Who gets a party favor?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS's party was last month and we gave out copies of his favorite book- Little Blue Truck as a party favor. I was shocked how many adults took one home and I had to grab other random things for the actual kids at the party. Older women loved it and were taking copies because they go to a lot of baby showers and always need books to give (!).

DD's party is next month and I'm trying to see how many books I should get. We're having a house party and siblings are coming. I'm going to stand my ground and state that the books are for the kids. But which kids? Just the kids her age? What about the older siblings? Or maybe one book per family?

One book per family and put each family/child's name on them. Hoarding books to regift is rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you had a bunch of childless people and people who have adult kids who missed the whole birthday party trend by decades and did not understand that the favors were not for all guests (like they would have been at a wedding) but for only the children.

Hmmmm....I know plenty of people with kids who are pretty greedy. It's usually my friends without kids who are shocked at how selfish parents behave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you had a bunch of childless people and people who have adult kids who missed the whole birthday party trend by decades and did not understand that the favors were not for all guests (like they would have been at a wedding) but for only the children.

This is my guess. I don’t think they were meaning to be rude or greedy. But I also agree if you aren’t accepting gifts from guests, you shouldn’t be sending them home with favors. No gifts goes along with saying, you already have a lot of stuff and don’t want more stuff...so don’t turn around and give people stuff