Would you date outside of marriage w permission?

[Anonymous]

No. Between my wife, children, and job, have no room for more complications in my life.

[Anonymous]

No.

Even if you are morally ok with it, the time and logistics it takes to find a partner, meet up with them, the communication, nurturing that relationship (in whatever level), would take away SO much time and energy from your primary relationship and family

[Anonymous]

Zero desire. Married the love of my life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No.

Even if you are morally ok with it, the time and logistics it takes to find a partner, meet up with them, the communication, nurturing that relationship (in whatever level), would take away SO much time and energy from your primary relationship and family

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No.

Even if you are morally ok with it, the time and logistics it takes to find a partner, meet up with them, the communication, nurturing that relationship (in whatever level), would take away SO much time and energy from your primary relationship and family

+100

Agreed.

It seems like it’s so much easier to put in the emotional work for a good monogamous marriage than it is for a good open marriage. I have seen too many go to hell and I wouldn’t presume to think that I could do it while they couldn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No.

Even if you are morally ok with it, the time and logistics it takes to find a partner, meet up with them, the communication, nurturing that relationship (in whatever level), would take away SO much time and energy from your primary relationship and family

+100

Agreed.

It seems like it’s so much easier to put in the emotional work for a good monogamous marriage than it is for a good open marriage. I have seen too many go to hell and I wouldn’t presume to think that I could do it while they couldn’t.

+100. It’s like no one gets divorced but then you find yourself at a lawyer office saying the unthinkable

[Anonymous]

Wow! Is this for real? I mean DH and I have some leisure time right now. He is cooking. I am decluttering. And this is with a teenager in the house. So you have the time and energy to pursue a lesbian affair...in the pandemic...with a small kid...and housework...

More power to you!

I have always wondered who are the people who have affairs? Are they done first with everything that they need to do? I have been procrastinating with repotting some indoor plants since Feb 2020. I have expense reports to submit, 4 loads of laundry to do, plan a party in October, help my teen with the college process, trim my dog's nails, pluck my chin hair; then I look at my neighbors - they are doing yard work, taking their dogs for a walk, babysitting their grandkids, jogging, washing their cars, painting their garage door, mulching, power-blowing the dead cicadas...I mean who are the people who have the time to have affairs? WHO? WHO? WHOOOOOOO?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow! Is this for real? I mean DH and I have some leisure time right now. He is cooking. I am decluttering. And this is with a teenager in the house. So you have the time and energy to pursue a lesbian affair...in the pandemic...with a small kid...and housework...

More power to you!

I have always wondered who are the people who have affairs? Are they done first with everything that they need to do? I have been procrastinating with repotting some indoor plants since Feb 2020. I have expense reports to submit, 4 loads of laundry to do, plan a party in October, help my teen with the college process, trim my dog's nails, pluck my chin hair; then I look at my neighbors - they are doing yard work, taking their dogs for a walk, babysitting their grandkids, jogging, washing their cars, painting their garage door, mulching, power-blowing the dead cicadas...I mean who are the people who have the time to have affairs? WHO? WHO? WHOOOOOOO?

did you just say pluck your chin hairs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow! Is this for real? I mean DH and I have some leisure time right now. He is cooking. I am decluttering. And this is with a teenager in the house. So you have the time and energy to pursue a lesbian affair...in the pandemic...with a small kid...and housework...

More power to you!

I have always wondered who are the people who have affairs? Are they done first with everything that they need to do? I have been procrastinating with repotting some indoor plants since Feb 2020. I have expense reports to submit, 4 loads of laundry to do, plan a party in October, help my teen with the college process, trim my dog's nails, pluck my chin hair; then I look at my neighbors - they are doing yard work, taking their dogs for a walk, babysitting their grandkids, jogging, washing their cars, painting their garage door, mulching, power-blowing the dead cicadas...I mean who are the people who have the time to have affairs? WHO? WHO? WHOOOOOOO?

did you just say pluck your chin hairs?

DP. She did. Welcome to the real world. Needs an epilator. Buys some more time for for helping teen with the college process....

I totally agree with that post, though. I swear, the people who come on DCUM pondering affairs as if they can just waltz out the door and find an affair partner, and/or their spouse will be fine with "opening the marriage" etc., are either extremely unintelligent or extremely naive, or they're just here to troll. No time for that nonsense. I'm an empty nester with less to do that that very busy poster but I still don't have time for that nonsense.

[Anonymous]

lol why do these people even get married in the first place? If your spouse is not enough for you then I guess you married the wrong person. So sad

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:lol why do these people even get married in the first place? If your spouse is not enough for you then I guess you married the wrong person. So sad

I dunno about that. My spouse is the steak (best thing on the menu) but sometimes I wonder about trying the chicken. I miss experiencing someone new but I think there are a lot of practical considerations that would make that difficult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:lol why do these people even get married in the first place? If your spouse is not enough for you then I guess you married the wrong person. So sad

I dunno about that. My spouse is the steak (best thing on the menu) but sometimes I wonder about trying the chicken. I miss experiencing someone new but I think there are a lot of practical considerations that would make that difficult.

This. Do y’all have just one friend? Who fulfills all your friendship needs? For many people it’s the same with romantic/sexual/physical needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:lol why do these people even get married in the first place? If your spouse is not enough for you then I guess you married the wrong person. So sad

I dunno about that. My spouse is the steak (best thing on the menu) but sometimes I wonder about trying the chicken. I miss experiencing someone new but I think there are a lot of practical considerations that would make that difficult.

This. Do y’all have just one friend? Who fulfills all your friendship needs? For many people it’s the same with romantic/sexual/physical needs.

My husband has always filled all of my sexual needs. Still after 23 years. The more comfortable abs secure, the more intimate (and freaky I am). Never left me wanting anything more.