My celebrity friend sent me two Fendi gift baskets and a Birkin to celebrate her pregnancy?
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I am genuinely confused, OP. Are you just a really bored troll who fails at humor and can't even come up with a good troll post? If you claim you are not, do you truly believe that as this person's random friend who they met one time at a nonprofit, and found out they both like the same TV channel, is in any way shape or form in a position to issue judgment or scolding on their pregnancy? In your words, she did not come to you saying "help, sister, I don't know what to do." You say she "let me know she was pregnant" as in.... announced her pregnancy. You are not entitled to an opinion or a judgment. You barely know this person. "She got really upset" because the ONLY thing you say when someone announces their pregnancy to you is congratulations. Maybe how can you help? Not "Ew. You aren't EVEN in a SERIOUS relationship. *Who are you, random person this woman met once months ago, to decide you get to arbitrate her womb and sex life, by the way??* Then to immediately jump to "I can't relate, I have no advice" - ew. You are a shitty person and friend. No wonder you think this is a soulless city and you are aching to find a "real connection" and have no friends. Let me give you a hint. Stop being judgmental and try being a listener (listen to LISTEN, not to respond.... I know that'll be hard for you), try being compassionate, try being caring. It'll work wonders. What you have shared about this 'relationship' is that you are awkward and overbearing and intensely capricious and judgmental. You "made up over lunch"... as in you probably demanded an apology from her. Did you apologize for being crass and desultory? I bet you didn't. SHE doesn't respect YOUR boundaries? How about the boundary of - someone is announcing a pregnancy. You barely know this person (Or, you claim you are 'sisters' even after meeting once and texting about a Lifetime movie. Regardless...). The only proper response is congratulations and support. What boundary were you respecting when you shamed and patronized her? You say that "I drafted a thank you note and will send it out tomorrow morning. She and I bickered a bit. She was never mean, but I thought for awhile she was uncharacteristically grumpy. But we are okay now and I will just resolve to move forward." 1- What kind of 'drafting' does a thank you note for gifts given require? Hint: none... But since etiquette does not seem to be your strong point, I'll teach you that it should absolutely be hand-written and not typed, and if your stationery has "thank you" pre-printed on it, return it to Target and go by Papyrus and buy some real stationery. 2- What on EARTH did you bicker about, unless she was defending herself against your disdainful and pious attitude? What do you have to bicker with her about? That you do not approve of her pregnancy? Guess what - not your womb, not your place to have an opinion. 3- She was never mean - that's a bummer, maybe she should have been. You could have finally learned a lesson about how to interact with humans. 4- I thought for a while she was uncharacteristically grumpy - hi. Let me introduce you to this thing called pregnancy hormones. I'm sure nobody has procreated with you since you cannot carry on basic human conversation, and that you have never interacted with someone pregnant (especially given that in 2019, you seem to think that one must be in an OMG SO SERIOUS relationship to have a child.... And must be scorned if not :roll  .... But pregnant people are emotional and moody. Hormones are raging and absolutely impact their moods and emotions. I would tell you to have some compassion but you have made it more than clear that you are less than capable of that. So maybe read a Wikipedia page or something about social norms, and what is acceptable and normal with pregnancy.
5- I will just resolve to move forward - ... from WHAT? You are SO dramatic, I cannot fathom that this person really thinks you are worth their time. Maybe they pity you, or see you as that awkward ostracized cousin for whom they feel compassion and sympathy. But what on EARTH has happened in your life (or maybe, what hasn't happened?) that you think that this situation is in any way, shape or form about you? That you are owed an apology? That you will just "move forward" as if you were so harshly wronged by a random stranger's out of wedlock pregnancy, and failure to regulate their pregnancy emotions to the level you deemed appropriate? 6- Going back to the beginning - you say "How do other [b]DC Mom's[/b] deal with celebrity friends?" ... Wait so you really are claiming you are a parent? With a partner and children? It is moms, not mom's, for the record. |
Anonymous
Ah yes! I remember now. But if it’s that D list rapper someone linked to earlier, I can’t imagine they are swimming in Birkins. |
Anonymous
It was a bobcat. They got married. Last time Bobcat Girl posted, they were trying for a baby. |
Anonymous
This is who I thought of first. |
Anonymous
I think it was pretty awful and not at all friendly of you to respond in the way that you did when she shared her pregnancy. She seems happy about being pregnant. Why do you think that it is your business to primly comment on "her situation"? She's a woman who got pregnant. Was she asking you whether she should continue the pregnancy? Was she asking you how to deal with morning sickness? Was she asking you how to conceal her pregnancy for as long as possible so that she could continue to work as a performer without commentary? When someone gives you a gift, the appropriate response is to thank them. If the gift is too extravagant for you, have a conversation with your "deep sisterly friend" and tell her that while you appreciate her consideration, you want her to know that such presents are not necessary for your friendship and that you would rather a shared experience or a thoughtful note or whatever in lieu of expensive gifts. Pro tip: a great way to sever "a real connection" is to make your friend feel slutty and like she can't talk to you about what's going on in her life. |
Anonymous
She is not a celebrity. She thinks she is, though, clearly. |
Anonymous
I think this is the same person too. And to the other person who asked, yes, the one who claimed to have seen her friends' bank balance when the friend handed over her phone to show pictures. If so, it's Yung Miami from the City Girls. |
Anonymous
| Yoooo hooooooooooooo OP? Where are you? |
Anonymous
True, and op may too. |
Anonymous
Awww a baby bobcat! |
Anonymous
So... nobody. |
Anonymous
So many of the responses have been so negative towards me that I don't know what to do. I realize I messed up in some regards but felt justified for some of my other actions. I did the best I could at the time. And no, I will not reveal the identity and please do not guess. |
Anonymous
 I do not give a damn who this person is, so don't you fret your little head over that. I'm the poster of the below questions, and think it would be very cathartic and an introspective experience for you to read through and answer these honestly.
Do you truly believe that as this person's random friend who they met one time at a nonprofit, and found out they both like the same TV channel, is in any way shape or form in a position to issue judgment or scolding on their pregnancy? In your words, she did not come to you saying "help, sister, I don't know what to do." You say she "let me know she was pregnant" as in.... announced her pregnancy. You are not entitled to an opinion or a judgment. You barely know this person. "She got really upset" because the ONLY thing you say when someone announces their pregnancy to you is congratulations. Maybe how can you help? Not "Ew. You aren't EVEN in a SERIOUS relationship. *Who are you, random person this woman met once months ago, to decide you get to arbitrate her womb and sex life, by the way??* Then to immediately jump to "I can't relate, I have no advice" - ew. You are a shitty person and friend. No wonder you think this is a soulless city and you are aching to find a "real connection" and have no friends. Let me give you a hint. Stop being judgmental and try being a listener (listen to LISTEN, not to respond.... I know that'll be hard for you), try being compassionate, try being caring. It'll work wonders. What you have shared about this 'relationship' is that you are awkward and overbearing and intensely capricious and judgmental. You "made up over lunch"... as in you probably demanded an apology from her. Did you apologize for being crass and desultory? I bet you didn't. SHE doesn't respect YOUR boundaries? How about the boundary of - someone is announcing a pregnancy. You barely know this person (Or, you claim you are 'sisters' even after meeting once and texting about a Lifetime movie. Regardless...). The only proper response is congratulations and support. What boundary were you respecting when you shamed and patronized her? You say that "I drafted a thank you note and will send it out tomorrow morning. She and I bickered a bit. She was never mean, but I thought for awhile she was uncharacteristically grumpy. But we are okay now and I will just resolve to move forward." 1- What kind of 'drafting' does a thank you note for gifts given require? Hint: none... But since etiquette does not seem to be your strong point, I'll teach you that it should absolutely be hand-written and not typed, and if your stationery has "thank you" pre-printed on it, return it to Target and go by Papyrus and buy some real stationery. 2- What on EARTH did you bicker about, unless she was defending herself against your disdainful and pious attitude? What do you have to bicker with her about? That you do not approve of her pregnancy? Guess what - not your womb, not your place to have an opinion. 3- She was never mean - that's a bummer, maybe she should have been. You could have finally learned a lesson about how to interact with humans. 4- I thought for a while she was uncharacteristically grumpy - hi. Let me introduce you to this thing called pregnancy hormones. I'm sure nobody has procreated with you since you cannot carry on basic human conversation, and that you have never interacted with someone pregnant (especially given that in 2019, you seem to think that one must be in an OMG SO SERIOUS relationship to have a child.... And must be scorned if not :roll.... But pregnant people are emotional and moody. Hormones are raging and absolutely impact their moods and emotions. I would tell you to have some compassion but you have made it more than clear that you are less than capable of that. So maybe read a Wikipedia page or something about social norms, and what is acceptable and normal with pregnancy. 5- I will just resolve to move forward - ... from WHAT? You are SO dramatic, I cannot fathom that this person really thinks you are worth their time. Maybe they pity you, or see you as that awkward ostracized cousin for whom they feel compassion and sympathy. But what on EARTH has happened in your life (or maybe, what hasn't happened?) that you think that this situation is in any way, shape or form about you? That you are owed an apology? That you will just "move forward" as if you were so harshly wronged by a random stranger's out of wedlock pregnancy, and failure to regulate their pregnancy emotions to the level you deemed appropriate? 6- Going back to the beginning - you say "How do other DC Mom's deal with celebrity friends?" ... Wait so you really are claiming you are a parent? With a partner and children? It is moms, not mom's, for the record. |
Anonymous
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Op, you have nobody to talk to besides this board? I’m not surprised. If this is how you treat a casual friend who is pregnant, how do you expect to make good friends and confidantes? |
Anonymous
New poster here, and never heard of Yung Miami...but when I googled her, a lot of stuff came up about her being pregnant. Apparently it's not a secret at all. |