Selling Hand Me downs?

[Anonymous]

My sister asked me for the clothes back so she could sell them. It was a little annoying and I felt guilty of something did not survive...but I complied.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I gifted a friend of my tubs and tubs of little girl clothing from new born to 2 T.
We are done having kids and my 2nd is a boy so i had no need for the clothing.
Well, she is finished having kids now too and her youngest girl is turning 3 this summer.
I see on Facebook she is selling her daughter's clothing (the stuff i gave her) and almost all has sold. All were in great condition when i gave it to her and they still look to be in good condition. She is set to make a few hundred bucks total between the clothing and the supplies (swing, changing pad, etc) that i gave her.

When i gave it to her i didn't say i wanted it back, but we never really talked about it. I don't really want the stuff back, but isn't it tacky to sell everything I GAVE her without even asking if i want it back or what to do with it?

Just curious.

She's a cheap creep and this would end the friendship for me. You don't sell gifts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister asked me for the clothes back so she could sell them. It was a little annoying and I felt guilty of something did not survive...but I complied.

I’d rather know this ahead of time so I could decline the so-called gift.

Borrowing kids clothes is not worth the hassle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't want what I gift back but it's a little tacky.
All the clothes I have given to friends was with the clear understanding that anything not stained or ripped in use I'd take back and pass on to another friend. Many things have been through 3 kids now and no money exchanged hands.

Did you actually say that?

I would be seriously irritated if someone came back with my kids hand me downs a few years after I had given them away. If you decided to bring the stuff back to my house, gratitude would be the furthest thing from my mind. More like “no good deed goes unpunished.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What? It's tacky for you to write about it here or even think about it. The clothes are hers now. Mind your own business. Go sell something somebody gave you.

No

[Anonymous]

Our (childless) babysitter got a bunch of clothes from another of her families for free and is selling them to me. Never mind that I’ve given her free stuff. I don’t have to buy anything from her of course but the clothes are in great shape and for a good price. She needs the money but I think it’s tacky. I don’t know if the original owner knows or just thought she’d give them to one of the families she works for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sister asked me for the clothes back so she could sell them. It was a little annoying and I felt guilty of something did not survive...but I complied.

I’d rather know this ahead of time so I could decline the so-called gift.

Borrowing kids clothes is not worth the hassle.

I don't really think of hand me downs as a gift...more like a favor that often benefits both sides.

[Anonymous]

Wait, dor people saying don’t sell gifts- so if my mom bought DS a swing or a kitchen set, I cannot sell that? I can only sell things I personally bought for my kid? That doesn’t make sense to me. I do understand completely and agree without OP in being upset about hand me downs being sold.

[Anonymous]

Social media has made this exchange weird. People used to find families to pass things onto. Commodifying every damn thing breaks communities.

[Anonymous]

I’d give her the benefit of the doubt that she needs the cash.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our (childless) babysitter got a bunch of clothes from another of her families for free and is selling them to me. Never mind that I’ve given her free stuff. I don’t have to buy anything from her of course but the clothes are in great shape and for a good price. She needs the money but I think it’s tacky. I don’t know if the original owner knows or just thought she’d give them to one of the families she works for.

Don't buy or give her anything. She can sell it at Totswap or somewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, dor people saying don’t sell gifts- so if my mom bought DS a swing or a kitchen set, I cannot sell that? I can only sell things I personally bought for my kid? That doesn’t make sense to me. I do understand completely and agree without OP in being upset about hand me downs being sold.

That is a gift and different. OP friend is selling handy down clothing and should share the money with her. Or, give the clothing away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait, dor people saying don’t sell gifts- so if my mom bought DS a swing or a kitchen set, I cannot sell that? I can only sell things I personally bought for my kid? That doesn’t make sense to me. I do understand completely and agree without OP in being upset about hand me downs being sold.

That is a gift and different. OP friend is selling handy down clothing and should share the money with her. Or, give the clothing away.

Do you really think that 5-6 year old hand me down clothes are so valuable that you need to take a cut if someone sells something you didn't want 3 years ago? Christ you people are weird. I don't remember crap I gave away a month after it left and you are dwelling on it 3 years later.

[Anonymous]

I received hand me downs from a friend. All name brand GAP; Crew Cuts; Hannah Anderson.
This was 3 years ago. The stuff held up great and is still cute. None was too trendy and all just really nice classic pieces. I asked if she wanted them back. She said no and to give them to someone else. I did.
I would never have just sold nice stuff and kept the money without first asking.

SOme stuff rarely goes out of style and if it is well made, will last for years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I received hand me downs from a friend. All name brand GAP; Crew Cuts; Hannah Anderson.
This was 3 years ago. The stuff held up great and is still cute. None was too trendy and all just really nice classic pieces. I asked if she wanted them back. She said no and to give them to someone else. I did.
I would never have just sold nice stuff and kept the money without first asking.

SOme stuff rarely goes out of style and if it is well made, will last for years.

This is how to handle things.