Husband doesn't want to outsource lawn mowing...but also takes forever to get around to doing it...

[Anonymous]

Find out who does your neighbors lawn and contact them.

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Anonymous wrote:Find out who does your neighbors lawn and contact them.

This

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Anonymous wrote:I have begged him to let me hire a service and his response is always "but I LIKE mowing the lawn!" Maybe in April or October, but not any months with an average daytime temperature over 80. He lets it go way too long in between mowing it and it looks terrible.

And while he loathes spending money to outsource things (took me years to get a cleaner) we can easily afford it. (No debt aside from mortgage, retirement and college savings more than on track.)

So, can I just ignore him? And outsource it anyway? He hasn't mowed it in two weeks and here we are again 5:30pm on Saturday night and he hasn't mowed and made no mention of doing so. Will fighting about the lawn service be any worse than fighting about him not mowing the lawn? At least then it would be mowed...

Yes. Just outsource it. It's what i did after i got tired of mowing the lawn and DH thought 3 weeks between mows was ok. It's worked fine.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg what a lazy woman. Get out and do it yourself!! Why do you have to rely on him? Are you disabled?

Maybe she is. Or maybe she's doing a shitload of other chores. Does it matter to you why she won't mow?

Outsource. Best thing I did. I asked a neighbor who they use. And they only come by whenthe lawn needs it. Try to find a local guy / company.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg what a lazy woman. Get out and do it yourself!! Why do you have to rely on him? Are you disabled?

Maybe she is. Or maybe she's doing a shitload of other chores. Does it matter to you why she won't mow?

Outsource. Best thing I did. I asked a neighbor who they use. And they only come by whenthe lawn needs it. Try to find a local guy / company.

Or maybe she does nothing but nagging. All possibilities.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a woman and I love how the women on this thread defend the OP when someone suggest that SHE mow. If she’s a capable adult that would be my suggestion too. Yes I see she says that her husband likes to mow but obviously he doesn’t- or he’d be out mowing. Typical DCUm response is to throw money at it.

Yes, that is the grown-up adult response. Good job on recognizing it.


Had this exact issue with ex. Yes, MRAers I am perfectly capable of doing the task myself but simply didn't want to. It wasn't a question of "just ignore it", we started getting letters from the city threatening fines if not taken care of in a week or something. He finally agreed to hire a neighbor after that.

[Anonymous]

Good for him, trying to do it himself. It seems you two have given up on the basic life task of cleaning your home.

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Anonymous wrote:Omg what a lazy woman. Get out and do it yourself!! Why do you have to rely on him? Are you disabled?

Maybe she is. Or maybe she's doing a shitload of other chores. Does it matter to you why she won't mow?

Outsource. Best thing I did. I asked a neighbor who they use. And they only come by whenthe lawn needs it. Try to find a local guy / company.

Does it matter? Yes it matters because she is here bit*hing about her husband and she is not willing to do it herself. Yes it matters!!

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Anonymous wrote:Stop worrying about what the neighbours think. He'll mow it when he is ready.

How would you feel if he complained that dinner wasn't ready on time?

This type of nagging is detrimental. Life is too short.

Similar situation here. But if I called a lawn service it would be a HUGE argument since he doesn't want to pay the money and likes to do it himself (just not to the same standard or frequency I would like it done). It isn't worth the conflict. I let it grow and say nothing. Because there are some days when he has to look into the dryer for a clean pair of underwear because I got behind on laundry Or dinner is super late because I didn't get it done before school pick up followed by a afternoon sports. He never complains about my shortcomings with my tasks.

This would be a nuclear level argument in our house. So there are some things I just live with.

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Maybe he's an environmentalist. Stay in your lane.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe he's an environmentalist. Stay in your lane.

I'm an environmentalist. I use Reel mower. But i don't let it get long and untidy.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Omg what a lazy woman. Get out and do it yourself!! Why do you have to rely on him? Are you disabled?

Maybe she is. Or maybe she's doing a shitload of other chores. Does it matter to you why she won't mow?

Outsource. Best thing I did. I asked a neighbor who they use. And they only come by whenthe lawn needs it. Try to find a local guy / company.

Does it matter? Yes it matters because she is here bit*hing about her husband and she is not willing to do it herself. Yes it matters!!

Still doesn't matter. This is his job that he is failing to do after repeatedly promising that he would.

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Anonymous wrote:Stop worrying about what the neighbours think. He'll mow it when he is ready.

How would you feel if he complained that dinner wasn't ready on time?

This type of nagging is detrimental. Life is too short.

If dinner it's repeatedly late? And you offered to hire a chef? Who would turn that down?

I don't hear that she's nagging. There's no evidence of that.

[Anonymous]

I fought this for years. He would say he would do it but it was never a priority. Or, run out and do it but not edge so always looked half done.

I grew up with a father who always had a beautiful lawn and just did it. I expected my doh to be this way - no.

I also woh. I still clean, cook, plan, do all kid things. It was one thing I expected him to take on.

I finally said do it or I’m calling a service next week. He agreed. He was not being mean but it was not on his radar as he did not seem to notice it the way I did. I think he finally admitted to himself he’d never make it the priority it should be or I wanted it to be.

Two summers later it’s the best decision.

Ps. You could also see if a neighborhood kid would do it and say you are helping him with his business!

[Anonymous]

Girl I’ve had the same problem year after year. This year I just signed a contract in April or May without telling him (they come when he’s at work). He hardly even noticed. It took until July for him to mention how nice it was to not have to cut the grass as he finally realized I had hired someone.

He wanted it but didn’t want to want it, if that makes sense. I’m so glad I did it. Makes life so much easier.