At what age should one stop dressing their twin children alike?

[Anonymous]

they dress alike when they want to

[Anonymous]

From birth. My SIL has boy/girl twins. From birth to about 7/8 she insisted they wear the same or nearly the same outfits on special occasions. I think that its odd, but they aren't my kids.

[Anonymous]

At age 12, when Elizabeth and Jessica start at Sweet Valley Middle School.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure whether anyone who does not have twins (or at least 2 kids VERY close in age) appreciates how likely they are to fight over specific outfits or cry over why their sibling got something they like and they didn't.

And how likely they are to decide that they like something just because their sibling got it and they didn't.

+1 on this. I have 10 year old identical twins and I still buy doubles of anything they’re likely to fight over. The fighting was worse when they were younger but it can still happen.

Also, they’ve been dressing themselves for years and they pick identical outfits about once a week.

This seems to be how it works for us too. My twins are only 4, but god help me if I get them the same thing in their (different) favorite colors without their approval because they’ll find some reason to think the other is better.

They have a lot of matching and coordinating outfits, but I let them choose what to wear. The hardest days are when one twin wants to match but the other wants to be unique. Coordinating or matching part of an outfit usually works then. They tend to match 2-3 days a week. They insist on the same haircut and plan some other non clothing things to match too, like if we go out for ice cream, they discuss ahead of time if their ice cream cones will match or if they’re going to be different.

One time one twin had an accident and bruised her forehead. The other was upset that their faces didn’t match for a week or so

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure whether anyone who does not have twins (or at least 2 kids VERY close in age) appreciates how likely they are to fight over specific outfits or cry over why their sibling got something they like and they didn't.

And how likely they are to decide that they like something just because their sibling got it and they didn't.

+1 on this. I have 10 year old identical twins and I still buy doubles of anything they’re likely to fight over. The fighting was worse when they were younger but it can still happen.

Also, they’ve been dressing themselves for years and they pick identical outfits about once a week.

This seems to be how it works for us too. My twins are only 4, but god help me if I get them the same thing in their (different) favorite colors without their approval because they’ll find some reason to think the other is better.

They have a lot of matching and coordinating outfits, but I let them choose what to wear. The hardest days are when one twin wants to match but the other wants to be unique. Coordinating or matching part of an outfit usually works then. They tend to match 2-3 days a week. They insist on the same haircut and plan some other non clothing things to match too, like if we go out for ice cream, they discuss ahead of time if their ice cream cones will match or if they’re going to be different.

One time one twin had an accident and bruised her forehead. The other was upset that their faces didn’t match for a week or so

I am a 42-year-old indentical twin and my mother dressed in identical clothes about twice in our entire lives. If you let them determine their own thing from day 1, then you won't have this ridiculous sense that they want to be alike. Treat them as two different individuals, seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure whether anyone who does not have twins (or at least 2 kids VERY close in age) appreciates how likely they are to fight over specific outfits or cry over why their sibling got something they like and they didn't.

And how likely they are to decide that they like something just because their sibling got it and they didn't.

+1 on this. I have 10 year old identical twins and I still buy doubles of anything they’re likely to fight over. The fighting was worse when they were younger but it can still happen.

Also, they’ve been dressing themselves for years and they pick identical outfits about once a week.

This seems to be how it works for us too. My twins are only 4, but god help me if I get them the same thing in their (different) favorite colors without their approval because they’ll find some reason to think the other is better.

They have a lot of matching and coordinating outfits, but I let them choose what to wear. The hardest days are when one twin wants to match but the other wants to be unique. Coordinating or matching part of an outfit usually works then. They tend to match 2-3 days a week. They insist on the same haircut and plan some other non clothing things to match too, like if we go out for ice cream, they discuss ahead of time if their ice cream cones will match or if they’re going to be different.

One time one twin had an accident and bruised her forehead. The other was upset that their faces didn’t match for a week or so

Dad of twins here. They choose on their own. And when they're dressed alike, wow its a problem. They dont get mad when I mix them up. When we're getting ready to go sometimes I'll say "where's your clone?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At what age?

5?

10?

or

Should one dress them differently from birth?

You should never have done so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure whether anyone who does not have twins (or at least 2 kids VERY close in age) appreciates how likely they are to fight over specific outfits or cry over why their sibling got something they like and they didn't.

And how likely they are to decide that they like something just because their sibling got it and they didn't.

+1 on this. I have 10 year old identical twins and I still buy doubles of anything they’re likely to fight over. The fighting was worse when they were younger but it can still happen.

Also, they’ve been dressing themselves for years and they pick identical outfits about once a week.

This seems to be how it works for us too. My twins are only 4, but god help me if I get them the same thing in their (different) favorite colors without their approval because they’ll find some reason to think the other is better.

They have a lot of matching and coordinating outfits, but I let them choose what to wear. The hardest days are when one twin wants to match but the other wants to be unique. Coordinating or matching part of an outfit usually works then. They tend to match 2-3 days a week. They insist on the same haircut and plan some other non clothing things to match too, like if we go out for ice cream, they discuss ahead of time if their ice cream cones will match or if they’re going to be different.

One time one twin had an accident and bruised her forehead. The other was upset that their faces didn’t match for a week or so

I am a 42-year-old indentical twin and my mother dressed in identical clothes about twice in our entire lives. If you let them determine their own thing from day 1, then you won't have this ridiculous sense that they want to be alike. Treat them as two different individuals, seriously.

The people you quoted are saying they let the kids choose. I’m not sure what your point is. Sometimes they choose to match. Sometimes they don’t.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s hilarious how opinionated non twin mothers are about how twin moms dress their kids ! They haven’t got a clue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s hilarious how opinionated non twin mothers are about how twin moms dress their kids ! They haven’t got a clue.

This!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s hilarious how opinionated non twin mothers are about how twin moms dress their kids ! They haven’t got a clue.

This!

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s hilarious how opinionated non twin mothers are about how twin moms dress their kids ! They haven’t got a clue.

This!

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Amen! There were so many logistical challenges when my kids were little that you better believe I made getting them dressed the easiest thing!

[Anonymous]

Parent of two sets of twins

They are individuals.

Dress them so from day 1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s hilarious how opinionated non twin mothers are about how twin moms dress their kids ! They haven’t got a clue.

This!

X1000000

Amen! There were so many logistical challenges when my kids were little that you better believe I made getting them dressed the easiest thing!

Oh, I see, it's most important that your life is a little easier. I am not a twin mother--sadly my twins were born at 21 weeks and didn't make it--but I am an identical twin, so I think my opinion is valid. Don't dress your twins alike. They will thank you later in life. Or, you can just say, sorry, that was the easier thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Best not to start.

You as the parent know they're individuals and they probably know, but trust me, no one else thinks of them as individuals unless you make a concerted effort otherwise

Signed, an adult twin.