How smart are your children compared to you and your wife/husband

[Anonymous]

Only on DCUM is this a question. UGH

[Anonymous]

My husband and I have never had IQ tests and we haven't tested our daughter, who is 2. How and when do people get tested?

I went to Columbia and husband went to Harvard. We both got good grades, have good jobs, and are able to function well in society, so I assume we are somewhere in the middle range. My daughter is probably somewhere around us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a serious question, not meant as snark: how do so many people know their children’s IQs? I grew up with lots of smart, bright kids who have done well for themselves professionally but only one kid that I know, who was uniquely and incredibly gifted, was ever tested. Is it more common to test now? At what age are kids getting tested?

At five for private school. Pretty common requirement for most private schools in this country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a serious question, not meant as snark: how do so many people know their children’s IQs? I grew up with lots of smart, bright kids who have done well for themselves professionally but only one kid that I know, who was uniquely and incredibly gifted, was ever tested. Is it more common to test now? At what age are kids getting tested?

Testing for admission to advanced school programs

So people are trying to get their kids into these schools and IQ is part of the application. Gotcha.

[Anonymous]

It’s not in the genes. Both of my parents went to Ivy League skills. I went to one year of junior college and did horrible in school. I have ADHD, but when I was a kid, nobody knew what that was. I had a million friends growing up, played sports, have my my own business, but book smart I was not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you think your choice is spouse affected how intelligent or smart your children are?

I’m smarter than my DH, but our 3 kids (adults) are smarter than both of us. Nice how that worked out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is a serious question, not meant as snark: how do so many people know their children’s IQs? I grew up with lots of smart, bright kids who have done well for themselves professionally but only one kid that I know, who was uniquely and incredibly gifted, was ever tested. Is it more common to test now? At what age are kids getting tested?

At five for private school. Pretty common requirement for most private schools in this country.

Pp. That makes sense as to why I’m so unfamiliar. I grew up in an area with only public schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I have never had IQ tests and we haven't tested our daughter, who is 2. How and when do people get tested?

I went to Columbia and husband went to Harvard. We both got good grades, have good jobs, and are able to function well in society, so I assume we are somewhere in the middle range. My daughter is probably somewhere around us.

Lol no people who can get good grades at Columbia and Harvard are not in the middle range. You’re in a bubble. I mean, you might be in the middle range if your bubble but not compared to all human beings.

[Anonymous]

I was GT as a kid and tested above 130 IQ. But I’m the first to tell you it doesn’t translate to success really, I’m currently a SAHM. My DH is one of the smartest guys I know but his EQ is lower. I don’t know what his IQ is because he never got tested but professionally he does very well. So far we have 3 kids who seem bright but nothing genius level. Only 1 has been tested though because of ADHD and ASD and her IQ came out pretty average but she also couldn’t sit still during the test. And she’s the one people are always saying is super smart because she’s always reading. We have 1 who is adopted and he seems smart enough to me. In the end I just want them to be good humans, hard workers and have good relationships.

[Anonymous]

DH Uber smart incredible memory capacity. I was book smart (skipped grade) so Inwoikd but us just past the bell curve. 3 DC and they are all over the place. 1 with LD but manages really well in spite of it
1 smart but unmotivated for academics
1 in scholars program

So we have a bell curve.

[Anonymous]

Adopted newborn. She is now 7.... and MUCH smarter than me.

[Anonymous]

My IQ was tested as a child a few times (something they did back then) and I always scored in the low 140s. My one sister scored similarly and the other in the 120s. My children have different bio dads. I’d guess bio dad 1 has an IQ in the 130-140 range and I believe that DD1 is roughly as smart as I am, possibly smarter. Bio dad 2 I’d guess to have an IQ in the 110-120s. DD2 appears to have an IQ that is fairly average (maybe 110, this is a guess, but I tend to guess these things well. DS is still young, but appears to have an IQ closer to DD1, although they have different fathers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not in the genes. Both of my parents went to Ivy League skills. I went to one year of junior college and did horrible in school. I have ADHD, but when I was a kid, nobody knew what that was. I had a million friends growing up, played sports, have my my own business, but book smart I was not.

Genes x environment

Genes determine your IQ potential. The nature of the environment, including prenatal and postnatal insults that harm the brain (stress, infections), nutrition, parental nurturing, etc, all play a role in ultimate IQ. IQ is a polygenic trait (determined by multiple genes), and high IQ parents aren't guaranteed to have high IQ kids because those kids may have gotten recessive genes, or they may have failed to develop to their full potential due to environmental factors. The reverse is also true: a dumb parent can have smart kids, though it's less likely because dumb parents don't often raise their kids in a brain nurturing way.

[Anonymous]

DC is smarter than I was relative to reading writing comprehension. DC reads faster than I do. I sat next to them during some ACT prep. I’d have to go back to the passage. DC retained and comprehended so much faster. DC also got DHs genes with Math. So altogether DC is smarter than both of us.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I do. I am very average. Usually scored between 50 and 85th percentile on standardized tests when growing up. DH is very intelligent and was identified as gifted. Both of our daughters are smart - usually scoring in 98-99 percentile on standardized tests. So, yeah. I think they benefited from me marrying someone smarter than I am.