Would you date outside of marriage w permission?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP don't start that nonsense when you have a young child. Either get divorced, or stay with your husband. You chose to have a family, don't now decide to go down some dysfunctional path. It's not fair to your husband or daughter. Sadly, he is probably afraid you are going to divorce him, and why he brought up this option. Get some counseling.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have permission it is ok. However, for me it sounds exhausting to have a successful marriage and manage some relationship on the side.

I managed it quite well with little drama at all. I do remember buying two big arrangements of flowers on Valentines day the the lady at check out says, oh, you have two lovers? Must get expensive.

I told her, you have no idea.

Did you have young kids at the time? I hope not.

[Anonymous]

If you’re the slightest bit curious, plan a night out at an area couples club. These clubs allow for such exploration. Many couples with bi curious women frequent these places to satisfy that urge to experience the female touch. These clubs are female centric, safe and allow for couples to enjoy the experience together. Heck with tinder and other hook up apps, check out SLS, and make it a night to remember for you and DH.

[Anonymous]

No gay or bi heard but spouse is not managing his symptoms of some serious issues he has (similar to an alcoholic thinking he doesn’t have a problem nor cause any problems at home).
I would definitely like an open marriage. We have parallel lives right now and I do everything - work, kids, house, plans. If only the family court system wouldn’t give custody to a delusional abusive father, we’d be out.

[Anonymous]

Can I admit this just sounds exhausting to me? I've got so much already with work and my kids that the idea of going through dating just makes me tired. The advantage of being in a long term relation is you have someone who knows what you're into already.

[Anonymous]

You’ll fall in love with someone else and marriage will be over. If I were you husband I’d be consulting with a lawyer because that is the path you’re on.

[Anonymous]

Just to throw a new perspective, I am the husband and bi. Didn’t really know about the bi side until about 7 years into the marriage. It really caught me by surprise as I never had any feelings like that. Told my wife and she was cool with it. We have had some experiences together and it’s been toms of fun! Maybe it’s a lot easier to find a guy who is into NSA fun so “dating” isn’t exhausting or time consuming. It all depends on the situations that you agree to with your partner. We always do things together so there are no secrets. This life comes around only once and there is nothing at the end so try to live it the best you can. My wife and I wanted to be able look back 20 years from now and say that we didn’t hold back or live with regrets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP don't start that nonsense when you have a young child. Either get divorced, or stay with your husband. You chose to have a family, don't now decide to go down some dysfunctional path. It's not fair to your husband or daughter. Sadly, he is probably afraid you are going to divorce him, and why he brought up this option. Get some counseling.

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#1 I already feel sorry for their kid!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just to throw a new perspective, I am the husband and bi. Didn’t really know about the bi side until about 7 years into the marriage. It really caught me by surprise as I never had any feelings like that. Told my wife and she was cool with it. We have had some experiences together and it’s been toms of fun! Maybe it’s a lot easier to find a guy who is into NSA fun so “dating” isn’t exhausting or time consuming. It all depends on the situations that you agree to with your partner. We always do things together so there are no secrets. This life comes around only once and there is nothing at the end so try to live it the best you can. My wife and I wanted to be able look back 20 years from now and say that we didn’t hold back or live with regrets.

Do you think she will be around in 20 years ? That seems to be a big assumption given path you’ve chosen.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have permission it is ok. However, for me it sounds exhausting to have a successful marriage and manage some relationship on the side.

I managed it quite well with little drama at all. I do remember buying two big arrangements of flowers on Valentines day the the lady at check out says, oh, you have two lovers? Must get expensive.

I told her, you have no idea.

Did you have young kids at the time? I hope not.

NP: we recently opened our marriage. Our youngest is 7. So what?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

You’ll fall in love with someone else and marriage will be over. If I were you husband I’d be consulting with a lawyer because that is the path you’re on.

Yes! That and protecting my child's interests. Don't commit to a marriage and having a child only to decide later to embark on a deviant lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

he is already dating other people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP don't start that nonsense when you have a young child. Either get divorced, or stay with your husband. You chose to have a family, don't now decide to go down some dysfunctional path. It's not fair to your husband or daughter. Sadly, he is probably afraid you are going to divorce him, and why he brought up this option. Get some counseling.

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#1 I already feel sorry for their kid!

Dysfunction galore

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[Anonymous]

Instead of saying dating, cut to the chase and say sleeping with another person…