which private school has the most "mean girls"?

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I have noted that oftentimes, mothers who were "mean girls" themselves in school, often have some of the best advice and perspective when this comes out in their daughters. They usually learned their lesson in high-school or college when the tables were flipped on them. Much like the famous 1800s saying that "reformed Rakes make the best husbands" so do school day "mean girls" often make the best mothers of girls. I have found that women who are "mean girls" as grown-ups were rarely the queen bees as girls. Rather they observed or even were the victims of the type and decided to us it as grown-ups once they found themselves in a more "powerful" position. These moms are not going to breed inherently "mean girls" but are much less likely to discourage the behavior and may even encourage it in their daughters when it raises its ugly head. That I find to be the most dangerous type of adult woman and the most dangerous type of mean-girl.

Really??? I mean really? This sounds like a 'mean girl': "I was mean in HS but now I am perfect, but the girls I used to pick on, well, they are mean now. I still know I am superior! " Hysterical.

Yes, I had the same reaction!


I was the one who wrote the original quote and actually, I was never a mean girl. I think you may be reading something into what I said that I did not intend. I was kind of independent in high school - did my own thing but did get picked on by some people, more mean boys than mean girls (It was the South and I wasn't much of a sweet-southern type, my parents were from the NE and raised me to be pretty outspoken, not always a good idea where I grew up). I have always had lots of girl friends, I really like other women, and I have observed lots of mean girl behavior but was usually not involved on either side. I did try my best to *usually* stick up for the person getting picked on but sometimes, at least in highschool, I wasn't quite confident/strong enough to do so. Mean Girls and Bullies are can be scary when you are a teenager. College made me much stronger and more able to stand up for what was right, and it was an all women's college at that.

I stick to my original assertion that most "mean mom" types were not "mean girls" in school. Truly, most "mean girls" either burn out on their own meanness or get what is coming to them at some point (see post above about mean girl who barely got into to college and is unhappy). The mean moms I know/observe were either wanna-bees or the target of mean girls. As "convenient" as you think that may be, it doesnt change the fact that those who are bullied sometimes become the bully when they get the chance. Its frequently true that if you look at a bully's life they have themselves been bullied at some point. That doesnt mean all people who are targets end up targeting others but, its not uncommon. I do think that most mean moms were not mean grils. It would be a rare person who could be the mean one through their entire life - it would be too tempting to Fate and, I would think, too exhasting for the person.