What attributes would your ideal wife have?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:- strong leader in career, preferably manager or partner at a top firm
- >200k income
- ivy league degree, preferably grad school
- confident, self-starter, takes control of situations
- high IQ, I like to have intelligent conversations
- doesn't like pedestrian things such as Marvel movies (yuck!), fast food or basic fashion such as GAP
- basically just an elevated, educated, independent, strong, confident domineering woman, yes please!

The woman you describe sure as hell doesn’t need a man

Not going to last

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Low drama and self-sufficient. I don’t really care if she is financially self-sufficient, that’s not my concern and I wouldn’t mind a full time mom. But, if there are things that are on her plate (we divide things up and she is supposed to gets the taxes together or call a plumber) she does it without bothering me. I will handle the things I’m supposed to do without bothering her. Basically, I want to be married to another grownup.

Np Define "bother". Does it mean not discussing the problem? If so, than you are not ideal at all. I have no problem calling a plumber etc but, nice to talk it over with spouse!

I'm a woman married to a man, but for me for a spouse it means not having to handhold my DH through the whole thing:

"Who should I call"? I don't know, do some research.
"When should he come?" Again, you're handling it -- your schedule. Check the family calendar for any major conflicts.
"He came and he told me this -- does that sound right to you?" I don't know, use your critical thinking skills. I don't know any more about it than you.
"Is this what it should cost?" Ask around, I don't know.

There have been tasks where my DH asks me questions every step of the way so that I think I should have just handled it myself. Sure, if there's a major issue or something tricky, I'm happy to talk it over, but when he doesn't want to do something, he just acts helpless like a robot with no brain where I control all his movements. Take ownership of the task!

Ha! It reminds me of that song, "Dear Liza." I always thought that was just a silly song until I got married.

Reminds me of my husband, except he asks the vendor his stupid questions and the price doubles and triples. Husband doesn’t want to deal with life so pays whatever. Over and over. Pissing away money by being lazy and uncommunicative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:- strong leader in career, preferably manager or partner at a top firm
- >200k income
- ivy league degree, preferably grad school
- confident, self-starter, takes control of situations
- high IQ, I like to have intelligent conversations
- doesn't like pedestrian things such as Marvel movies (yuck!), fast food or basic fashion such as GAP
- basically just an elevated, educated, independent, strong, confident domineering woman, yes please!

The woman you describe sure as hell doesn’t need a man

No kidding, what exactly does the author bring to the table?

Also noticed no values or family goals were listed for spouse or about author... hmmm...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Here lies the problem with these lists- men say they want a drama free, self sufficient woman. But these the hot/crazy ratio (the hotter a woman is the crazier she can get away with being) is a real thing. All of these logical wants go out the window for a beautiful woman- she can be crazy, helpless and worthless and her looks make up for that.

And in my experience I’ve found that men can feel very emasculated by a competent woman. Men need to be needed, just like women do. And when you have a woman who can basically do any of the traditionally male tasks what’s left for the man?

My DH is emasculated when I do something as simple as assemble an IKEA bookshelf, paint a wall or the drive my manual transmission car. He says to hire people to do x, y, z but is rejects everything based on estimates. It is a no win situation.

My spouse was like this because he thought socially he is supposed to be mowing the lawn, fixing the sink, taking the car in.
But over the years it was apparent to both of us that he never even ID’s broken stuff or things in need of repair or maintenance. It piled up due to him not wanting to be emasculated. But then we needed a home appraisal and paid through the nose for 20 hours of work that I didn’t have time to do while working, homeschooling, and living.
Now we’re back to steady state where I do everything and he doesn’t even notice cars get oil changes, grills get cleaned, grass gets cut, paint touch ups appear, screens come on/off seasonally, the roof was replaced in a 3 bid process, snow is shoveled, leaky toilets fixed. No emasculation since he doesn’t even care or notice! What a “man”!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here lies the problem with these lists- men say they want a drama free, self sufficient woman. But these the hot/crazy ratio (the hotter a woman is the crazier she can get away with being) is a real thing. All of these logical wants go out the window for a beautiful woman- she can be crazy, helpless and worthless and her looks make up for that.

And in my experience I’ve found that men can feel very emasculated by a competent woman. Men need to be needed, just like women do. And when you have a woman who can basically do any of the traditionally male tasks what’s left for the man?

The rat traps, dude. I am competent in lots of areas, all most all areas. But NO WAY IN HELL am I dealing with rodents or dead animals in the yard. And car stuff. I can go the the fix it guys and I can inflate my tires, but I so much prefer my DH to do that if it is possible. But I'll repeat, animals in the house, animal traps, animals in the yard (dead or alive) are DH's area. I NEED him to do those things. I become a stupid mess in the face of little mice.

Well, I can’t deal with it. I’m deployed. I called an exterminator and he’s set traps and bait stations. Stop calling me every time you hear a mouse. What am I supposed to do? Get on a plane and fly to set all the traps myself? Stop with the drama already. Also, it would help if you would clean up and not provide food and water resources to the little critters. But it’s “your house” and you should be able to store food as you see fit!”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here lies the problem with these lists- men say they want a drama free, self sufficient woman. But these the hot/crazy ratio (the hotter a woman is the crazier she can get away with being) is a real thing. All of these logical wants go out the window for a beautiful woman- she can be crazy, helpless and worthless and her looks make up for that.

And in my experience I’ve found that men can feel very emasculated by a competent woman. Men need to be needed, just like women do. And when you have a woman who can basically do any of the traditionally male tasks what’s left for the man?

The rat traps, dude. I am competent in lots of areas, all most all areas. But NO WAY IN HELL am I dealing with rodents or dead animals in the yard. And car stuff. I can go the the fix it guys and I can inflate my tires, but I so much prefer my DH to do that if it is possible. But I'll repeat, animals in the house, animal traps, animals in the yard (dead or alive) are DH's area. I NEED him to do those things. I become a stupid mess in the face of little mice.

Well, I can’t deal with it. I’m deployed. I called an exterminator and he’s set traps and bait stations. Stop calling me every time you hear a mouse. What am I supposed to do? Get on a plane and fly to set all the traps myself? Stop with the drama already. Also, it would help if you would clean up and not provide food and water resources to the little critters. But it’s “your house” and you should be able to store food as you see fit!”

Somebody asked what one might need a DH to do. That's what I need. That's my drama! I don't like rodents!!

[Anonymous]

Removable teeth

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Removable teeth

and no gag reflex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In Texas they say “a grandma in the kitchen, a wh0re in the bedroom”.

I’m in my 49th year of living in Texas. I’ve never heard that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:- strong leader in career, preferably manager or partner at a top firm
- >200k income
- ivy league degree, preferably grad school
- confident, self-starter, takes control of situations
- high IQ, I like to have intelligent conversations
- doesn't like pedestrian things such as Marvel movies (yuck!), fast food or basic fashion such as GAP
- basically just an elevated, educated, independent, strong, confident domineering woman, yes please!

The woman you describe sure as hell doesn’t need a man

No kidding, what exactly does the author bring to the table?

Also noticed no values or family goals were listed for spouse or about author... hmmm...

It was a joke guys. I was trying to list all the attributes that normal men don't care about at all. Sarcasm seems to always be lost on this forum

[Anonymous]

Those women exist, especially in wash DC. Many are excellent mothers as well and have their priorities straight as well (family, then work). Just happen to be good at both.

[Anonymous]

Should be able to use a wrench to fix a leaky faucet when I’m not available... or pay someone to do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not fat. Sex positive.
That is all.

Excellent. So she can be bald and have no teeth. She can also believe 2+2 = 5. I have a few people you may want to meet.

LOL

I’m just glad I’m not the only person that immediately thought the bolded. Bald, stupid and gummy for the win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In Texas they say “a grandma in the kitchen, a wh0re in the bedroom”.

I’m in my 49th year of living in Texas. I’ve never heard that.

If you're living in Texas why are you on a DC forum?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:- strong leader in career, preferably manager or partner at a top firm
- >200k income
- ivy league degree, preferably grad school
- confident, self-starter, takes control of situations
- high IQ, I like to have intelligent conversations
- doesn't like pedestrian things such as Marvel movies (yuck!), fast food or basic fashion such as GAP
- basically just an elevated, educated, independent, strong, confident domineering woman, yes please!

The woman you describe sure as hell doesn’t need a man

No kidding, what exactly does the author bring to the table?

Also noticed no values or family goals were listed for spouse or about author... hmmm...

It was a joke guys. I was trying to list all the attributes that normal men don't care about at all. Sarcasm seems to always be lost on this forum

Yes, because it's SO easy to read your post as sarcasm. How about you learn HOW to write sarcasm.