I was racist, but I unlearned it

[Anonymous]

is this a HS essay?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure why I’m surprised by the many dismissive comments on here, but I am. And a little disappointed.

OP wrote about something most people either avoid talking about or get defensive about- why the negativity?


OP , I think saying everyone is racist will make people who are very conscious of trying to treat everyone equally defensive- & that’s not helpful. And to the snippy posters , acknowledging that being white lets you start life with a tiny advantage (or a huge advantage) over POC does nothing to denigrate you. It’s reality. At least be open to the idea that you- a white person- are not in the position to tell a POC that racism isn’t a thing. How would you really know?

And it’s been said often but think of this example - if Obama had done one tenth of the moronic missteps Trump has done (& imagine the things we DON’T know) people would have been up in arms with variations of how dare he, etc etc. Does anyone NOT agree with that? & I’m not talking about policy decisions, I’m talking about the lies, the misogyny, his lack of character. The bar would never have been lowered so far down for a black position

Same. DCUM was hijacked by non-DMV Trump supporters a couple years ago. The tone has drastically changed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Plenty of diversity on the toy shelf, but my daughter wants the blonde hair and blue eyes dolls...
The human eye is drawn to certain things.

OP here. I think this preference is taught by society. All of our fairy tale characters, princesses, etc. are white. So kids are taught “white is right” and “white is beautiful”. I believe this is taught.

Go ahead and tell the 3 year old that she's doing it wrong.

Not to mention in my house, the first princess was Moana. When we went to the store and picked out a Moana doll, my kid says no. She’s wants Elsa. Has she seen Frozen? Nope. Does my kid look like Elsa? Nope.
Sorry Op.
The princesses are from European fairy tales. Of course they are white. It’s great that they’ve expanded. I love seeing Mulan, Moana, and Tiana. There has been plenty of work in recent years.
Still. The human eye has preferences.

It could be that Elsa's dress is more sparkly than Moana's

Possibly but she specifically liked the yellow hair. It’s not all learned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure why I’m surprised by the many dismissive comments on here, but I am. And a little disappointed.

OP wrote about something most people either avoid talking about or get defensive about- why the negativity?


OP , I think saying everyone is racist will make people who are very conscious of trying to treat everyone equally defensive- & that’s not helpful. And to the snippy posters , acknowledging that being white lets you start life with a tiny advantage (or a huge advantage) over POC does nothing to denigrate you. It’s reality. At least be open to the idea that you- a white person- are not in the position to tell a POC that racism isn’t a thing. How would you really know?

And it’s been said often but think of this example - if Obama had done one tenth of the moronic missteps Trump has done (& imagine the things we DON’T know) people would have been up in arms with variations of how dare he, etc etc. Does anyone NOT agree with that? & I’m not talking about policy decisions, I’m talking about the lies, the misogyny, his lack of character. The bar would never have been lowered so far down for a black position

Same. DCUM was hijacked by non-DMV Trump supporters a couple years ago. The tone has drastically changed.

To some extent.

But you're also seeing the reactions of people who are not far far left to the same story they've heard for years. For literally decades.

Good for OP for now being hyper race conscious instead of color blind. Now she needs to figure out if that's better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure why I’m surprised by the many dismissive comments on here, but I am. And a little disappointed.

OP wrote about something most people either avoid talking about or get defensive about- why the negativity?


OP , I think saying everyone is racist will make people who are very conscious of trying to treat everyone equally defensive- & that’s not helpful. And to the snippy posters , acknowledging that being white lets you start life with a tiny advantage (or a huge advantage) over POC does nothing to denigrate you. It’s reality. At least be open to the idea that you- a white person- are not in the position to tell a POC that racism isn’t a thing. How would you really know?

And it’s been said often but think of this example - if Obama had done one tenth of the moronic missteps Trump has done (& imagine the things we DON’T know) people would have been up in arms with variations of how dare he, etc etc. Does anyone NOT agree with that? & I’m not talking about policy decisions, I’m talking about the lies, the misogyny, his lack of character. The bar would never have been lowered so far down for a black position

Same. DCUM was hijacked by non-DMV Trump supporters a couple years ago. The tone has drastically changed.

To some extent.

But you're also seeing the reactions of people who are not far far left to the same story they've heard for years. For literally decades.

Good for OP for now being hyper race conscious instead of color blind. Now she needs to figure out if that's better.

Exactly.

In my book, it's worse.

Signed

Immigrant with brown skin -- irrelevant IMO but somehow critical for a subset of Americans like OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure why I’m surprised by the many dismissive comments on here, but I am. And a little disappointed.

OP wrote about something most people either avoid talking about or get defensive about- why the negativity?


OP , I think saying everyone is racist will make people who are very conscious of trying to treat everyone equally defensive- & that’s not helpful. And to the snippy posters , acknowledging that being white lets you start life with a tiny advantage (or a huge advantage) over POC does nothing to denigrate you. It’s reality. At least be open to the idea that you- a white person- are not in the position to tell a POC that racism isn’t a thing. How would you really know?

And it’s been said often but think of this example - if Obama had done one tenth of the moronic missteps Trump has done (& imagine the things we DON’T know) people would have been up in arms with variations of how dare he, etc etc. Does anyone NOT agree with that? & I’m not talking about policy decisions, I’m talking about the lies, the misogyny, his lack of character. The bar would never have been lowered so far down for a black position

Same. DCUM was hijacked by non-DMV Trump supporters a couple years ago. The tone has drastically changed.

To some extent.

But you're also seeing the reactions of people who are not far far left to the same story they've heard for years. For literally decades.

Good for OP for now being hyper race conscious instead of color blind. Now she needs to figure out if that's better.

Interesting. So what do you think about PPs point- the bar set for Obama vs Trump?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:is this a HS essay?

Probably. Or MS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:is this a HS essay?

Probably. Or MS.

Middle school right? Op didn’t know that almost all traditional princess stories and fairy tales are European in origin?
Oh my goodness! Princesses are white!!!!
Well duh.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did you copy this from somewhere? Cite please?

OP here. No. I wrote all of this myself, except I quoted Robin DiAngelo’s words.

Maybe you can append it to your resume when you try to return to the workforce after being a SAHM for so many years.

[Anonymous]

My neighbor bought several Barbie dolls for her son because she wanted to expose to "feminine" toys. My son had a playdate with him one day and they both had a Barbie doll in their hands. They weren't dressing the dolls but holding them as you would hold a gun and yelling "bang, bang."
They had weaponized the Barbie dolls to their boy preferences for toys.

There is some nature in people no matter how hard we try.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure why I’m surprised by the many dismissive comments on here, but I am. And a little disappointed.

OP wrote about something most people either avoid talking about or get defensive about- why the negativity?


OP , I think saying everyone is racist will make people who are very conscious of trying to treat everyone equally defensive- & that’s not helpful. And to the snippy posters , acknowledging that being white lets you start life with a tiny advantage (or a huge advantage) over POC does nothing to denigrate you. It’s reality. At least be open to the idea that you- a white person- are not in the position to tell a POC that racism isn’t a thing. How would you really know?

And it’s been said often but think of this example - if Obama had done one tenth of the moronic missteps Trump has done (& imagine the things we DON’T know) people would have been up in arms with variations of how dare he, etc etc. Does anyone NOT agree with that? & I’m not talking about policy decisions, I’m talking about the lies, the misogyny, his lack of character. The bar would never have been lowered so far down for a black position

Same. DCUM was hijacked by non-DMV Trump supporters a couple years ago. The tone has drastically changed.

The only non DMV posts I see are on the real estate board by people who are appalled at local housing prices.

[Anonymous]

Oh.

— Black American

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure why I’m surprised by the many dismissive comments on here, but I am. And a little disappointed.

OP wrote about something most people either avoid talking about or get defensive about- why the negativity?


OP , I think saying everyone is racist will make people who are very conscious of trying to treat everyone equally defensive- & that’s not helpful. And to the snippy posters , acknowledging that being white lets you start life with a tiny advantage (or a huge advantage) over POC does nothing to denigrate you. It’s reality. At least be open to the idea that you- a white person- are not in the position to tell a POC that racism isn’t a thing. How would you really know?

And it’s been said often but think of this example - if Obama had done one tenth of the moronic missteps Trump has done (& imagine the things we DON’T know) people would have been up in arms with variations of how dare he, etc etc. Does anyone NOT agree with that? & I’m not talking about policy decisions, I’m talking about the lies, the misogyny, his lack of character. The bar would never have been lowered so far down for a black position

Same. DCUM was hijacked by non-DMV Trump supporters a couple years ago. The tone has drastically changed.

No it hasn’t people just feel more empowered to say ignorant sh** these days. Same people, same beliefs, now they say them out loud.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure why I’m surprised by the many dismissive comments on here, but I am. And a little disappointed.

OP wrote about something most people either avoid talking about or get defensive about- why the negativity?


OP , I think saying everyone is racist will make people who are very conscious of trying to treat everyone equally defensive- & that’s not helpful. And to the snippy posters , acknowledging that being white lets you start life with a tiny advantage (or a huge advantage) over POC does nothing to denigrate you. It’s reality. At least be open to the idea that you- a white person- are not in the position to tell a POC that racism isn’t a thing. How would you really know?

And it’s been said often but think of this example - if Obama had done one tenth of the moronic missteps Trump has done (& imagine the things we DON’T know) people would have been up in arms with variations of how dare he, etc etc. Does anyone NOT agree with that? & I’m not talking about policy decisions, I’m talking about the lies, the misogyny, his lack of character. The bar would never have been lowered so far down for a black position

Same. DCUM was hijacked by non-DMV Trump supporters a couple years ago. The tone has drastically changed.

No it hasn’t people just feel more empowered to say ignorant sh** these days. Same people, same beliefs, now they say them out loud.

Welcome to Democracy and Freedom of Speech, comrades.