HS grad party - alcohol for adults

[Anonymous]

I've never been to a HS grad part without beer and wine.

I feel like this thread belongs with the Mormons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've never been to a HS grad part without beer and wine.

I feel like this thread belongs with the Mormons.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've never been to a HS grad part without beer and wine.

I feel like this thread belongs with the Mormons.

I don't disagree but seriously how do you keep the 18 year olds from indulging? My kids I can watch but what about all the friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't over think this. If the kids know underage drinking doesn't fly int eh house but is ok for those of age in moderation, it's fine. You catch anyone underage drinking, take the booze.

I say this assuming nobody has any underlying addiction/recovery issues, and the kids in question have been responsible. If that's not the case, feel free to ignore my $.02.

In my experience as a mom of teens, and seeing a lot of their friends, I can't figure out where are these kids that know drinking for them doesn't fly in the house. And my kids and their friends are considered by most people as " best behaved teens they ever saw!"

PP you're quoting. I don't know, maybe we're just lucky. It's not been an issue. But part of it may also be that the place is small enough that there isn't somewhere to sneak off to with the booze and there are adults who won't stand for it present.

Agree with this. We have been clear with DC and their friends about our expectations and it's never been an issue. Only time we've had to reinforce expectations is with older cousins friends have always been respectful of our expectations. But, we are always around and visible and have lots of the things they like to eat and nonalcoholic drink options of their choice (flavored sparking water, fancy lemonade, soda).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't over think this. If the kids know underage drinking doesn't fly int eh house but is ok for those of age in moderation, it's fine. You catch anyone underage drinking, take the booze.

I say this assuming nobody has any underlying addiction/recovery issues, and the kids in question have been responsible. If that's not the case, feel free to ignore my $.02.

In my experience as a mom of teens, and seeing a lot of their friends, I can't figure out where are these kids that know drinking for them doesn't fly in the house. And my kids and their friends are considered by most people as " best behaved teens they ever saw!"

PP you're quoting. I don't know, maybe we're just lucky. It's not been an issue. But part of it may also be that the place is small enough that there isn't somewhere to sneak off to with the booze and there are adults who won't stand for it present.

Agree with this. We have been clear with DC and their friends about our expectations and it's never been an issue. Only time we've had to reinforce expectations is with older cousins friends have always been respectful of our expectations. But, we are always around and visible and have lots of the things they like to eat and nonalcoholic drink options of their choice (flavored sparking water, fancy lemonade, soda).

How old are your kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't over think this. If the kids know underage drinking doesn't fly int eh house but is ok for those of age in moderation, it's fine. You catch anyone underage drinking, take the booze.

I say this assuming nobody has any underlying addiction/recovery issues, and the kids in question have been responsible. If that's not the case, feel free to ignore my $.02.

In my experience as a mom of teens, and seeing a lot of their friends, I can't figure out where are these kids that know drinking for them doesn't fly in the house. And my kids and their friends are considered by most people as " best behaved teens they ever saw!"

PP you're quoting. I don't know, maybe we're just lucky. It's not been an issue. But part of it may also be that the place is small enough that there isn't somewhere to sneak off to with the booze and there are adults who won't stand for it present.

Agree with this. We have been clear with DC and their friends about our expectations and it's never been an issue. Only time we've had to reinforce expectations is with older cousins friends have always been respectful of our expectations. But, we are always around and visible and have lots of the things they like to eat and nonalcoholic drink options of their choice (flavored sparking water, fancy lemonade, soda).

How old are your kids?

“Don’t over think it” poster. Old enough to drive me to the airport. FWIW, I don’t think a party has to have alcohol, and if folks aren’t comfortable with it, don’t do it. But we haven’t had an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't over think this. If the kids know underage drinking doesn't fly int eh house but is ok for those of age in moderation, it's fine. You catch anyone underage drinking, take the booze.

I say this assuming nobody has any underlying addiction/recovery issues, and the kids in question have been responsible. If that's not the case, feel free to ignore my $.02.

In my experience as a mom of teens, and seeing a lot of their friends, I can't figure out where are these kids that know drinking for them doesn't fly in the house. And my kids and their friends are considered by most people as " best behaved teens they ever saw!"

PP you're quoting. I don't know, maybe we're just lucky. It's not been an issue. But part of it may also be that the place is small enough that there isn't somewhere to sneak off to with the booze and there are adults who won't stand for it present.

Agree with this. We have been clear with DC and their friends about our expectations and it's never been an issue. Only time we've had to reinforce expectations is with older cousins friends have always been respectful of our expectations. But, we are always around and visible and have lots of the things they like to eat and nonalcoholic drink options of their choice (flavored sparking water, fancy lemonade, soda).

How old are your kids?

PP here- my kids are 19, 15 and 10, older cousins are in their mid to upper 20s.

[Anonymous]

For me the concern is not the kids sneaking alcohol, it is that the guest of honor will not be enjoying it. If my grad was a vegetarian I would not plan a burger party. If he has a dairy allergy I would not serve ice cream. He does not drink alcohol so we will have his favorites..root beer or Orange Soda or water!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For me the concern is not the kids sneaking alcohol, it is that the guest of honor will not be enjoying it. If my grad was a vegetarian I would not plan a burger party. If he has a dairy allergy I would not serve ice cream. He does not drink alcohol so we will have his favorites..root beer or Orange Soda or water!

its not an alcohol themed party. it is a graduation party at which there is alcohol. If you serve pigs in blankets it doesn't make it a pig in blanket party. If my kid was a vegetarian I would also serve meat because some of the guests might enjoy it, much like they might enjoy a glass of wine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For me the concern is not the kids sneaking alcohol, it is that the guest of honor will not be enjoying it. If my grad was a vegetarian I would not plan a burger party. If he has a dairy allergy I would not serve ice cream. He does not drink alcohol so we will have his favorites..root beer or Orange Soda or water!

its not an alcohol themed party. it is a graduation party at which there is alcohol. If you serve pigs in blankets it doesn't make it a pig in blanket party. If my kid was a vegetarian I would also serve meat because some of the guests might enjoy it, much like they might enjoy a glass of wine.

Never said it was an alcohol party, just not something the guest of honor would enjoy. If my guest of honor was Kosher, I would not care if others would enjoy bacon. They can enjoy it another time, Alcohol is just not so important in my circle...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For me the concern is not the kids sneaking alcohol, it is that the guest of honor will not be enjoying it. If my grad was a vegetarian I would not plan a burger party. If he has a dairy allergy I would not serve ice cream. He does not drink alcohol so we will have his favorites..root beer or Orange Soda or water!

its not an alcohol themed party. it is a graduation party at which there is alcohol. If you serve pigs in blankets it doesn't make it a pig in blanket party. If my kid was a vegetarian I would also serve meat because some of the guests might enjoy it, much like they might enjoy a glass of wine.

Never said it was an alcohol party, just not something the guest of honor would enjoy. If my guest of honor was Kosher, I would not care if others would enjoy bacon. They can enjoy it another time, Alcohol is just not so important in my circle...

DP. So, you only serve food/drinks that your 'guest of honor' enjoys? I'm not a vegetarian nor do I keep kosher but I make sure I have food/drinks that my guests can partake in even if my 'guest of honor' doesn't enjoy them. I'm teaching my kids that even when they're the one being honored, they cannot be blind to the needs/wants/desires of their guests. I've got a senior who will be graduating and we will have beer/wine for the adults because that's typical for our gatherings - even kids' birthday parties. But, you do you.

[Anonymous]

I would totally have alcohol. Where are these people that kids would help themselves? We have a NYE party every year -- adults drink, kids do not. We're all at the same venue, right? Even my super conservative sister whose kids are at Liberty and another Christian college had alcohol for adults.

This is silly. Break out the booze!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't over think this. If the kids know underage drinking doesn't fly int eh house but is ok for those of age in moderation, it's fine. You catch anyone underage drinking, take the booze.

I say this assuming nobody has any underlying addiction/recovery issues, and the kids in question have been responsible. If that's not the case, feel free to ignore my $.02.

In my experience as a mom of teens, and seeing a lot of their friends, I can't figure out where are these kids that know drinking for them doesn't fly in the house. And my kids and their friends are considered by most people as " best behaved teens they ever saw!"

PP you're quoting. I don't know, maybe we're just lucky. It's not been an issue. But part of it may also be that the place is small enough that there isn't somewhere to sneak off to with the booze and there are adults who won't stand for it present.

Agree with this. We have been clear with DC and their friends about our expectations and it's never been an issue. Only time we've had to reinforce expectations is with older cousins friends have always been respectful of our expectations. But, we are always around and visible and have lots of the things they like to eat and nonalcoholic drink options of their choice (flavored sparking water, fancy lemonade, soda).

How old are your kids?

“Don’t over think it” poster. Old enough to drive me to the airport. FWIW, I don’t think a party has to have alcohol, and if folks aren’t comfortable with it, don’t do it. But we haven’t had an issue.

I'm with you. None of our adult friends would tolerate underage drinking, and our kids wouldn't do it. Maybe we're lucky too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For me the concern is not the kids sneaking alcohol, it is that the guest of honor will not be enjoying it. If my grad was a vegetarian I would not plan a burger party. If he has a dairy allergy I would not serve ice cream. He does not drink alcohol so we will have his favorites..root beer or Orange Soda or water!

its not an alcohol themed party. it is a graduation party at which there is alcohol. If you serve pigs in blankets it doesn't make it a pig in blanket party. If my kid was a vegetarian I would also serve meat because some of the guests might enjoy it, much like they might enjoy a glass of wine.

Never said it was an alcohol party, just not something the guest of honor would enjoy. If my guest of honor was Kosher, I would not care if others would enjoy bacon. They can enjoy it another time, Alcohol is just not so important in my circle...

DP. So, you only serve food/drinks that your 'guest of honor' enjoys? I'm not a vegetarian nor do I keep kosher but I make sure I have food/drinks that my guests can partake in even if my 'guest of honor' doesn't enjoy them. I'm teaching my kids that even when they're the one being honored, they cannot be blind to the needs/wants/desires of their guests. I've got a senior who will be graduating and we will have beer/wine for the adults because that's typical for our gatherings - even kids' birthday parties. But, you do you.

Apparently it is important in you circle. You should teach your child your family needs alcohol at parties...

[Anonymous]

What happened if you serve alcohol only to adults at the party you hosted and one of the kids drank beers/wine at your party without knowledge, got drunk and god forbid, injured/killed someone while driving home. Are you, as the host, going to be responsible for this? They can argue that this would not have happened had you not served alcohol at the party, right?