rejection from other parents/caretakers

[Anonymous]

Am I reading right that your upset because the grandmother didn’t remember her phone number? Sorry my parents don’t remember their cell phones either and the only number they remember is house number which only gets spam calls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I reading right that your upset because the grandmother didn’t remember her phone number? Sorry my parents don’t remember their cell phones either and the only number they remember is house number which only gets spam calls.

Ummm she probably has her cell phone with her? Exchanging numbers is not rocket science. If it is too difficult for her then she should not be caring for a young child!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey, OP, sorry that happened. Move to Bowie with me, you’ll find lots of us to play with.

Bowie?? Lol. No one who can afford Capitol Hill is moving to Bowie.

[Anonymous]

I bet this is a pandemic thing - grandma wasn’t supposed to let grandson play with other kids in close contact (even with masks) and doesn’t want to get into it with the boy’s parents.

[Anonymous]

Grandma is not looking for friends 1/2 her age and cannot be bothered. Its not a race issue, its not personal and OP is really immature.

[Anonymous]

Making compatible friends when you have a little kid is hard. You just have to keep trying except the pandemic makes it hard now.

The only grandparents exchanging numbers playdates are the ones who are very worried about their grandchild's social life. Most are not worried about it.

I am sorry, op.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I reading right that your upset because the grandmother didn’t remember her phone number? Sorry my parents don’t remember their cell phones either and the only number they remember is house number which only gets spam calls.

Wait, what?

If you’re cognitively at the point where you don’t know your phone number you should not be taking care of children! WTF? This is not normal. Don’t try to normalize it. What’s next? Is their address too complicated too?

[Anonymous]

We are in the middle of a pandemic! My kids haven’t seen their closest friends in six months.

I’m Asian American. We have had kids play at playgrounds for years. A few times we exchange numbers. Sometimes I wish we did. We have made zero friends from the playground in 11 years. A handful of times we have met once again but that is it. Right before the pandemic I met a mom whose child was the same age as my youngest child, we chatted and are from the same area. We exchanged numbers. I reached out twice with no response.

It is much harder if it is just a nanny/caregiver. It is hard enough to connect with the parents.

I see nanny friends get together at the park. These are nannies who seem to be friends with each other. Moms also meet up with other moms.

[Anonymous]

Pp here. Most of my children’s friends are from preschool, elementary and sports.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry, OP.

I’m AA and have an 8 y/o son. We live in a neighborhood with few AAs, so I completely understand the need to expose DS to kids who look like him. We’ve lived in the DC area for several years now and said to say that we have had the worse look connecting with other AA families on any substantive level. Interestingly, most interest in play dates come from white kids/families.

I would have loved to run into you and your son in the park, OP.

[Anonymous]

After one meeting in the park, I am not inviting you to my house and I am not going to yours.

[Anonymous]

OP just want to say I hear you. I second PPs nomination for pirate ship and rfk playgrounds. Even if they are out of the way for you they are worlds better playgrounds than Stanton and Lincoln parks and much more diverse. I also think Cap Hill is representative of the super uptight covid people who shame others who don't wear mask outside, etc. Also think it's possible, as PP said, that they are generational washingtonians who don't need more friends.
When DPR eventually starts opening up programs again maybe you can sign him up. That weeds out a lot of annoying white people.

[Anonymous]

We met some very close family friends at the park when our oldest kids were 3. We set up playdates at parks at first. I have never had real relationships catch on with caregivers or grandparents. A mom of older kids told me once that she was giving her number out all over town when her oldest was little. It took a lot of tries and fails to make connections and find friends, but it worked. That made me feel better and more able to put myself out there.

There is an ease sometimes with connecting with someone else with your same background, ethnicity or language that makes us value that for ourselves and our kids, and when it feels like rejection it makes it hurt worse. I have been there and I totally get it op. We are an Asian American family.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she just found out she has covid and doesn't feel like sharing? I can imagine a million scenarios