What attributes would your ideal wife have?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Should also be able to run a lawn mower without complaining, handle basic household repairs when I’m not around to do them and set a rat trap without drama. You’re not a princess. You can do it!

I can do plenty but if I am setting rat traps we had better be moving, and soon. Rat traps, that is where I draw the line brother.

Ha! Same here. The line is right there between the mouse trap and the rat trap.

A rat trap? Oh hell no. I’d fire bomb the house

[Anonymous]

22 Years old.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Low drama and self-sufficient. I don’t really care if she is financially self-sufficient, that’s not my concern and I wouldn’t mind a full time mom. But, if there are things that are on her plate (we divide things up and she is supposed to gets the taxes together or call a plumber) she does it without bothering me. I will handle the things I’m supposed to do without bothering her. Basically, I want to be married to another grownup.

Np Define "bother". Does it mean not discussing the problem? If so, than you are not ideal at all. I have no problem calling a plumber etc but, nice to talk it over with spouse!

I'm a woman married to a man, but for me for a spouse it means not having to handhold my DH through the whole thing:

"Who should I call"? I don't know, do some research.
"When should he come?" Again, you're handling it -- your schedule. Check the family calendar for any major conflicts.
"He came and he told me this -- does that sound right to you?" I don't know, use your critical thinking skills. I don't know any more about it than you.
"Is this what it should cost?" Ask around, I don't know.

There have been tasks where my DH asks me questions every step of the way so that I think I should have just handled it myself. Sure, if there's a major issue or something tricky, I'm happy to talk it over, but when he doesn't want to do something, he just acts helpless like a robot with no brain where I control all his movements. Take ownership of the task!

Ha! It reminds me of that song, "Dear Liza." I always thought that was just a silly song until I got married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:- strong leader in career, preferably manager or partner at a top firm
- >200k income
- ivy league degree, preferably grad school
- confident, self-starter, takes control of situations
- high IQ, I like to have intelligent conversations
- doesn't like pedestrian things such as Marvel movies (yuck!), fast food or basic fashion such as GAP
- basically just an elevated, educated, independent, strong, confident domineering woman, yes please!

The woman you describe sure as hell doesn’t need a man

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Should also be able to run a lawn mower without complaining, handle basic household repairs when I’m not around to do them and set a rat trap without drama. You’re not a princess. You can do it!

I can do plenty but if I am setting rat traps we had better be moving, and soon. Rat traps, that is where I draw the line brother.

Amen sister!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:- strong leader in career, preferably manager or partner at a top firm
- >200k income
- ivy league degree, preferably grad school
- confident, self-starter, takes control of situations
- high IQ, I like to have intelligent conversations
- doesn't like pedestrian things such as Marvel movies (yuck!), fast food or basic fashion such as GAP
- basically just an elevated, educated, independent, strong, confident domineering woman, yes please!

My only criteria is that they aren't impressed by ivy league degrees. That pretty much guarantees they are a smart person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:- a real, paying career
- funny
- laid back
- open minded
- general concern for her appearance, without always dieting or being controlling with food/sugar/carbs
- wants to spend time together
- a good mom, but not to the detriment of everything else

How do you know this prior to marriage?

[Anonymous]

Not fat. Sex positive.
That is all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here lies the problem with these lists- men say they want a drama free, self sufficient woman. But these the hot/crazy ratio (the hotter a woman is the crazier she can get away with being) is a real thing. All of these logical wants go out the window for a beautiful woman- she can be crazy, helpless and worthless and her looks make up for that.

And in my experience I’ve found that men can feel very emasculated by a competent woman. Men need to be needed, just like women do. And when you have a woman who can basically do any of the traditionally male tasks what’s left for the man?

My DH is emasculated when I do something as simple as assemble an IKEA bookshelf, paint a wall or the drive my manual transmission car. He says to hire people to do x, y, z but is rejects everything based on estimates. It is a no win situation.

[Anonymous]

Nobody is perfect but my wife is sure awesome:

- I know that this isn’t supposed to be about the physical but being attracted to my wife is important to me. She’s crazy fit- not for me but because she enjoys being fit. She looks amazing.
- She’s been through what I’ve been through. We both grew up in poor families, were the first generation of our families to go to college, put ourselves through school and went on to have great careers. This provides a lot of lot of realistic perspective.
- She’s the most driven person I know but will never put her success on display. Even though shes earned 7 figures the last number of years running and aside from that career has built a rental property business, you’d never know it even if you asked. She’s just as at home in a manual transmission jeep with our dog riding shotgun as she is meeting with C-level execs.
- Lastly, shes a great parent. She can be a bit intense sometimes but she recognizes when she does.

Honestly, I feel very lucky to have spent my life with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:- strong leader in career, preferably manager or partner at a top firm
- >200k income
- ivy league degree, preferably grad school
- confident, self-starter, takes control of situations
- high IQ, I like to have intelligent conversations
- doesn't like pedestrian things such as Marvel movies (yuck!), fast food or basic fashion such as GAP
- basically just an elevated, educated, independent, strong, confident domineering woman, yes please!

Two of my wife's siblings have Ivy degrees. They are both dumber than a box of rocks and narcissists. They can give dates of historical and regurgitate information they read once upon a time. They can't come up with an original thought or logically evaluate problems/strategies. They can't adjust to anything that isn't in their plan. DW doesn't have a degree from anywhere, kills them in any knowledge based game, understands what being a good person is and far out earns them.

Take DW over a score sheet any day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:- strong leader in career, preferably manager or partner at a top firm
- >200k income
- ivy league degree, preferably grad school
- confident, self-starter, takes control of situations
- high IQ, I like to have intelligent conversations
- doesn't like pedestrian things such as Marvel movies (yuck!), fast food or basic fashion such as GAP
- basically just an elevated, educated, independent, strong, confident domineering woman, yes please!

Two of my wife's siblings have Ivy degrees. They are both dumber than a box of rocks and narcissists. They can give dates of historical and regurgitate information they read once upon a time. They can't come up with an original thought or logically evaluate problems/strategies. They can't adjust to anything that isn't in their plan. DW doesn't have a degree from anywhere, kills them in any knowledge based game, understands what being a good person is and far out earns them.

Take DW over a score sheet any day.

I think that Ivy degrees are more important to men who have Ivy degrees themselves. Or women, I think women love men with Ivy degrees. Its fun to tell your friends he went to Harvard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not fat. Sex positive.
That is all.

Excellent. So she can be bald and have no teeth. She can also believe 2+2 = 5. I have a few people you may want to meet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:- strong leader in career, preferably manager or partner at a top firm
- >200k income
- ivy league degree, preferably grad school
- confident, self-starter, takes control of situations
- high IQ, I like to have intelligent conversations
- doesn't like pedestrian things such as Marvel movies (yuck!), fast food or basic fashion such as GAP
- basically just an elevated, educated, independent, strong, confident domineering woman, yes please!

Two of my wife's siblings have Ivy degrees. They are both dumber than a box of rocks and narcissists. They can give dates of historical and regurgitate information they read once upon a time. They can't come up with an original thought or logically evaluate problems/strategies. They can't adjust to anything that isn't in their plan. DW doesn't have a degree from anywhere, kills them in any knowledge based game, understands what being a good person is and far out earns them.

Take DW over a score sheet any day.

College degrees don't make a person smart. It just means they are good at school. I went to a decent college and graduated with a 3.0. Every single career I've had since college I have done excelled at. Just recently I acquired a business that grossed $1.8m. The following year it grossed $2.4m. Even in 2020 during COVID-19 it grossed $1.4m. 40+ employees. I just sold it for a net profit of $500k in March.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A penis

You beat me to it.