If you SAH and are a solid introvert

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again. DS is taking the rare nap so I am checking back in while getting my alone time. I do take him grocery shopping and to errands and he’s actually great about it, but there are so many errands and jobs these days. Maybe the problem is that we bought a fixer and on top of medical appointments I just feel like I want to do nothing, by myself, at home, in silence. DH is a talker and thinks out loud, which doesn’t help - literally follows me around talking and I’ve had to tell him I need a minute to use the bathroom. We live in the suburbs and there are plenty of quieter places, but we do have to drive everywhere, which I kind of hate. We do go to quieter playgrounds and other places which is nice, but still not the same as being alone, if you know how I feel? I do know how lucky I am and feel a little ridiculous posting about this, but I appreciate the thoughts and advice from fellow introverts.

Have you explained this to your husband? Maybe he won't try to change, but it could help. I tend to do this to my husband and then realize I'm in his space with too many words lol!! We went for some marriage counselling that helped us figure out how we relate to each other. I also see a therapist on my own occasionally. It helps to sort through things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again. DS is taking the rare nap so I am checking back in while getting my alone time. I do take him grocery shopping and to errands and he’s actually great about it, but there are so many errands and jobs these days. Maybe the problem is that we bought a fixer and on top of medical appointments I just feel like I want to do nothing, by myself, at home, in silence. DH is a talker and thinks out loud, which doesn’t help - literally follows me around talking and I’ve had to tell him I need a minute to use the bathroom. We live in the suburbs and there are plenty of quieter places, but we do have to drive everywhere, which I kind of hate. We do go to quieter playgrounds and other places which is nice, but still not the same as being alone, if you know how I feel? I do know how lucky I am and feel a little ridiculous posting about this, but I appreciate the thoughts and advice from fellow introverts.

OP I get it. In my case I have twins (babies still) so running errands with them is not feasible. The suggestions to find a gym / yoga with child care is a good one. I think you may just have to realize this is temporary and you will have more time when DC is in school full time. I’d also talk to DH to agree on a time during the weekend where he cares for the child while you have alone time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You just manage, OP. It's not that hard. You have it easier than most people.

(Sorry to be harsh, but seriously. Buck up.)

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