Mental health-wise, what would you do if nobody except your spouse remembered your birthday?
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Anonymous
| Create what you need. If you want lots of people to celebrate with, throw yourself a party. If you want flowers or a gift - treat yourself. Take the day off work and go to a spa. Don’t wait for others to give you validation - celebrate yourself! Life is busy and people don’t keep track of things - honestly except for Facebook, I wouldn’t remember anyone’s birthday. |
Anonymous
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I would be bummed if my parents and siblings forgot. I don’t blame you for being upset, OP!
As for my immediate family, I make sure no one forgets by planning my own bday dinner out every year with DH and kids + having a cake at home (as we do for each of them)! |
Anonymous
| Who the f still cares about birthdays?! You are an adult, not an eight year old. We can’t even remember our social security numbers, much less our friend’s birthdays. GET OVER YOURSELF. |
Anonymous
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Curious as to why this is under "health and medicine."
Anyway, OP, my parents divorced on my birthday when I was young. We had my special birthday dinner, I opened some presents, then we went home and they sat us down to announce that they'd be getting a divorce. Then we packed up some dishes and stuff and my dad left. A lot of my childhood birthdays were affected by this. Then, as an adult, I realized that I am responsible for creating my own happiness. Some years, that means I take the day off for my birthday and do something fun. Some years I go to work, and I really don't care if none of my work friends wishes me a happy birthday. Usually I am off on a vacation with my DH and kids and they wish me a happy birthday; I might get calls and texts from lots of other people, but my well-being isn't made or broken by this. I'll also add that one year (when I was an adult) my dad totally forgot. I think he mixed up the date with someone else's birthday. That stung a little but I don't make it to mean more than it is. |
Anonymous
| Also, if your mental health is dependent on people remembering your birthday, I think you may need to refresh your mental health hygiene. |
Anonymous
| I would love to forget my birthday. It would be OK if others didn't remind me. Let's be grown ups. |
Anonymous
Did you have an exchange student staying with you? And a boyfriend who drove a red convertible? |
Anonymous
Your parents suck. Sorry. |
Anonymous
Birthdays are a gift. You made it another year, you aren’t dead. Good things happened because you were alive. Good things are going to happen in the coming year. That warrants cake, a sparkling drink of some kind, and joy. |
Anonymous
You’re a very nice person, I’m sure and wouldn’t intentionally mock someone. So I’m going to assume that you didn’t read the follow up. |
Anonymous
| I would be surprised because the 2 relatives I'm closest to never ever forget. I'd wonder if something bad was going on with them. And yeah I'd be a little bummed as well. Birthdays are not just "for kids". |
Anonymous
DP. I’m sure you’re a very nice person, I’m sure and wouldn’t intentionally try to hijack someone else’s thread to talk about yourself. So I’m going to assume that you forgot which thread you were posting on when you wrote that follow up. |
Anonymous
Yes, let's. One thing we do as grown ups is refrain from telling others how to feel about things like birthdays. Yay, let's be grown ups. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn't care at all. Usually my spouse tells me Happy Birthday and he'll remind the kids to do them same. The end. |
Anonymous
| As long as my DH remembers then I wouldn't care. Take your birthday into your own hands if you want more than ask for it or plan it yourself. |