Mental health-wise, what would you do if nobody except your spouse remembered your birthday?

[Anonymous]

I'm a little embarrassed when people who aren't family remember.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just had my 60th birthday. No one remembered but my financial adviser. LOL. Not my husband, not my kids, not my siblings. Not even my grand kids. Did it bother me ? NOT ONE BIT. Why ? Because I made it to 60 and many we knew never did. God told me Happy Birthday !

My love still flows !

Your post made me lol with delight. Thank you for sharing! And you should name your financial adviser. He or she has a good head for details!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My parents forgot my 16th birthday so I got over that being a special day to anyone but me a long, long time ago.

That said, I do appreciate the efforts friends, coworkers, and family make. It’s nice.

But it won’t break me if they forget.

Did you have an exchange student staying with you? And a boyfriend who drove a red convertible?

You’re a very nice person, I’m sure and wouldn’t intentionally mock someone. So I’m going to assume that you didn’t read the follow up.

DP. I’m sure you’re a very nice person, I’m sure and wouldn’t intentionally try to hijack someone else’s thread to talk about yourself. So I’m going to assume that you forgot which thread you were posting on when you wrote that follow up.

How is it hijacking a thread if you were asked a question and someone made a joke about your reply, and you goodnaturedly explained why it wasn’t funny?

This doesn’t seem like a joke thread. OP seemed serious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a little embarrassed when people who aren't family remember.

Me too. I hate birthdays at work - I have a hard enough time managing the stuff I need to do for my elderly parents and in laws, my kids, and my job - I don’t also keep a list of colleagues’ birthdays! And if friends or colleagues remember mine I just feel guilty that I don’t remember theirs. Please, unless you are my DH or kids, ignore my birthday! And if you are DH and kids, a kiss and a card are enough.

[Anonymous]

My mom is the only person who remembers mine and at my current job everyone gets a cake and card on their birthday. I think if it's important to you, you really have to prep people. I love it when people start reminding me a month in advance. If it's important to you, I want to show up for you, but I also cannot remember birthdays.

[Anonymous]

No one remembers mine except for family

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who makes a big deal of her own birthday... throws herself a small party, posts pictures on Facebook. Our birthdays are about a week apart so I always remember her birthday and send her a msg (and show up to her party) but she doesn’t remember mine. I have a spouse and kids and other friends who remember mine. At first it annoyed me that whenever I was around her during that time, she would talk about her birthday but then decided to just accept that some people are just care more and she needs the attention more than me.

[Anonymous]

Invite people out this weekend if I was sad about it. Or do a spa day with dh or a friend.

People will want to celebrate with you if you give them a chance. But don’t demand that they keep track of your milestones for you.

[Anonymous]

I admit, I love my birthday! That’s one of the best things about Facebook—getting hundreds of greetings on your birthday. Maybe I’m immature, that’s fine! But I don’t expect my friends and extended family to bend over backwards for me—I don’t need gifts or dinner out or anything. As long as my spouse and kids celebrate me, I’m good.

[Anonymous]

No. Birthdays are not a big deal in our family for adults. At most, an email or call.

[Anonymous]

I would worry my mom was getting dementia if she forgot just because it was a big day for her, but beyond that, oh well. It really is just another day.

[Anonymous]

Having your spouse remember is the most important, IMHO. If he forgot, I'd be pissed. Everyone else? They probably know, but just got busy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I admit, I love my birthday! That’s one of the best things about Facebook—getting hundreds of greetings on your birthday. Maybe I’m immature, that’s fine! But I don’t expect my friends and extended family to bend over backwards for me—I don’t need gifts or dinner out or anything. As long as my spouse and kids celebrate me, I’m good.

Lol, I always wondered if anyone enjoyed this aspect of Facebook and now I know!

[Anonymous]

No one remembers my birthday, except for my spouse. I don't care. Why would I care?

[Anonymous]

What? Mental health wise? I would seek mental help if I were you op, and this was a mental health issue!