Armchair diagnosticians! What is this personality disorder?

[Anonymous]

She really sounds avoidant to me The criteria for avoidant are:

Easily hurt by criticism or disapproval
No close friends
Reluctance to become involved with people
Avoidance of activities or occupations that involve contact with others
Shyness in social situations out of fear of doing something wrong
Exaggeration of potential difficulties
Showing excessive restraint in intimate relationships
Feeling socially inept, inferior, or unappealing to other people
Unwilling to take risks or try new things because they may prove embarrassing

Schizoaffective disorder is marked by a mood disorder coupled with delusions or hallucinations. The conspiracy theory stuff points to possible delusions. The behavior points to possible depression.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Once you know their game- Narcs are actually hilarious. They are so predictable. You can play Narc Bingo where you get points for everytime they can't admit they are wrong, every time they play the victim, inflate their own knowledge etc.

My Narc mom explains medicine to me despite having not taken biology since before they understood what viruses were. I'm a doctor. Sometimes I play along with her bull to see how deep she can dig the hole.
Dont let them work you.

Lol! We do a drinking game! So, yes!

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Anonymous wrote:Once you know their game- Narcs are actually hilarious. They are so predictable. You can play Narc Bingo where you get points for everytime they can't admit they are wrong, every time they play the victim, inflate their own knowledge etc.

My Narc mom explains medicine to me despite having not taken biology since before they understood what viruses were. I'm a doctor. Sometimes I play along with her bull to see how deep she can dig the hole.
Dont let them work you.

Lol! We do a drinking game! So, yes!

Ok, you are a doctor and she assumes that she knows more about whatever medicine? That's amazing...what do you do?

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Anonymous wrote:Once you know their game- Narcs are actually hilarious. They are so predictable. You can play Narc Bingo where you get points for everytime they can't admit they are wrong, every time they play the victim, inflate their own knowledge etc.

My Narc mom explains medicine to me despite having not taken biology since before they understood what viruses were. I'm a doctor. Sometimes I play along with her bull to see how deep she can dig the hole.
Dont let them work you.

Lol! We do a drinking game! So, yes!

https://www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/comments/2kwypi/narcissist_bingo_card_for_those_times_you_need_to/

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Anonymous wrote:Once you know their game- Narcs are actually hilarious. They are so predictable. You can play Narc Bingo where you get points for everytime they can't admit they are wrong, every time they play the victim, inflate their own knowledge etc.

My Narc mom explains medicine to me despite having not taken biology since before they understood what viruses were. I'm a doctor. Sometimes I play along with her bull to see how deep she can dig the hole.
Dont let them work you.

Lol! We do a drinking game! So, yes!

Ok, you are a doctor and she assumes that she knows more about whatever medicine? That's amazing...what do you do?

I used to try to point out my credentials. She just got huffy and then pouted. She also has an inferiority complex as the one person in the family without an advanced degree.

Now I just grey rock and give my DH "the look"and we make jokes about it later. Sometimes I try to get her to talk more so she looks more like an ass but that gets old.

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Anonymous wrote:Once you know their game- Narcs are actually hilarious. They are so predictable. You can play Narc Bingo where you get points for everytime they can't admit they are wrong, every time they play the victim, inflate their own knowledge etc.

My Narc mom explains medicine to me despite having not taken biology since before they understood what viruses were. I'm a doctor. Sometimes I play along with her bull to see how deep she can dig the hole.
Dont let them work you.

Lol! We do a drinking game! So, yes!

Ok, you are a doctor and she assumes that she knows more about whatever medicine? That's amazing...what do you do?

I used to try to point out my credentials. She just got huffy and then pouted. She also has an inferiority complex as the one person in the family without an advanced degree.

Now I just grey rock and give my DH "the look"and we make jokes about it later. Sometimes I try to get her to talk more so she looks more like an ass but that gets old.

Yes, this is it...knows everything and it's rooted in a lack of confidence. But, it's harder because it is your Mom, and you do probably love her, NPD and all. You probably have figured a lot out over time. With me, if I never have to see this relative again, I would be OK with that. I don't wish her harm, but could she just move away?

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President Trump

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Anonymous wrote:Once you know their game- Narcs are actually hilarious. They are so predictable. You can play Narc Bingo where you get points for everytime they can't admit they are wrong, every time they play the victim, inflate their own knowledge etc.

My Narc mom explains medicine to me despite having not taken biology since before they understood what viruses were. I'm a doctor. Sometimes I play along with her bull to see how deep she can dig the hole.
Dont let them work you.

Lol! We do a drinking game! So, yes!

Ok, you are a doctor and she assumes that she knows more about whatever medicine? That's amazing...what do you do?

I used to try to point out my credentials. She just got huffy and then pouted. She also has an inferiority complex as the one person in the family without an advanced degree.

Now I just grey rock and give my DH "the look"and we make jokes about it later. Sometimes I try to get her to talk more so she looks more like an ass but that gets old.

Yes, this is it...knows everything and it's rooted in a lack of confidence. But, it's harder because it is your Mom, and you do probably love her, NPD and all. You probably have figured a lot out over time. With me, if I never have to see this relative again, I would be OK with that. I don't wish her harm, but could she just move away?

Yes I do love my mom and shes actually really nice to the kids and controls her Narc side.

As far as your relative, you have to just let her bull crap slide off your back. Just let her be dumb and mouth off like a dumb neighbor kid. And your inlaws won't live forever and once they pass you will deal with her much less.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:President Trump

Yup

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Narcissistic personality disorder combined with untreated ASD.

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This. To a tee.

Well, though, I always thought these types end up in power positions in their life, but this person actively seeks to not get out of her comfort zone.

Her position of power may well be through controlling and manipulating her family.

This is correct. They don’t have to be lawyers/senators/surgeons. Their fiefdom of manipulative terror can be their neighborhood block, their family, their church bible study, the PTA, etc. Ask me how I know, sigh.

Ok, this makes sense. So, how to deal? ...no matter what boundary or distance we set up, she finds a way to go around. It's very anxiety producing. And it's all the time. I actively avoid getting into anything with her...just refuse to, but that stokes the fire even more.

My soulution is just to avoid every possible interaction with people like this, in this case, severely limiting our interactions with my husband’s side of the family. There is no fixing the head cases, the only strategy to mitigate is to avoid.

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Anonymous wrote:Narcissistic personality disorder

This. To a tee.

Well, though, I always thought these types end up in power positions in their life, but this person actively seeks to not get out of her comfort zone.

Her position of power may well be through controlling and manipulating her family.

This is correct. They don’t have to be lawyers/senators/surgeons. Their fiefdom of manipulative terror can be their neighborhood block, their family, their church bible study, the PTA, etc. Ask me how I know, sigh.

Ok, this makes sense. So, how to deal? ...no matter what boundary or distance we set up, she finds a way to go around. It's very anxiety producing. And it's all the time. I actively avoid getting into anything with her...just refuse to, but that stokes the fire even more.

My soulution is just to avoid every possible interaction with people like this, in this case, severely limiting our interactions with my husband’s side of the family. There is no fixing the head cases, the only strategy to mitigate is to avoid.

Yes, I think so

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Anonymous wrote:Narcissistic personality disorder

This. To a tee.

Well, though, I always thought these types end up in power positions in their life, but this person actively seeks to not get out of her comfort zone.

Her position of power may well be through controlling and manipulating her family.

This is correct. They don’t have to be lawyers/senators/surgeons. Their fiefdom of manipulative terror can be their neighborhood block, their family, their church bible study, the PTA, etc. Ask me how I know, sigh.

Ok, this makes sense. So, how to deal? ...no matter what boundary or distance we set up, she finds a way to go around. It's very anxiety producing. And it's all the time. I actively avoid getting into anything with her...just refuse to, but that stokes the fire even more.

My soulution is just to avoid every possible interaction with people like this, in this case, severely limiting our interactions with my husband’s side of the family. There is no fixing the head cases, the only strategy to mitigate is to avoid.

Sometimes it's hard to do that when it us family, but, of course as much as possible.