Please don’t show up at my door unannounced

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Text before stopping by, if you must stop by. But I cannot relax at home if I think someone is just going to stop by. What if I'm pooping and the doorbell rings? What if I'm having alone time with DH and the doorbell rings? What if I'm not wearing a bra and still in my pjs at 2:00 and the doorbell rings?

I might love you, but do not stop by!

DON'T ANSWER THE DOOR.... WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU!

[Anonymous]

Anyone else here live in the hood? I usually answer the door armed if you come unannounced, especially after dark.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On MLK day, yesterday, my teen-aged kids and I were home from work and school. We were happily in our pajamas all day working on personal projects, crap everywhere. My neighbor unexpectedly rang our doorbell and we all panicked! No one wanted to answer the door, arguing who had to do it, me hiding in the kitchen...DD finally let the neighbor in and I was horrified. She wanted to drop off our bowl from a neighborhood gathering weeks ago! Why couldn’t she text first or just leave the bowl on our porch?

You didn't know that your neighbor had your bowl and might stop by on a holiday? My neighbor doesn't have my bowl or my anything. My neighbor won' stop by.
I haven't had anybody show up unannounced for years. 2 people have confused the floors and knocked on our door.

Yeah this is weird. The rest I get but this one...dropping off an item is different than someone dropping in for a visit. I’ve dropped off a dish I borrowed unannounced before . I didn’t ask to stay. It was all of two seconds.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

I don't like this either. My favorite move is the neighbor's that send the kid over early on a Saturday or Sunday to re-deliver some package or some other BS and wow, Junior wants to come in and play. Really???

I also just don't answer the door. Problem solved. Anyone who is coming to my door and I don't know they are coming...not someone I need to see.

[Anonymous]

I totally agree. Like others, we do not answer the door for unannounced visitors, basically ever.

In this day and age, there is no reason people can’t text ahead of time.

I wonder if this is an age thing- I’m 40 and none of our friends or neighbors who are our age would ever do this. I do have a couple of older neighbors (not elderly- maybe in their 60s) who just drop by and it is annoying.

[Anonymous]

Man here. This morning I had two Jehovah Witnesses show up at my door and if they had not been both very attractive I probably wouldn’t have opened the door. I do give them credit for trying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From OP: I have many friends and don’t mind visitors but please text or call first so I can get dressed and throw dishes in the dishwasher before you get here!

I think this is basic courtesy and I agree

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From OP: I have many friends and don’t mind visitors but please text or call first so I can get dressed and throw dishes in the dishwasher before you get here!

I think this is basic courtesy and I agree

Yes, I think at least a 15 minute heads up is common courtesy these days! What if I just got out of the shower? Or am taking a difficult poop? If you came to my door you would know without a doubt I’m inside (cars parked in the street, my dogs barking and they only bark when we are home), so I’d feel weird not opening the door...

[Anonymous]

I’m with you OP. And don’t even get me started on solicitors who drop by ringing my bell and getting my dog riled up right during toddler nap time. Which reminds me I should put up a sign. But no, I don’t want to join your cult, buy your chocolate bars, or sign your petition.

[Anonymous]

Our doorbell broke years ago and we never fixed it. Solved the issue of waking babies. I watch for expected visitors or they knock. Unexpected visitors I don’t open the door. If they say they stopped by and our car was in the driveway, I simply reply I must’ve been in the basement doing laundry and didn’t hear the door since I wasn’t expecting anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:From OP: I have many friends and don’t mind visitors but please text or call first so I can get dressed and throw dishes in the dishwasher before you get here!

I think this is basic courtesy and I agree

Yes, I think at least a 15 minute heads up is common courtesy these days! What if I just got out of the shower? Or am taking a difficult poop? If you came to my door you would know without a doubt I’m inside (cars parked in the street, my dogs barking and they only bark when we are home), so I’d feel weird not opening the door...

That’s interesting. So they don’t alert strangers that they are protecting the house when you’re gone? I’m assuming you’ve seen this on camera or something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Text before stopping by, if you must stop by. But I cannot relax at home if I think someone is just going to stop by. What if I'm pooping and the doorbell rings? What if I'm having alone time with DH and the doorbell rings? What if I'm not wearing a bra and still in my pjs at 2:00 and the doorbell rings?

I might love you, but do not stop by!

DON'T ANSWER THE DOOR.... WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU!

Wow, do you have to shout? Sometimes people can see or know that you are home and will keep ringing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Text before stopping by, if you must stop by. But I cannot relax at home if I think someone is just going to stop by. What if I'm pooping and the doorbell rings? What if I'm having alone time with DH and the doorbell rings? What if I'm not wearing a bra and still in my pjs at 2:00 and the doorbell rings?

I might love you, but do not stop by!

DON'T ANSWER THE DOOR.... WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU!

Wow, do you have to shout? Sometimes people can see or know that you are home and will keep ringing.

Yes they do! My letter carrier once accosted me on a walk and demanded to know why I wouldn’t answer the door the day before. He was knocking and pounding for awhile to deliver a package. I’d just jumped out of the shower and didn’t want to deal with putting on clothes and rushing downstairs to find it was just another solicitor.

[Anonymous]

I don't feel obligated to answer the door just because I'm home. If I'm decently dressed, sure, I'll open the door for a neighbor who I know well. If it's a friend I know really well, I'll be like...dude, why didn't you call!

Anyway, bell can ring a few times. It's fine if they know I'm home and I choose not to answer. If they follow up with a text, I'll just let them know that I wasn't available in the moment. NBD.