Baby moon vs Push Present

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 31 and had no idea what a push present or baby moon is. Kind of ridiculous OP is stressing about this. I would much rather go on vacation after the baby arrives.

Hahahaha you won’t be going anywhere after the baby arrives. At least not for awhile.

I have two children and we travel a lot. It's possible.

[Anonymous]

I also believe that grandparents should offer to watch the baby so we can get away as a couple

hahahahaha

"Should"? Might happen, but not an expectation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some are able to save for college and afford a few luxuries for themselves, be it a baby moon or push present.

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+1, not everyone is struggling to be able to afford some luxuries. Let's remember that people across all socioeconomic spectrums will have luxuries that may seem out of touch for others. OP, I would say go on a decent babymoon and spend more on the jewelry component. Quality jewelry and precious babies last forever, husbands not so much.

[Anonymous]

For everyone saying “push present” has been around for awhile that’s like saying rich people have “dining sets” they just don’t call them dinning sets.

No. It’s Just simply a piece of jewelry to celebrate the occasion and it most certainly doesn’t have a name. They aren’t called push presents. It’s tacky. They are given a gift for an occasion. I can’t get over how vulgar it sounds.

It’s completely different.

[Anonymous]

We go on vacation a lot (with and without the kids). Whenmy first was born, DH bought and amazing (and quite expensive) pair of earrings. After the second and third baby I got some Botox/filler for a few years. It helped me feel prettier and it was the best present I could buy for myself at the time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 31 and had no idea what a push present or baby moon is. Kind of ridiculous OP is stressing about this. I would much rather go on vacation after the baby arrives.

Hahahaha you won’t be going anywhere after the baby arrives. At least not for awhile.

I have two children and we travel a lot. It's possible.

Sure. But not for awhile after the baby is born. Definitely not now during a measles outbreak. And I’ve taken my first child to numerous destinations all over the world before two, but let’s not pretend traveling with kids is way more stressful than a romantic adult only vacation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 31 and had no idea what a push present or baby moon is. Kind of ridiculous OP is stressing about this. I would much rather go on vacation after the baby arrives.

Hahahaha you won’t be going anywhere after the baby arrives. At least not for awhile.

I have two children and we travel a lot. It's possible.

Sure. But not for awhile after the baby is born. Definitely not now during a measles outbreak. And I’ve taken my first child to numerous destinations all over the world before two, but let’s not pretend traveling with kids is way more stressful than a romantic adult only vacation.

Not way more stressful I mean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 31 and had no idea what a push present or baby moon is. Kind of ridiculous OP is stressing about this. I would much rather go on vacation after the baby arrives.

Hahahaha you won’t be going anywhere after the baby arrives. At least not for awhile.

I have two children and we travel a lot. It's possible.

Sure. But not for awhile after the baby is born. Definitely not now during a measles outbreak. And I’ve taken my first child to numerous destinations all over the world before two, but let’s not pretend traveling with kids is way more stressful than a romantic adult only vacation.

Look I answered the question. Pregnancy is not exactly comfortable for me. I'd rather go on vacation when I can really enjoy it. I can go on both a baby moon and a vacation after birth because I live in Florida. If I could only do one though it would be after the baby!

[Anonymous]

In my country push presents were the norm. It was always jewelry that the mom would then pass to the baby (or baby’s wife in case of a boy). My parents are pretty well off and my mom has a lot of nice jewelry. Unfortunately the times have changed and women don’t wear expensive jewelry anymore. In all honesty I don’t know what to do with it... I am mostly afraid of it being stolen and therefore I pay for a safety box at the bank. I wish they had invested those money in another piece of real estate, but they had enough money to do both I suppose. As for the vacation, both my parents and I travel a lot with and without kids (since the first year) so I am not sure the vacation is worth it either unless you are VeRY comfortable still

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my country push presents were the norm. It was always jewelry that the mom would then pass to the baby (or baby’s wife in case of a boy). My parents are pretty well off and my mom has a lot of nice jewelry. Unfortunately the times have changed and women don’t wear expensive jewelry anymore. In all honesty I don’t know what to do with it... I am mostly afraid of it being stolen and therefore I pay for a safety box at the bank. I wish they had invested those money in another piece of real estate, but they had enough money to do both I suppose. As for the vacation, both my parents and I travel a lot with and without kids (since the first year) so I am not sure the vacation is worth it either unless you are VeRY comfortable still

Also, I would keep my vacation days for the baby’s first year or maternity leave. A night nurse or baby sitter are probably the best present a new mom can receive. We had a nanny 3 nights a week for the first 4-5 months of every kid (we have 3) and it was amazing. I don’t think we would have had 3 kids without that type of help

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my country push presents were the norm. It was always jewelry that the mom would then pass to the baby (or baby’s wife in case of a boy). My parents are pretty well off and my mom has a lot of nice jewelry. Unfortunately the times have changed and women don’t wear expensive jewelry anymore. In all honesty I don’t know what to do with it... I am mostly afraid of it being stolen and therefore I pay for a safety box at the bank. I wish they had invested those money in another piece of real estate, but they had enough money to do both I suppose. As for the vacation, both my parents and I travel a lot with and without kids (since the first year) so I am not sure the vacation is worth it either unless you are VeRY comfortable still

OP, while this is some sound advice. Real estate is pretty fickle and fluctuates. Not to mention a piece of real estate comes with taxes, maintenance issues, sometimes problem tenants, etc. Jewelry is free of those burdens and never depreciates but always appreciates. Prime example: Quality pieces from Tiffany’s or like retailer will always hold value.

I think a beautiful piece of jewelry and a night nurse would be well worth it. You and your DH will need sleep more so than a vacation. Also, the first year doctor’s appointment eat up so many of your PTO days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 31 and had no idea what a push present or baby moon is. Kind of ridiculous OP is stressing about this. I would much rather go on vacation after the baby arrives.

Hahahaha you won’t be going anywhere after the baby arrives. At least not for awhile.

I have two children and we travel a lot. It's possible.

Sure. But not for awhile after the baby is born. Definitely not now during a measles outbreak. And I’ve taken my first child to numerous destinations all over the world before two, but let’s not pretend traveling with kids is way more stressful than a romantic adult only vacation.

Not sure I agree. Depends on the trip. We took a month long beach vacation when DD was 9-13 weeks. It was pretty lovely and in many ways better than the hot and uncomfortable week-long trip I took whole pregnant.

[Anonymous]

If your baby doesn’t have colic, from 2 to 6 months is a great time to travel with them, if they are breastfeeding. Stick them in a carrier and they’ll go anywhere; they sleep lots anyway; and are interested by pretty much everything going on. Once they start to crawl, walk and eat real food, it’s much more difficult for at least a few years.

[Anonymous]

“Push Present” is so terrifically tacky and low-class. Please, as a new generation of mothers, let’s retire that vile phrase.

[Anonymous]

Neither, if it’s an either-or proposition for you. If you have to choose, you cant afford it. Save for a rainy day.