Please don’t show up at my door unannounced

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On MLK day, yesterday, my teen-aged kids and I were home from work and school. We were happily in our pajamas all day working on personal projects, crap everywhere. My neighbor unexpectedly rang our doorbell and we all panicked! No one wanted to answer the door, arguing who had to do it, me hiding in the kitchen...DD finally let the neighbor in and I was horrified. She wanted to drop off our bowl from a neighborhood gathering weeks ago! Why couldn’t she text first or just leave the bowl on our porch?

You didn't know that your neighbor had your bowl and might stop by on a holiday? My neighbor doesn't have my bowl or my anything. My neighbor won' stop by.
I haven't had anybody show up unannounced for years. 2 people have confused the floors and knocked on our door.

Yeah this is weird. The rest I get but this one...dropping off an item is different than someone dropping in for a visit. I’ve dropped off a dish I borrowed unannounced before . I didn’t ask to stay. It was all of two seconds.

The neighbor cane by to drop off the bowl (why is it strange for neighbor to have my bowl after a neighborhood potluck gathering?) and she is very chatty so of course she worked her way into our house and stayed, uninvited, for about 20 minutes while I crossed my arms over my bra-less chest.

[Anonymous]

You should get one of those doormats that say "GO AWAY!". They exist.

[Anonymous]

I agree. Half the time I don't even bother answering. Whatever.

[Anonymous]

Is there a reason you wouldn't text first and check to see if noon is a good time in case you might stop by?

The only people I know who stop by unannounced are this family who have no boundaries (we are not friends).

If you text and say I'm passing by your house, are you around? that's still better than just ringing the doorbell.

[Anonymous]

People just drop by with no notice at my parents' house in the Midwest all the time and I find it so odd, but I thought perhaps it was generational.

But I have noticed when visiting my friend in the suburbs in a smaller town that there is a lot more impromptu socializing than I have here. Pre-kids, I was rarely home on weekends (out shopping, etc.) so people know that they should call me and make plans before getting together. With cell phone technology, I agree that texting would be best.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Text before stopping by, if you must stop by. But I cannot relax at home if I think someone is just going to stop by. What if I'm pooping and the doorbell rings? What if I'm having alone time with DH and the doorbell rings? What if I'm not wearing a bra and still in my pjs at 2:00 and the doorbell rings?

I might love you, but do not stop by!

DON'T ANSWER THE DOOR.... WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU!

Wow, do you have to shout? Sometimes people can see or know that you are home and will keep ringing.

I know dense people don't hear better when you should but....

So what?

DON'T ANSWER THE DOOR!

[Anonymous]

This just happened to me on Monday. Kids and me were in pajamas late afternoon (and mine were really ugly pajamas), pretty unkempt, hair a mess, and cleaning closets upstairs. I had a phone call which I ignored since I wanted to finish my work. Suddenly my relative shows up on our doorstep and rings the bell many times. The kids ran down and peeped through the window and opened the door. They know not to open for strangers but since it was a relative they opened it.

It was so embarassing. Family member did mention they called, but who shows up unannounced when we don't answer the phone. I ran up quickly and changed into something better and came down. It was a bit strange but we ended up talking for half an hour and the relative left.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Text before stopping by, if you must stop by. But I cannot relax at home if I think someone is just going to stop by. What if I'm pooping and the doorbell rings? What if I'm having alone time with DH and the doorbell rings? What if I'm not wearing a bra and still in my pjs at 2:00 and the doorbell rings?

I might love you, but do not stop by!

Yep. No unexpected guests.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Text before stopping by, if you must stop by. But I cannot relax at home if I think someone is just going to stop by. What if I'm pooping and the doorbell rings? What if I'm having alone time with DH and the doorbell rings? What if I'm not wearing a bra and still in my pjs at 2:00 and the doorbell rings?

I might love you, but do not stop by!

DON'T ANSWER THE DOOR.... WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU!

Wow, do you have to shout? Sometimes people can see or know that you are home and will keep ringing.

I know dense people don't hear better when you should but....

So what?

DON'T ANSWER THE DOOR!

SOMETIMES VISITOR WON'T STOP KNOCKING, KNOWING YOU ARE HOME, OR KIDS ANSWER THE DOOR, OR VISITOR WALKS RIGHT IN.

[Anonymous]

^ no they don't

Don't answer the door Op

No one is going to "keep knocking" unless it's a life or death emergency

OP, you need to manage your resentment. You have some role in that. And that means not answering the door.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ no they don't

Don't answer the door Op

No one is going to "keep knocking" unless it's a life or death emergency

OP, you need to manage your resentment. You have some role in that. And that means not answering the door.

Haha oh yes they will. You might not, but there are people who will do that. I have no resentment (not sure why you think that), just asking you to please come over unannounced. ps not OP

[Anonymous]

/\ not come over unannounced

[Anonymous]

I'll slam the door in somebody's face in a heartbeat.
Neighbors, friends, family...they can all get some.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Text before stopping by, if you must stop by. But I cannot relax at home if I think someone is just going to stop by. What if I'm pooping and the doorbell rings? What if I'm having alone time with DH and the doorbell rings? What if I'm not wearing a bra and still in my pjs at 2:00 and the doorbell rings?

I might love you, but do not stop by!

DON'T ANSWER THE DOOR.... WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU!

Wow, do you have to shout? Sometimes people can see or know that you are home and will keep ringing.

I know dense people don't hear better when you should but....So what? DON'T ANSWER THE DOOR!

SOMETIMES VISITOR WON'T STOP KNOCKING, KNOWING YOU ARE HOME, OR KIDS ANSWER THE DOOR, OR VISITOR WALKS RIGHT IN.

What kind of moron doesn't lock their door? What would be the thinking behind not locking your door?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Text before stopping by, if you must stop by. But I cannot relax at home if I think someone is just going to stop by. What if I'm pooping and the doorbell rings? What if I'm having alone time with DH and the doorbell rings? What if I'm not wearing a bra and still in my pjs at 2:00 and the doorbell rings?

I might love you, but do not stop by!

DON'T ANSWER THE DOOR.... WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU!

Wow, do you have to shout? Sometimes people can see or know that you are home and will keep ringing.

I know dense people don't hear better when you should but....So what? DON'T ANSWER THE DOOR!

SOMETIMES VISITOR WON'T STOP KNOCKING, KNOWING YOU ARE HOME, OR KIDS ANSWER THE DOOR, OR VISITOR WALKS RIGHT IN.

What kind of moron doesn't lock their door? What would be the thinking behind not locking your door?

We live in a suburb and it happens all the time that the door may be unlocked....between taking the dog out and getting the mail, and kids going out to play on our swing set etc etc. You sound like a delight