Best friend wants DH to be a sperm donor

[Anonymous]

Has anyone asked the husband how he feels in this situation? It is his sperm after all.

Now as a DH, can any of you imagine your DW bringing this up to you? My "it's a trap" radar would be going haywire.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Curious about the collection process? Will she be sleeping with your husband for the collection? If so, your husband might be ok with it.

Honey, we'll need to schedule a few more sessions -- you know, just to be sure it takes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We grew up together and have been best friends since we were in grade school. She has been with me through thick and thin. She had a few bad relationships and a marriage that ended badly. I am happily married with two beautiful kids and a loving husband. DH is very successful and extremely intelligent. She admires him and DH and I both consider her a family. We are also reaching that age when our biological clock is ticking and she has been seriously thinking of finding a sperm donor. She has recently asked me if I’d be okay if DH is the donor. I am conflicted, WWYD?

It’s funny because I’m having the opposite problem as you, OP. I’m seeking a sperm donor and I was talking to my best friend about it and she offered her own husband! You haven’t experienced awkward until you have to tell a woman why you think her husband’s sperm isn’t good for you.

Then I was telling this story to another dear friend of mine... and she offered HER husband! WTF? Awkward again. He was nearby and overheard and got really excited and started telling me how genetically alpha he is and how I totally want his sperm. Blergh.

Now I have two fewer friends I can vent to/seek advice from in my journey because they made this awkward as hell!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Threesome

this

[Anonymous]

NO

[Anonymous]

I always liked The Big Chill.

[Anonymous]

Not okay. Also perhaps he already fathered that child and this is just
a little coverup for your consideration?

[Anonymous]

So I donated my eggs to a friend. Zero issues. And I'd say a big NO in your situation. Maybe if your friend was married. But being single, emotional baggage of bad relationships and a bad marriage plus admiring your husband (and probably being a little jealous of you) is a recipe for disaster

[Anonymous]

I could not do this, but I would not think less of someone who could/did.

My DH is obsessed with our daughter, always pointing out the features they share, etc. He doesn't have it in him to be a donor to a kid he would see all the time and not be a Father to that kid. (Yes, capital-F father.) I don't think that's what most people looking for a sperm donor want, and if that's what a particular donor wanted, that's a hard no for me because my kids/marriage come first.

But if you can do it in a way that feels natural and respectful of mutually-desired boundaries for all parties, that's wonderful.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Troll

Someone comments this on literally every thread. It’s so unhelpful. If you really think this is a troll (I don’t), just move on

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Scary thing is this crap happens all the time. Another reason why our society is so screwed up.

Exactly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I say it’s fine. And as how he donates, may I suggest direct deposit.

oh yeahhh

depends on the friend, but if DW told me one of her GFs had made such a request from me, I would suggest this^

[Anonymous]

Just in case someone would really ask that --- NO.