rejection from other parents/caretakers

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, people get rejected and race plays no part acceptance or rejection. Often caretakers, paid or Grandmas, don't want the hassle of further involvement.

This. You would have gotten the same reaction in non-covid time too. I find that older people are not that friendly especially if they don't see a connection with the other adult.

[Anonymous]

Not everyone goes to the playground looking for friends. Its COVID. I don't want you at my house or your kid playing with mine.

[Anonymous]

Wow OP are you kidding? We are in the middle of a deadly pandemic.This kid is clearly around his grandmother and really should not be interacting with other households because he is around an elderly person a lot.

I have two kids who have not seen their friends since March. I’m certainly not going to arrange play dates with kids we don’t know

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let me guess -- you put out on the first date and then wonder why the other person never calls you back.

I disagree with you 0P because of the pandemic, but please ignore this jerk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow OP are you kidding? We are in the middle of a deadly pandemic.This kid is clearly around his grandmother and really should not be interacting with other households because he is around an elderly person a lot.

I have two kids who have not seen their friends since March. I’m certainly not going to arrange play dates with kids we don’t know

They came to a playground where other kids are- naturally. I was forcing the relationship- they did it on their own- I observed merely. Did I stop them from holding hands? No but please believe my son got sanitizer the instant I could get it to him.I get we are in a pandemic- the idea of a play date was at the park. Of course I wasn’t inviting them over for tea and biscuits. My son has not interacted with other children since March. We frequent a playground for merge seconds - usually Stanton park - and go about our marry way when other people start to arrive. I’m allowed
To some degree have delight in seeing my kid just interact. It was healthy for him mentally. Pandemic aside. But I get it and hear you.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry OP. Covid is just hard on people but especially Th e elderly who are at higher risk. This may or may not be her issue but I would assume so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here again- I think I had a lucid moment and saw my son being happy and playing and for a second it wasn’t so isolating. He has missed his friends at school- most of whom have moved to other places or are too far to get to. We don’t have family Here so I let my guard down just for a second ( although we had masks on - and i have squeeze packets of purell so I’m not that whimsical about this) but I was just in awe and idk- I don’t have much else to say and will assume like others this is covid related.

Sorry, OP. It's a hard time for everyone. I really wouldn't take it personally. I don't even see my life-long friends right now, so there's no chance we're building friendships with new playground friends. It's hard having a taste of our previous existence though, and then watching it be stamped out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here again- I think I had a lucid moment and saw my son being happy and playing and for a second it wasn’t so isolating. He has missed his friends at school- most of whom have moved to other places or are too far to get to. We don’t have family Here so I let my guard down just for a second ( although we had masks on - and i have squeeze packets of purell so I’m not that whimsical about this) but I was just in awe and idk- I don’t have much else to say and will assume like others this is covid related.

Sorry, OP. It's a hard time for everyone. I really wouldn't take it personally. I don't even see my life-long friends right now, so there's no chance we're building friendships with new playground friends. It's hard having a taste of our previous existence though, and then watching it be stamped out.

This is it exactly. Covid is doing a number on mental health that I’m forgetting about covid (make believing I have adjusted) and terming this interaction as rejection when it could just simply be covid. I can’t think straight. For a moment ( and for a few moments afterwards) my son just existed. I’m going to cherish that. It doesn’t have to happen again but so be it.

[Anonymous]

Is it possible they dont live there. I hate when people walk up to me to exchange numbers in an area in will likely never visit again.

[Anonymous]

Also, I'm at my friend limit for my kid. Keeping track of relationships for 2 children pushes you to the limit. I inevitably end up having to hang around parents I otherwise have nothing in common with (usually age or career)to keep my kids happy. I'm in my 30s with school age kids. Most of my kids friends moms are in their mid to late 40s. We dont even have the sams taste in music.

[Anonymous]

Sam's = same

[Anonymous]

I always give others the benefit of the doubt. I would guess grandma is supposed to watch the kid while parents are working from home and was told by parents not to let him play with other kids. She feels like the parents are being a little dramatic, kids will be kids, used the opportunity to relax for a moment. When faced with this question, she had an oh shit moment.

That being said, come over to the playgrounds in NW. Shaw, U Street, Petworth. Lots of diversity over here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow OP are you kidding? We are in the middle of a deadly pandemic.This kid is clearly around his grandmother and really should not be interacting with other households because he is around an elderly person a lot.

I have two kids who have not seen their friends since March. I’m certainly not going to arrange play dates with kids we don’t know

They came to a playground where other kids are- naturally. I was forcing the relationship- they did it on their own- I observed merely. Did I stop them from holding hands? No but please believe my son got sanitizer the instant I could get it to him.I get we are in a pandemic- the idea of a play date was at the park. Of course I wasn’t inviting them over for tea and biscuits. My son has not interacted with other children since March. We frequent a playground for merge seconds - usually Stanton park - and go about our marry way when other people start to arrive. I’m allowed
To some degree have delight in seeing my kid just interact. It was healthy for him mentally. Pandemic aside. But I get it and hear you.

You should have stopped them from holding hands. You don't get what a pandemic is.

[Anonymous]

My MIL is a complete anxious mess over Covid and I could totally see her doing this except she’d be way too scared to take my child to the park in the first place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow OP are you kidding? We are in the middle of a deadly pandemic.This kid is clearly around his grandmother and really should not be interacting with other households because he is around an elderly person a lot.

I have two kids who have not seen their friends since March. I’m certainly not going to arrange play dates with kids we don’t know

They came to a playground where other kids are- naturally. I was forcing the relationship- they did it on their own- I observed merely. Did I stop them from holding hands? No but please believe my son got sanitizer the instant I could get it to him.I get we are in a pandemic- the idea of a play date was at the park. Of course I wasn’t inviting them over for tea and biscuits. My son has not interacted with other children since March. We frequent a playground for merge seconds - usually Stanton park - and go about our marry way when other people start to arrive. I’m allowed
To some degree have delight in seeing my kid just interact. It was healthy for him mentally. Pandemic aside. But I get it and hear you.

But my main point is that you seem to be reading more into rejection than is likely given the pandemic. That’s probably why she said no, the pandemic. Just assume that and stop worrying about all the other stuff you wrote about in your post. Plus she’s old and her social skills might not be fantastic at this point.