went through a super anxious pregnancy last year. Every newspaper was carrying stories about women dying on ventilators, never meeting their babies. Babies dying and women waking up from medically induced comas, never knowing their babies has been born, and died, without them. Husbands and parents watching on FaceTime because they weren’t allowed to visit. It was my first baby and I cried weekly, just afraid.

You have never been told something has a 100% chance of not harming your baby. Not even when they gave you your Tdap booster in the third trimester, which they give you to protect your baby. You have always taken risks— and you have always measured costs and benefits. This is just one you didn’t expect to have to consider.

So, given the choice between going through my pregnancy with the fear of dying without meeting my daughter or being vaccinated at some potential risk to her, I would get vaccinated. I hope you do too.

Have you thought about how you might feel less anxious once you are vaccinated? Even if you have a few weeks of feeling anxious about the vaccination? You really need to do it for your children.

[Anonymous]

With delta and lambda here you need to get vaccinated. Covid will spread like it did in January among unvaccinated people. If/when you get Covid, there is a real chance it can hard your baby. Millions of pregnant women have gotten the vaccine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand your concern, OP. I didn’t even take Tylenol when I was pregnant. That said, get the vaccine. The benefits outweigh any theoretical risk. I would be super stressed out about it - I would 100% suck it up and get the vaccine.

OP here this will be my anxiety showing but yes I don’t take anything besides prenatals, I force myself to eat well even in between throwing up in first trimester, I workout, I try everything that is in my control to affect the baby positively. Yes to the Tylenol but I don’t even take tums..

I do go indoor for appointments but wear double masks face shield and gloves and yes I look ridiculous and am still freaked out of the appointments.

My 3 year old will not be going to preschool or daycare or anything until baby is vaccinated (we have no plans on that front except he stays at home).

When does it end though op? You need to get your anxiety in check now before baby comes. Are you never going to leave your house? This is not healthy for your kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh OP. I went through a super anxious pregnancy last year. Every newspaper was carrying stories about women dying on ventilators, never meeting their babies. Babies dying and women waking up from medically induced comas, never knowing their babies has been born, and died, without them. Husbands and parents watching on FaceTime because they weren’t allowed to visit. It was my first baby and I cried weekly, just afraid.

You have never been told something has a 100% chance of not harming your baby. Not even when they gave you your Tdap booster in the third trimester, which they give you to protect your baby. You have always taken risks— and you have always measured costs and benefits. This is just one you didn’t expect to have to consider.

So, given the choice between going through my pregnancy with the fear of dying without meeting my daughter or being vaccinated at some potential risk to her, I would get vaccinated. I hope you do too.

Have you thought about how you might feel less anxious once you are vaccinated? Even if you have a few weeks of feeling anxious about the vaccination? You really need to do it for your children.

I am the poster you quoted— I was fully vaccinated the second it was available to me, January ‘21

[Anonymous]

OP here thank you all also sharing with my husband and will talk to my OB more in depth, the rational side of me says get it even if in third trimester to be protected when fall starts and more doctor visits start.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand your concern, OP. I didn’t even take Tylenol when I was pregnant. That said, get the vaccine. The benefits outweigh any theoretical risk. I would be super stressed out about it - I would 100% suck it up and get the vaccine.

OP here this will be my anxiety showing but yes I don’t take anything besides prenatals, I force myself to eat well even in between throwing up in first trimester, I workout, I try everything that is in my control to affect the baby positively. Yes to the Tylenol but I don’t even take tums..

I do go indoor for appointments but wear double masks face shield and gloves and yes I look ridiculous and am still freaked out of the appointments.

My 3 year old will not be going to preschool or daycare or anything until baby is vaccinated (we have no plans on that front except he stays at home).

Do you plan to take the baby to the pediatrician? Will the pediatrician potentially see COVID positive children? What if your child needs to go to the ER?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand your concern, OP. I didn’t even take Tylenol when I was pregnant. That said, get the vaccine. The benefits outweigh any theoretical risk. I would be super stressed out about it - I would 100% suck it up and get the vaccine.

OP here this will be my anxiety showing but yes I don’t take anything besides prenatals, I force myself to eat well even in between throwing up in first trimester, I workout, I try everything that is in my control to affect the baby positively. Yes to the Tylenol but I don’t even take tums..

I do go indoor for appointments but wear double masks face shield and gloves and yes I look ridiculous and am still freaked out of the appointments.

My 3 year old will not be going to preschool or daycare or anything until baby is vaccinated (we have no plans on that front except he stays at home).

Do you plan to take the baby to the pediatrician? Will the pediatrician potentially see COVID positive children? What if your child needs to go to the ER?

This. If, god forbid, your newborn needs to be in NICU and you pick up covid from your hospital delivery, running errands, whatever, guess who will be separated from their infant indefinitely? I think managing your anxiety is 100 times more serious impact on your overall health then Covid would be at this point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I understand your concern, OP. I didn’t even take Tylenol when I was pregnant. That said, get the vaccine. The benefits outweigh any theoretical risk. I would be super stressed out about it - I would 100% suck it up and get the vaccine.

OP here this will be my anxiety showing but yes I don’t take anything besides prenatals, I force myself to eat well even in between throwing up in first trimester, I workout, I try everything that is in my control to affect the baby positively. Yes to the Tylenol but I don’t even take tums..

I do go indoor for appointments but wear double masks face shield and gloves and yes I look ridiculous and am still freaked out of the appointments.

My 3 year old will not be going to preschool or daycare or anything until baby is vaccinated (we have no plans on that front except he stays at home)

Vaccinated for what? Covid? That could be years before the baby is vaccinated against covid. And it seems like your health anxiety might affect that decision too.

If you’re talking about the normally recommended vaccines, they’re not completely done until about 18 months, and really not for several years. Is 3 year old going to be at home full time until kindergarten? I mean I guess it’s not the end of the world, but I feel a bit bad for your 3 year old that your anxiety is affecting them this way. Maybe time for some therapy? What does your husband think about the 3 yr old not going to pre-school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here thank you all also sharing with my husband and will talk to my OB more in depth, the rational side of me says get it even if in third trimester to be protected when fall starts and more doctor visits start.

OP, so glad to hear you're considering the vaccine. I totally understand your anxieties (I'm also a no Tylenol even for migraines JUST IN CASE kind of pregnant person lol) but I do think getting the vaccine while pregnant made me less anxious about COVID-19 at least. Talking to your OB and husband about your fears and anxieties will help, I hope. <3 Good luck and I hope your vaccination and delivery (in whatever order) go smoothly!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a lawyer have a healthy three year old and am 35. I am currently 18 weeks pregnant and not yet vaccinated and I cannot get over my irrational fear of the vaccine.


I work from home, kid stays at home, no family or friends near, and a small town with 2 cases in the last month and in a state with over 60% vaccinated.
I am self isolating still and only outings are hikes and empty playground and yard and maybe a curbside pickup for food. But I am miserable and lonely and I want my kiddo and husband to go out in the world after a year plus of this.

I am afraid of two things: if I get the vaccine, am I 100% guaranteed it won’t affect the baby (like cause a stroke or cleft lip or no arm or neurological issue anything)? if I get the vaccine, am I 100% guaranteed my baby later in life won’t have any issues?

I don’t know why I can’t be rational about this - the only way the two questions above are 100% is if I don’t get the vaccine. But delta and covid scare the heck out of me. I wanted immediate vaccination after giving birth but not sure that waiting is smart.

Help me be rational (and yes I have healthy anxiety).

How about you are an idiot and putting your child and fetus in harm's way. You should not be allowed to have children. Please give name of your firm so if I ever need a lawyer, I will not choose your firm.