Husband doesn't want to outsource lawn mowing...but also takes forever to get around to doing it...

[Anonymous]

There are a lot of issues here. What is high grass? When can he mow? I love to mow my own grass but it takes me two hours with a push mower and I need to set aside an afternoon or late morning when the grass is dry(er). It actually better for the grass to mow it high. It stimulates spreading and prevents weeds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not being snarky, but is there some reason that you can't mow the lawn? I do it and enjoy it. DH doesn't enjoy it so he puts it off often. I just get it done and consider it exercise.

Women don’t want that kind of equality.

I’m a woman and I agree!

[Anonymous]

Sit him down and be nice about it. Tell him how it makes you feel -- embarrassed, maybe, or afraid of Lime disease. Tell him that he works hard all week and it's too hot to be out mowing grass and you'd prefer he spend the time with the kids. Tell him on a Friday, and close with telling him you'll pay to have it cut in Monday. If he doesn't do it over the weekend, have it cut during the day while you're both at work.

My home went to shit when my DH kept saying he wanted to do certain things do and didn't. I deferred to him for too long and things piled up. We really didn't have the disposable income to have people do random chores for us like hanging curtain rods and mowing grass -- things I COULD do, but he said he wanted to do them.

He was hospitalized at one point and I took advantage to call in several people do most things while I did other things. He pouted about it when he got home, and still brings it up occasionally. But you know what? I was so so much more at peace at home with all the trash hauled out of the garage, the walls spackled, the curtain rods hung, and the grass mowed and edged.

[Anonymous]

I’ve been here. DW wanted to hire it out and eventually we did. Now our lawn is not as nice. They cut it too low, dull blades, cut up a hill of juniper. However, I used to stall during heatwaves or if I was busy. It’s never perfect.

[Anonymous]

Our grass (cannot call it a lawn) is very high. The front and back gardens are a mess. I abandoned this fight long ago. If my husband, with ADHD he refuses to treat, neglects the maintenance he insists on not outsourcing, I ignore it. I prefer to nag him on getting his important paperwork done on time!!!! Priorities.

[Anonymous]

I’m a woman and I love how the women on this thread defend the OP when someone suggest that SHE mow. If she’s a capable adult that would be my suggestion too. Yes I see she says that her husband likes to mow but obviously he doesn’t- or he’d be out mowing. Typical DCUm response is to throw money at it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not being snarky, but is there some reason that you can't mow the lawn? I do it and enjoy it. DH doesn't enjoy it so he puts it off often. I just get it done and consider it exercise.

We had a lawn service for years. They are expensive and they are very rough on the grass. Grass was not looking good. And in the shape it can’t take mowing with heavy equipment full blades every week. But they charge double to skip a week
So I bought an electric lawnmower and do it myself. It takes 30 minutes and I need the exercise. The lawn looks better also. We hire a gardener to do spring and fall cleanup. I just got tired of paying them to do a bad job. DH does the shade yard and the $ goes to the vacation fund

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been here. DW wanted to hire it out and eventually we did. Now our lawn is not as nice. They cut it too low, dull blades, cut up a hill of juniper. However, I used to stall during heatwaves or if I was busy. It’s never perfect.

Typical -- the wife either does it herself or hired someone when the man doesn't do his part, and then he criticizes how it's done.

[Anonymous]

If it’s his task then he decides how and how often it gets done. Quit nagging or tell him you’d like to share the task with him also. When it’s your turn you can hire someone or do it yourself, same as he can when it’s his turn.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been here. DW wanted to hire it out and eventually we did. Now our lawn is not as nice. They cut it too low, dull blades, cut up a hill of juniper. However, I used to stall during heatwaves or if I was busy. It’s never perfect.

Typical -- the wife either does it herself or hired someone when the man doesn't do his part, and then he criticizes how it's done.

Sunday morning sexist shows up...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a woman and I love how the women on this thread defend the OP when someone suggest that SHE mow. If she’s a capable adult that would be my suggestion too. Yes I see she says that her husband likes to mow but obviously he doesn’t- or he’d be out mowing. Typical DCUm response is to throw money at it.

If they afford to outsource it and OP doesn't want to mow, why should she?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Send an anonymous complaint about your own house to your HOA.

Hahaha!! This is a great idea. I have a number of issues similar to the OP’s dilemma that I could report.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a woman and I love how the women on this thread defend the OP when someone suggest that SHE mow. If she’s a capable adult that would be my suggestion too. Yes I see she says that her husband likes to mow but obviously he doesn’t- or he’d be out mowing. Typical DCUm response is to throw money at it.

What’s wrong with throwing money at it if you can afford it? 200 years ago people built their own houses, made their own clothes, grew/raised/processed their own food, cooked everything from scratch, even made their own soap. Nowadays we outsource everything, but cutting the lawn is suddenly crossing the line?

I’m a woman who does all yard work and handy work because my DH refuses to, and I have zero problem if other women would rather pay someone to do it. If I started slacking off on the yard, I’d expect that my DH would hire someone. It’s not a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Just hire someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it’s his task then he decides how and how often it gets done. Quit nagging or tell him you’d like to share the task with him also. When it’s your turn you can hire someone or do it yourself, same as he can when it’s his turn.

The lawn needs a certain amount of care to look good. If it gets too long and then you cut it short not very healthy for the lawn. Then it needs repair. So to keep it nice you can’t mow it whenever.