I wish I had known ABC before I joined club XYZ

[Anonymous]

I think the vast majority of players in the EPL and other major European leagues have, at one time in their youth training, played on "losing" teams for lack of a better word. The idea that you have to have "the best of the best of the best" at all times is not in the best interest of a kids development.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the vast majority of players in the EPL and other major European leagues have, at one time in their youth training, played on "losing" teams for lack of a better word. The idea that you have to have "the best of the best of the best" at all times is not in the best interest of a kids development.

100% agree. There are statistics that even in Europe the kids they identify early at young ages in the pro academies have a minuscule chance of making it all the way through to pro level. Most kids come from someplace else, small clubs and break-in later, the academies have a huge turnover in the teenage years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That BSC favors big fast athletes with marginal soccer IQ.

Not that I've seen.
The top team in my son's year is a bunch of short, fast athletes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That BSC favors big fast athletes with marginal soccer IQ.

Not that I've seen.
The top team in my son's year is a bunch of short, fast athletes.

Is your son u12 or younger?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That BSC favors big fast athletes with marginal soccer IQ.

Not that I've seen.
The top team in my son's year is a bunch of short, fast athletes.

Is your son u12 or younger?

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That BSC favors big fast athletes with marginal soccer IQ.

Not that I've seen.
The top team in my son's year is a bunch of short, fast athletes.

Is your son u12 or younger?

Yes.

Wait until 11 v 11 on a full field.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That BSC favors big fast athletes with marginal soccer IQ.

Not that I've seen.
The top team in my son's year is a bunch of short, fast athletes.

Is your son u12 or younger?

Yes.

Wait until 11 v 11 on a full field.

Exactly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Play multiple sports and cross train. Your DD can handle a busy schedule

Does their school grades and activities suffer from this?

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Nope, in fact, they're better students from it because they've learned how to prioritze, focus, and adapt. DD is in multiple honors classes. Teach them to be brave and try new things. Do it early because after a certain age, you won't be able to get them to try a new sport or activity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Play multiple sports and cross train. Your DD can handle a busy schedule

Does their school grades and activities suffer from this?

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Nope, in fact, they're better students from it because they've learned how to prioritze, focus, and adapt. DD is in multiple honors classes. Teach them to be brave and try new things. Do it early because after a certain age, you won't be able to get them to try a new sport or activity.

At a higher level, you may have to make a choice. One of our DA players asked to miss two practices due to a final exam and the coaches said "fine, good luck". But when the game came that weekend they benched her and said "next time show up for practice". We've met a few other DA parents who have moved schools to get "less intense academics" so they have enough time for soccer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Play multiple sports and cross train. Your DD can handle a busy schedule

Does their school grades and activities suffer from this?

(

Nope, in fact, they're better students from it because they've learned how to prioritze, focus, and adapt. DD is in multiple honors classes. Teach them to be brave and try new things. Do it early because after a certain age, you won't be able to get them to try a new sport or activity.

At a higher level, you may have to make a choice. One of our DA players asked to miss two practices due to a final exam and the coaches said "fine, good luck". But when the game came that weekend they benched her and said "next time show up for practice". We've met a few other DA parents who have moved schools to get "less intense academics" so they have enough time for soccer.

Poor club environment. My DD maintains a 4.2 with AP classes in the mix, while still being a starter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Play multiple sports and cross train. Your DD can handle a busy schedule

Does their school grades and activities suffer from this?

(

Nope, in fact, they're better students from it because they've learned how to prioritze, focus, and adapt. DD is in multiple honors classes. Teach them to be brave and try new things. Do it early because after a certain age, you won't be able to get them to try a new sport or activity.

At a higher level, you may have to make a choice. One of our DA players asked to miss two practices due to a final exam and the coaches said "fine, good luck". But when the game came that weekend they benched her and said "next time show up for practice". We've met a few other DA parents who have moved schools to get "less intense academics" so they have enough time for soccer.

Poor club environment. My DD maintains a 4.2 with AP classes in the mix, while still being a starter.

Well, the kids shouldn't miss practice to study especially at the DA level.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Play multiple sports and cross train. Your DD can handle a busy schedule

Does their school grades and activities suffer from this?

(

Nope, in fact, they're better students from it because they've learned how to prioritze, focus, and adapt. DD is in multiple honors classes. Teach them to be brave and try new things. Do it early because after a certain age, you won't be able to get them to try a new sport or activity.

At a higher level, you may have to make a choice. One of our DA players asked to miss two practices due to a final exam and the coaches said "fine, good luck". But when the game came that weekend they benched her and said "next time show up for practice". We've met a few other DA parents who have moved schools to get "less intense academics" so they have enough time for soccer.

Poor club environment. My DD maintains a 4.2 with AP classes in the mix, while still being a starter.

Well, the kids shouldn't miss practice to study especially at the DA level.

I’m surprised that the parents didn’t withdraw their DD competed from school to focus on soccer. Who needs to read/write if they can play soccer.

[Anonymous]

I know of a kid currently playing at the National team level and their parents took them out of traditional school and switched to tutors/homeschooling. Just no time for both

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Play multiple sports and cross train. Your DD can handle a busy schedule

Does their school grades and activities suffer from this?

(

Nope, in fact, they're better students from it because they've learned how to prioritze, focus, and adapt. DD is in multiple honors classes. Teach them to be brave and try new things. Do it early because after a certain age, you won't be able to get them to try a new sport or activity.

At a higher level, you may have to make a choice. One of our DA players asked to miss two practices due to a final exam and the coaches said "fine, good luck". But when the game came that weekend they benched her and said "next time show up for practice". We've met a few other DA parents who have moved schools to get "less intense academics" so they have enough time for soccer.

Poor club environment. My DD maintains a 4.2 with AP classes in the mix, while still being a starter.

Well, the kids shouldn't miss practice to study especially at the DA level.

I’m surprised that the parents didn’t withdraw their DD competed from school to focus on soccer. Who needs to read/write if they can play soccer.

Neither women or men are going to make a career out of soccer in the US. The pay is not big enough and the length of time one plays is not long---mid 30s tops.

Smart kids definitely should put more eggs in the academic basket. Now if your kid is just an average student or not particularly bright--then by all means it might be best to leverage athletics. I still would probably argue in favor of tutors instead of more practices though.

If the kid isn't stressed and schoolwork doesn't suffer a choice doesn't need to be made. Currently, my 8th grader easily gets As in HS level courses---but, trust me, those grades start to suffer in HS---it will be time to question how much time is being spent on the field.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Play multiple sports and cross train. Your DD can handle a busy schedule

Does their school grades and activities suffer from this?

(

Nope, in fact, they're better students from it because they've learned how to prioritze, focus, and adapt. DD is in multiple honors classes. Teach them to be brave and try new things. Do it early because after a certain age, you won't be able to get them to try a new sport or activity.

At a higher level, you may have to make a choice. One of our DA players asked to miss two practices due to a final exam and the coaches said "fine, good luck". But when the game came that weekend they benched her and said "next time show up for practice". We've met a few other DA parents who have moved schools to get "less intense academics" so they have enough time for soccer.

Sorry there is more to this story. We had a player who didn't go to practice but the coach knew she was not focused on her school work and wanted a last minute out. This is totally different than a kid who has an issue in a class where they talk to the coach and make a plan on how said kid can work at school or with a tutor. My daughter is a straight A student and she plays DA and another sport. She has to organize and it all works out. There is less down time for the social media stuff which is good.