Who gets a party favor?

[Anonymous]

That's insane, and I've never seen that. We always hand out favors at the end of the party, as the kids are leaving. So there would never be a box out or whatever for people to just grab.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - I would have been very blunt and told them to stop taking the favors for the children. My aunt would and has done things like this before. My teenage daughter made these really pretty Christmas ornaments one year and brought them to give out to all the extended relatives at Thanksgiving so they could put them on their trees. Greedy aunt ran to get a box and then started collecting over half and cheerily talking about these will be great for Christmas gifts. DD didn't know what to do so I stopped my aunt in law and told her, it is one per relative put them back now.

She made a fat pouty face, reluctantly put them back and then proceeded to badger DD about coming to her house to make more. She had the nerve to then repeatedly text several times where her ornaments were and she needed them soon to give out to her friends and family on her husband's side.

Some people are just incredibly greedy and love to score a free deal. I really hate these types.

That’s terrible!

[Anonymous]

I did books last year for DDs 6th bday
I did one book per kid. I had them in a basket which i brought out as they were leaving. No adults without kids were there but even if they were i would have said " No those are for kids only"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m new to this and also wondered if I should get favors for adults. There are so many adults at first birthday parties.

we did general favors for everyone at our dds first birthday party. The theme was her favorite fruit and so I got salt water taffy in that flavor and put it into little bags for anyone to take. The child guests each had a book favor as well, but I put those in labeled bags for the children. There was a range of ages, so I had different books for my older nieces than for the toddlers.

[Anonymous]

For the first 5 years I did no gifts please parties and got simple favors (a balloon, dough, wooden robot) and just made sure to get more than I thought I’d need for kids and siblings. Kids love favors and I wouldn’t want one to feel left out for being a couple of years older/younger and already having to tag along. I want all the kids to have a good included experience. Not once did an adult grab a favor, it was unthinkable but I do believe you. Maybe they thought they were taking a surplus off your hands? I really don’t understand voluntarily taking on clutter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None, most of us have that book and don't need another copy. No one needs a party favor. Its a great book choice but unnecessary.

That was the previous party...

I have three kids and we don’t have that book. Great favor!

[Anonymous]

Ok, so I have not read all the responses. Normally though, the invited kids get a favor (and sometimes siblings) Adults NEVER get favor meant for a child. If they are taking a favor, it's rude and I would ask them to please put it back. Better yet, wrap the favor and put the child's name on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok, so I have not read all the responses. Normally though, the invited kids get a favor (and sometimes siblings) Adults NEVER get favor meant for a child. If they are taking a favor, it's rude and I would ask them to please put it back. Better yet, wrap the favor and put the child's name on it.

But at a toddler/baby party, a lot of the invitees are adults. I've tried having a family party and a kids party but the adults only want to attend the kid party.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DS's party was last month and we gave out copies of his favorite book- Little Blue Truck as a party favor. I was shocked how many adults took one home and I had to grab other random things for the actual kids at the party. Older women loved it and were taking copies because they go to a lot of baby showers and always need books to give (!).

DD's party is next month and I'm trying to see how many books I should get. We're having a house party and siblings are coming. I'm going to stand my ground and state that the books are for the kids. But which kids? Just the kids her age? What about the older siblings? Or maybe one book per family?

The actual KIDS WHO WERE INVITED get a party favor with their name on it.

If a mom asks about siblings, you say, "oh sorry, we just have party favors for the kids her age."

And random adult family members?? I'm speechless. I honestly would never have people that rude over at my house again, party or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - I would have been very blunt and told them to stop taking the favors for the children. My aunt would and has done things like this before. My teenage daughter made these really pretty Christmas ornaments one year and brought them to give out to all the extended relatives at Thanksgiving so they could put them on their trees. Greedy aunt ran to get a box and then started collecting over half and cheerily talking about these will be great for Christmas gifts. DD didn't know what to do so I stopped my aunt in law and told her, it is one per relative put them back now.

She made a fat pouty face, reluctantly put them back and then proceeded to badger DD about coming to her house to make more. She had the nerve to then repeatedly text several times where her ornaments were and she needed them soon to give out to her friends and family on her husband's side.

Some people are just incredibly greedy and love to score a free deal. I really hate these types.

[Anonymous]

Party favors and goody bags should be outlawed. Only the birthday child should get presents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:PP here. I did one $5 return gift per family.

At another 1st birthday party, the host gave fancy handmade soaps from etsy to every kid who attended.

At another one, it was a herb plant per family. A lollipop for each kid.

What’s a return gift? A gift card?

I've had that happen at a birthday party. Every kid got a $5 Amazon gift card in an envelope.

But by return gift, I mean small trinkets(think wedding favors). It could be anything from a pretty bowl to a plant to a small figurine. The return gift is popular in other cultures for 1st birthday parties.

[Anonymous]

PP here. I'm not even sure if there is such a thing as return gifts in American culture

[Anonymous]

https://birthdayinspire.com/birthday-return-gift-ideas/

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you had a bunch of childless people and people who have adult kids who missed the whole birthday party trend by decades and did not understand that the favors were not for all guests (like they would have been at a wedding) but for only the children.