80 year old MIL driving DD, should I be concerned?

[Anonymous]

OP -- you are walking a very fine line ... is she ok to drive at 80 .. how about 81? ... 82? ... what about 79?

Do the responsible thing and STOP. Stop having her drive your child.

I have no respect for you

[Anonymous]

Would MIL be open to the idea of using a taxi or a ride-sharing service? Would you feel better about that?

Alternatively, the driving assessment resources an earlier post suggested might be useful. Sometimes people need to add some adaptations to their cars to drive safely when they're getting older. I don't see why MIL has to be driving to spend time with her grandchild. You can make other arrangements.

[Anonymous]

Yes I would no longer let her drive your DD anywhere. She shouldn't be driving anymore by the sounds of it.

Your DD is telling you this because she doesn't feel safe, listen to her.

[Anonymous]

My Mom is turning 80 in a few weeks. She has not been in an accident in decades if at all. We had some evidence of unsafe driving, observed by my sister and experienced by me at around 75. At my and my sisters' urging she had a driving test and they declared her fine to drive. I stopped letting her drive my kids because I felt nervous in the car with her as she just seemed to not see some things. I also did not want her driving around /near my kids' schools.

I cannot stop her from driving. It was a very difficult conversation to have when I told her I did not want her driving my kids places and we do not talk about it, I just always offfer to drive. When she is coming somewhere with us she will often sdive to our house and then drive with us from there. I also stopped using her for evening babysitting because I did not want her on the road at night.

It is difficult, but if your 10 year old notices there is an issue and you have to put an end to it.

Aging is hard nd driving is attached to independence for many.