Longest you’ve gone without sex in marriage

[Anonymous]

Wife here. It’s been 18+ months. Husband won’t come to bed with me, ever. Stays up by himself until 2am. I’ve asked him many times and mentioned the lack of sex many times. I wonder if he thinks we will actually stay married after the kids are gone. If he were a boyfriend I’d 100% break up with him because what’s the point?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:4 weeks or so. We are pretty open with each other. So when we’ve had dry spells (and we’ve had a couple since Covid started) one of us will say “hey we’ve been having a dry spell. What’s up? Should we make a plan to do it?” And talk out any issues

Sounds romantic.

Sounds like grown ups.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wife here. It’s been 18+ months. Husband won’t come to bed with me, ever. Stays up by himself until 2am. I’ve asked him many times and mentioned the lack of sex many times. I wonder if he thinks we will actually stay married after the kids are gone. If he were a boyfriend I’d 100% break up with him because what’s the point?

Another DW. Six months, not due to medical issues. I do not plan to have sex this year. I used to be the asking party like you but no longer feel any other attraction. I think low-libido people do not realize that sex is a skill like any other. Would you choose a lawyer who argues cases in court every week or one who parachutes in 4-6 times max in a year? Fumbling stays fumbling if you rarely practice.

[Anonymous]

Five months. We were basically newlyweds, but I was deployed. That was awful. We met in Europe on the way home (hence 5 months, not 6) and went at it like jackrabbits for a week.

[Anonymous]

I am DH. It is approaching 8 months for medical reasons. I am probably done with sex -- medical. Too much pain from tumors pressing against nerves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At least a month at as time. Sadly, We have no interest in each other anymore. I’ve been married 15 yrs with 3 kids. Not looking forward to a future of this.

So change it. I got heaps of sex after the divorce

[Anonymous]

About 6 weeks due to recovery from a surgery.

[Anonymous]

About 6 weeks when dc was born. About two weeks sfter a surgery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:4 weeks or so. We are pretty open with each other. So when we’ve had dry spells (and we’ve had a couple since Covid started) one of us will say “hey we’ve been having a dry spell. What’s up? Should we make a plan to do it?” And talk out any issues

Sounds romantic.

Sounds like grown ups.

+1

Sheesh if you expect to naturally be in sync for thirty years without communicating you’re setting yourself up for disappointment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wife here. It’s been 18+ months. Husband won’t come to bed with me, ever. Stays up by himself until 2am. I’ve asked him many times and mentioned the lack of sex many times. I wonder if he thinks we will actually stay married after the kids are gone. If he were a boyfriend I’d 100% break up with him because what’s the point?

Another DW. Six months, not due to medical issues. I do not plan to have sex this year. I used to be the asking party like you but no longer feel any other attraction. I think low-libido people do not realize that sex is a skill like any other. Would you choose a lawyer who argues cases in court every week or one who parachutes in 4-6 times max in a year? Fumbling stays fumbling if you rarely practice.

Or maybe low libido people just don’t like sex. But yeah maybe their partners are low-skill and they have just never had awesome sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am DH. It is approaching 8 months for medical reasons. I am probably done with sex -- medical. Too much pain from tumors pressing against nerves.

I’m sorry PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You do realize men complaining about infrequency of sex is incel behavior, right?

Not sure what "incel behavior" is, but pretty sure most men would prefer frequent sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not married, but curious. Longest I’ve gone in relationship was two weeks.

Ha! Once you have kids it's a whole new ballgame. Every time we try, a kid opens the door. So frustrating.

Lock it?

We obviously do! But the locks have that hole were you can stick something in it to open and the littlest pries it open.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not married, but curious. Longest I’ve gone in relationship was two weeks.

Ha! Once you have kids it's a whole new ballgame. Every time we try, a kid opens the door. So frustrating.

Lock the door, do it when they are asleep. If you want it, you find a way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not married, but curious. Longest I’ve gone in relationship was two weeks.

Ha! Once you have kids it's a whole new ballgame. Every time we try, a kid opens the door. So frustrating.

Lock it?

We obviously do! But the locks have that hole were you can stick something in it to open and the littlest pries it open.

Invest in a new lock for your sex life. Geez this is sad