Do athletic women find men attractive? What about unathletic men?

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Anonymous wrote:Great thread but hiking? That would be a full stop for me if would be partner hiked.

I have to agree with this. Hiking does not indicate athleticism or fitness to me, it indicates boredom and lack of imagination.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m an athletic female, 30s. I find normal-athletic men attractive. I do not find it attractive if you look like you power lift 2 hrs per day. That is a no for me. But if you are a heathy weight with toned muscles that appear to get some regular use through sports/work/gym in reasonable intervals, that is attractive. Taking care of yourself is attractive but being obsessed with looks and muscle bulk is not attractive

yes! I'm a fit female and have had boyfriends who were obsessed with getting huge and working out -- i really did not like the result. he was a controlling person and got very aggressive right after workouts. when we broke up he flexed his biceps and said "say goodbye to these!" i think obsessive weight lifting for men is the equivalent of anorexia in women... need for control.

OMG. Did you fall on the floor laughing at him? I would have. How absurd.

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Anonymous wrote:Great thread but hiking? That would be a full stop for me if would be partner hiked.

I have to agree with this. Hiking does not indicate athleticism or fitness to me, it indicates boredom and lack of imagination.

Lmao

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I am fit/athletic and my DH is not into fitness at all. He'll lift occasionally but never sticks with it and is flabby/skinny fat.

Doesn't bother me or affect my attraction to him, but if we were to split I would definitely look for someone who is at least more into an active lifestyle so we could do more things together.

Although on the other hand I wouldn't want someone that was fitness obsessed because I don't want competing work out schedules/training etc.

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I know a lot of older guys who want to date physically active women, but they are hard to find in their age group. (I am not super active, but am trying to set my guy friends up with women who are...)

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I’m a very athletic woman happily married to a less athletic man. I tend towards exercise obsession and know that’s not healthy, so having a partner who doesn’t fuel that habit has been helpful. He’s still active and supports my physical activity, which is enough for me. I also think it’s good for our kids to see different ways of being around physical fitness. We encourage them to be active (walking to school, swim team in summer) but I don’t want them to feel like they MUST be super into sports and fitness.

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We are both very athletic when me got married, but over the years DH on weight and slowly lost interest in many of the things we used to do. Now he is 50+ lbs overweight. I find it disgusting but he perfect in every other way. I kind of became blind to his weight but it does make me sad when I think about it.

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We know a lady that has been running for years around our neighborhood. Something I've noticed with her and bicyclists, tennis players, etc. They are probably fit but often very wrinkled. Skin cancer is not uncommon either especially in the south or west. As people age it's always going to be difficult athlete or not.

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Anonymous wrote:We know a lady that has been running for years around our neighborhood. Something I've noticed with her and bicyclists, tennis players, etc. They are probably fit but often very wrinkled. Skin cancer is not uncommon either especially in the south or west. As people age it's always going to be difficult athlete or not.

So - better not to exercise??

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Anonymous wrote:I'm married female who works out about 1.5-2 hours per day. If I was ever single again, then the guy would need to be at least moderately active. He wouldn't have to match my level of fitness, but he would at least need to do some moderate exercise and eat a somewhat healthy diet. I'm not a health zealot like I used to be, and now I splurge on higher calorie/fat meals too. I love good food and could never go back to totally clean eating all the time.

My husband and I are both very athletic. Since we met in our 20s we always worked out 5-6 days a week and 22 years later still do. We work out together most of the time.

It’s part of a healthy life, like brushing your teeth.

I can’t imagine being married to someone that didn’t share the importance of exercise. It’s good for you mentally and physically. Your kids will pick up the habit and being active as a family is the best.

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Anonymous wrote:Great thread but hiking? That would be a full stop for me if would be partner hiked.

I have to agree with this. Hiking does not indicate athleticism or fitness to me, it indicates boredom and lack of imagination.

So what’s “creative” fitness then? I’m scratching my head on this one….

Hiking is my go-to first date because it is so challenging. I take guys to one of my favorite mountains and up we go. Always fun to watch them struggle….even the fit ones. Those biceps curls won’t do you any good here, bro…

Only one man was ever able to keep up with me. I miss him, sigh.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Great thread but hiking? That would be a full stop for me if would be partner hiked.

I have to agree with this. Hiking does not indicate athleticism or fitness to me, it indicates boredom and lack of imagination.

So what’s “creative” fitness then? I’m scratching my head on this one….

Hiking is my go-to first date because it is so challenging. I take guys to one of my favorite mountains and up we go. Always fun to watch them struggle….even the fit ones. Those biceps curls won’t do you any good here, bro…

Only one man was ever able to keep up with me. I miss him, sigh.

Yeah this anti- hiking person has held on to some weird high-school level idea of cool. These kind of ideas are what makes our society think fitness is a “cool/higher income” thing rather than allowing it to be woven into our lives. It gatekeeps fitness so that the poster can feel above and special.

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Hiking is my happy place. I did a 14er in Colorado near Leadville that was pretty challenging. As it happened, after the hike, I came into Leadville just after the real fitness maniacs had completed the Leadville 100. So, yeah, on that scale, my hiking didn't amount to much. But I was still pretty happy with myself.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Great thread but hiking? That would be a full stop for me if would be partner hiked.

I have to agree with this. Hiking does not indicate athleticism or fitness to me, it indicates boredom and lack of imagination.

So what’s “creative” fitness then? I’m scratching my head on this one….

Hiking is my go-to first date because it is so challenging. I take guys to one of my favorite mountains and up we go. Always fun to watch them struggle….even the fit ones. Those biceps curls won’t do you any good here, bro…

Only one man was ever able to keep up with me. I miss him, sigh.

What a ridiculous thing to say.

It's like saying, "as a guy, I like bringing my girlfriends to the deadlift platform and watch them struggle to get my warm-up weight up off the ground. It's always fun to watch, even the fit women."