wife angry because I made noise getting daughter ready for school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You again, OP?

I believe OP. It may seems crazy to you guys, but some people do act like this. My mom is bi-polar and she acted like all of my life. She gets upset over the smallest things, and will throw a fit for hours while screaming and throwing things. When we were kids and up at 8 to play, she would come up and scream at us and my step-dad because we woke her up. She would sleep in until 12/1. She would act nice in front of people, and the next moment she would be talking badly about them. You just don’t understand unless you have been around this. OP, you need to leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You again, OP?

I believe OP. It may seems crazy to you guys, but some people do act like this. My mom is bi-polar and she acted like all of my life. She gets upset over the smallest things, and will throw a fit for hours while screaming and throwing things. When we were kids and up at 8 to play, she would come up and scream at us and my step-dad because we woke her up. She would sleep in until 12/1. She would act nice in front of people, and the next moment she would be talking badly about them. You just don’t understand unless you have been around this. OP, you need to leave.

This isn’t bipolar, and medication won’t help. Manic people don’t sleep until 12/1, and they aren’t more and less manic depending on the situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wife just threw coffee cup across kitchen shattering it on floor with coffee in it because she is angry that I woke her up opening the bedroom door this morning when I was getting daughter ready for school. I wake up and do breakfast for everyone and get kids to school. Wife usually gets up around 9. She got angry while I was getting kids ready and said some mean stuff to me. She is ranting about wanting a divorce. I simply do not deserve this.

Isolated incidents playing the victim won’t work here or in court.

Pls work out with an individual therapy how you got to this point, and what you want going forward.

[Anonymous]

OP wants us to poor dear him but if that's her schedule and he has agreed to it then why the heck are you opening the door? Sounds like you went out of your way to disturb her. If you have an issue with her schedule and the division on work - open your mouth not the door.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You again, OP?

I believe OP. It may seems crazy to you guys, but some people do act like this. My mom is bi-polar and she acted like all of my life. She gets upset over the smallest things, and will throw a fit for hours while screaming and throwing things. When we were kids and up at 8 to play, she would come up and scream at us and my step-dad because we woke her up. She would sleep in until 12/1. She would act nice in front of people, and the next moment she would be talking badly about them. You just don’t understand unless you have been around this. OP, you need to leave.

I know people like this exist IRL. But this OP comes around every couple of weeks with increasingly outrageous stories about how abusive his wife is with full awareness that what he’s describing is abuse, piling on of the story on those occasions when he does come back yo demonize her, etc. This isn’t someone who thinks this behavior might be off and is looking for a gut check, or someone who knows the behavior is wrong and is trying to figure out what to do about it. He is trolling to provoke a reaction from people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You again, OP?

I believe OP. It may seems crazy to you guys, but some people do act like this. My mom is bi-polar and she acted like all of my life. She gets upset over the smallest things, and will throw a fit for hours while screaming and throwing things. When we were kids and up at 8 to play, she would come up and scream at us and my step-dad because we woke her up. She would sleep in until 12/1. She would act nice in front of people, and the next moment she would be talking badly about them. You just don’t understand unless you have been around this. OP, you need to leave.

This isn’t bipolar, and medication won’t help. Manic people don’t sleep until 12/1, and they aren’t more and less manic depending on the situation.

My mom was diagnosed with bi-polar disorder. This is exactly how she would act. Up all night and would go to sleep at 5-6 and not wake up until 12/1 most days. She has a bad temper and everything makes her mad. She can’t take criticism and she will become argumentative if she doesn’t get what she wants, and if you show her she is wrong about something. Sometimes she will be super nice, and she will just flip a switch. It’s hard to be around someone like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP wants us to poor dear him but if that's her schedule and he has agreed to it then why the heck are you opening the door? Sounds like you went out of your way to disturb her. If you have an issue with her schedule and the division on work - open your mouth not the door.

You people are outrageous. I’m assuming most replying are women on here. If this was a wife describing her husbands behavior, you would be telling her to leave and get full custody. I guess that doesn’t apply because OP is a man. Guess what? Men are domestic abuse victims and it’s a lot more common than you think. Most men refuse to say anything because of people like you who want to further demean his manhood and tell him it’s not important. His story is just as important as any woman’s. His kids are more important than his wife.

Who cares that OP opened a door? His lazy wife needs to get up and parent her kids. She sounds mentally ill. Please get out and get full custody. She will ruin your life and your kids if this continues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the roles were reversed folks'd be up in arms saying OP should call the cops and have that abusive husband arrested.

+1. You’re in an abusive relationship and need to get out for your safety and that of your kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm...Lets see.
I am a SAHM. My DH lets me sleep in and he handles the morning breakfast, packing lunch and taking kids to school.
They are very quite in the morning as not to disturb me, so I am quite surprised that you did not show the same courtesy to her. I think you are being passive-aggressive because you actually don't want her to sleep in and you resent that she is at home.
I have only one thing to ask you - is she a part time speech therapist who only made $18K last year?

You’re a SAHM and you sleep in? Wow. You’re lazy as hell. What do you do all besides watching tv and sleep when your kids are gone? You’re lazy and I would make as much noise as I wanted if I were your DH. Get a job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hmmm...Lets see.
I am a SAHM. My DH lets me sleep in and he handles the morning breakfast, packing lunch and taking kids to school.
They are very quite in the morning as not to disturb me, so I am quite surprised that you did not show the same courtesy to her. I think you are being passive-aggressive because you actually don't want her to sleep in and you resent that she is at home.
I have only one thing to ask you - is she a part time speech therapist who only made $18K last year?

You’re a SAHM and you sleep in? Wow. You’re lazy as hell. What do you do all besides watching tv and sleep when your kids are gone? You’re lazy and I would make as much noise as I wanted if I were your DH. Get a job.

The whole point of being a SAHM is to handle those things. Why are you so lazy? There is no need for you to sleep in with kids in school. Get up and help your husband out. You don’t have a job like your husband does. Why should get the kids ready when all you do is sit at home all day?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She sounds abusive and like she has a major rage problem.

This isn't hormones (all humans have hormones and don't act like this) and this isn't bipolar disorder.

I am sure you have seen this side of her before.

yeah, her behavior has gotten real bad over the last 6 or 7 months. I posted on here because I needed an outlet and she not reasonable to talk to.

You sound very incapable and whiny. Go see a therapist.

Seriously? Would you say this to a woman in an abusive relationship? This is why men never come forward. Women are far more dangerous then men in theses situations. How about showing OP some compassion. Please call the cops on their lunatic and get your and your kids to a safe place.

[Anonymous]

You people are the reason why men in abusive relationships don't say anything. I guarantee the replies on her would have been very different if it were a woman posting this about her husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Violence is never acceptable and throwing a cup across a room qualifies as violence. Imagine the lessons this is teaching your DD. I hope you're getting individual counseling 1. and making an exit plan. Good luck.

+1. Throwing coffee cup is never acceptable. It is abuse. Please evaluate your relationship at loveisrespect.org and make an exit plan. Kids who grow up with abuse in the home take those formative memories with them into future relationships, thus making them more at risk for abusive relationships.

[Anonymous]

Two sides to a story. His, hers and the truth. For some reason I think OP does go out of his way to disturb his wife because guarantee he’s resentful. This makes the most sense in this scenario.

[Anonymous]

Wife usually gets up at 9, you woke her up earlier by mistake, but she "just" threw a coffee cup before you posted at 11:53? What happened in the 3 or so hours between her waking up and throwing the cup?