Annoyance: Emails with no greetings/salutations

[Anonymous]

For the first email of the day to a person, I will use a greeting. If we go back and forth a bit and you are still saying "Hi Claire," you are damn annoying and need to get with the times.

First email, you get a greeting. After that, the conversation has already been opened. Even if it is 2-3 days into the same topic, if it's the same general thread/project, we don't need to greet.

[Anonymous]

I always do this - “what’s the xyz”

I tend to ignore pleasantries in emails. I’m not writing an 18th century missive or a sonnet in regards to “hey, can you send me the TPS report? Thx.”

[Anonymous]

Hate salutations in emails.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. I find that in my field, it's rare to get a greeting at all. You'd be in a tizzy if you worked here.

Most of the time, no name, no greeting whatsoever: "Can you send the XYZ report this morning? Thanks!" People are not trying to be rude, they are trying to be quick.

+1

[Anonymous]

Ugh, no this does not annoy me. I work in biglaw. If that annoyed me I'd be insane.

[Anonymous]

Beth,

It doesn't bother me.

Yours truly,

Anonymous poster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That rubs me the wrong way, too. If they're bothering to write your name, it seems like adding a brief greeting word (hi is fine) would soften it up.

Hi, Beth. The report needs to be sent today.

sounds much nicer than

Beth, the report needs to be sent today.

Having just the name with no greeting word sounds like barking a command when I read it. Saying thanks is nice, too.

I guess mine come off as a barking command. Can’t stand flowery butter up language. Get to the point and do your job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it safe to assume that those of you who don't care about greetings in emails aren't bothered when people don't say hello or good morning to you in person?

Not at all. Apples and oranges.

[Anonymous]

I hate the BS pleasantries in emails.

I send an email for a purpose not to socialize.

Me: Reminder, we have the contract updated due at noon.

Response from coworker: Good morning Larla, I am in receipt of your email. I hope you had a wonderful weekend. I will ensure you receive these updates by noon.

I think to myself... stop wasting your time, stop wasting my time, a simple "got it, no problem, we will have it done by noon" is WAY, WAY, WAY BETTER.

You are wasting your time, you are wasting my time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's done with intent. Some type of weird passive aggressive power struggle. All of the weak reasonings provided out here prove my theory.

Agree. It’s meant to convey that they are so busy they don’t have time for anything. But even if I write 100 emails a day, I’ve literally spent 200 seconds tops, so like 3 minutes of my day, writing these out. And even less than than since, like others, I don’t continue to include them if I’m going back and forth with a person all day.

But I find generally that some people don’t think it’s important to be courteous or polite. There is never any harm in being a nice person.
And especially if it takes no time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's done with intent. Some type of weird passive aggressive power struggle. All of the weak reasonings provided out here prove my theory.

Agree. It’s meant to convey that they are so busy they don’t have time for anything. But even if I write 100 emails a day, I’ve literally spent 200 seconds tops, so like 3 minutes of my day, writing these out. And even less than than since, like others, I don’t continue to include them if I’m going back and forth with a person all day.

But I find generally that some people don’t think it’s important to be courteous or polite. There is never any harm in being a nice person.
And especially if it takes no time.

Agreed. Oddly, all of the too busy to type good morning people find the time to include it when it’s to someone who matters. All of a sudden pleasantries matter again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh, no this does not annoy me. I work in biglaw. If that annoyed me I'd be insane.

This. If someone tarted emails with a greeting (not the name - people are split about 50/50 on that, but a greeting like Hello, or Hi, or Salutations!), people would think they were nuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's done with intent. Some type of weird passive aggressive power struggle. All of the weak reasonings provided out here prove my theory.

Agree. It’s meant to convey that they are so busy they don’t have time for anything. But even if I write 100 emails a day, I’ve literally spent 200 seconds tops, so like 3 minutes of my day, writing these out. And even less than than since, like others, I don’t continue to include them if I’m going back and forth with a person all day.

But I find generally that some people don’t think it’s important to be courteous or polite. There is never any harm in being a nice person.
And especially if it takes no time.

The whole "Good morning, Larla" after you get an email without that is just passive aggressive. Own it.

[Anonymous]

I feel like this is a Millennial vs. Gen X thing. I'm Gen X and I find only the Millennials don't bother with a greeting.

Listen, manners count. I don't care whether it's an email, a letter, or a note in a bottle: manners count.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it's done with intent. Some type of weird passive aggressive power struggle. All of the weak reasonings provided out here prove my theory.

Agree. It’s meant to convey that they are so busy they don’t have time for anything. But even if I write 100 emails a day, I’ve literally spent 200 seconds tops, so like 3 minutes of my day, writing these out. And even less than than since, like others, I don’t continue to include them if I’m going back and forth with a person all day.

But I find generally that some people don’t think it’s important to be courteous or polite. There is never any harm in being a nice person.
And especially if it takes no time.

It may only take yo 300 seconds a da. For me, each time I read “good morning, how was your weekend” I go through a mental list. If I reply “great, and yours?” Being polite, now I’ve opened a door to a never ending stream of friendliness with someone I am not friends with. It seriously stresses me out to see personal things in an email. Keep your personal life personal. You really don’t care how my weekend went, so why even ask?
As far as “good morning” - no idea when this person is even going to read it.