Di you think I offended DIL?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Tell me I’m being irrational, because I can’t stop ruminating over something that happened between my DIL and myself. I’d say every other Monday I offer to watch my grandsons so my DIL and/or son can get some things done. I don’t see anyone or go anywhere at all and I wear a mask, so I still get to enjoy my grandsons safely, and my son and DIL enjoy a little free time. I got in contact with DIL and told her I could come Monday, and asked her to let me know a good time, and she said she would. Soon thereafter, I remembered I had a delivery coming Monday at noon so I quickly texted back that I couldn’t come until after 1. After that I never heard from DIL and Monday has come and gone. I can’t help thinking that I said something or did something wrong. Why would she just completely brush me off like that?

You did nothing wrong. Just text on Monday again. You are a great grandmother!

+1

+2 And she may have just presumed you were coming after 1...then realized later that you thought she would confirm so now she's not sure what to do. Proceed as normal for this upcoming Monday. Maybe include something like "I can't wait to see Larlo and Laslo this week after my delivery last week messed everything up!"

[Anonymous]

You sound so kind and lovely. You obviously care deeply about all of them. I’m sure she was just busy & time got away from her. Definitely reach out again next Monday.

[Anonymous]

I wish I had a mom like you. You did nothing wrong. Let it go and keep offering.

[Anonymous]

You sound like an amazing MIL and grandma!

I’d guess DIL just forgot, or assumed you’d be coming after 1.

I would not think much of this at all!

[Anonymous]

I agree with folks who say just start a group text with both son and DIL, say hi guys, sorry the package through a wrench in my offer last week but opportunity still on the table if you'd like free time this week.

It's also possible the house was a mess -- mine always is -- or they have covid concerns -- we do with my inlaws who believe they dont go anywhere and have brought debilitating illness into our house in the past without telling us they were sick.

Also, I may have thought the package issue just meant that particular Monday was no longer good -- or if the new timeframes didnt work on my end, that no response was needed. Agree it's always better to close the loop and do a group text including your own child. I am able to be more direct with my own folks than inlaws.