No romantic partner overnights with kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are your thoughts about the morality clause in some divorce decrees that say no romantic partners can stay overnight when you have the kids? Assuming it's very vague with no times (what is an overnight?) or defining language about future marriages (as in, if you get married only then can you have the kids overnight with a 'romantic partner'.)

And does it mess up the ability to travel with the dating partner? Like say you want to go skiiing and stay in house all together with both sets of kids? Assuming this is a LTR.

My question for you - why are you negotiating a divorce decree now when you are already planning your ski trips with your affair partner and her kids? You sound kind of slimy.

I am divorced. I am a woman. We don't have this clause in my divorce.

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[Anonymous]

My acquaintance’s divorce was just finalized 5 years after filing. My brother’s took about two years. My brother had an affair and by the time he was divorced his AP was his fiancé and about to give birth. The morality clause in his divorce prohibited him from introducing his son to his soon to be step mother until the divorce was final. Luckily his son received it all well, but I remember thinking that must have been pretty confusing / disorienting.

[Anonymous]

Ugh. Wish my parents had a morality clause in their divorce decree. Dad would take us (ES and MS kids) to the arcade about a mile or two from his apartment and leave us there with a roll of quarters while he went home. When we'd walk back dad's girlfriend would always be there. it sucked big time as dad would bail on his weekends all.the.time. So when he actually bothered to get us, we'd be all excited to be with him, but instead it would be all about the girlfriend. Nothing changed after they married BTW, but the resentment we felt against him started when he was dating.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriends exw wanted this in their decree but he told her ok then he’d just get married. She dropped it.