At what age should one stop dressing their twin children alike?

[Anonymous]

I work with (adult) identical female twins who dress alike, have the same haircut, etc. It is.. different.

[Anonymous]

At a dance competition I saw 40 year old identical twins. They were dressed exactly alike, same hair, styled the same way, accessories, everything.

I guess they live with their individual families in a duplex style house and share the backyard.

It was crazy and hard not to stare. They were really done up too.

Also to answer OP of the twins I know I would say definitely by 2 but never is better (or match them to each other).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend with identical twins. She's has dressed them the same their whole lives. And then of course now it's A Thing. They insist on being dressed alike. I'm talking even hair accessories, shoes, coats, everything. But it's also because the girls don't know any different, this is how they've always dressed, so they insist on it.

It breaks my heart in a number of weird ways. Like to STOP this habit at this point will feel monumental. When we spend time with them, no one can tell them apart, so you don't use their names. It inhibits people from forming personal relationships to the girls.

Honestly I really like this woman in so many ways. But this thing, the dressing her kids the EXACT SAME WAY EVERY DAY has really thrown me for a loop.

It's just one kid moving back and forth quickly or these girls will marry the same man, saving mom thousands on the wedding. This will pay off.

It's like the TV series Quantico where identical twins get into a love triangle with the same guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not sure whether anyone who does not have twins (or at least 2 kids VERY close in age) appreciates how likely they are to fight over specific outfits or cry over why their sibling got something they like and they didn't.

And how likely they are to decide that they like something just because their sibling got it and they didn't.

+1 on this. I have 10 year old identical twins and I still buy doubles of anything they’re likely to fight over. The fighting was worse when they were younger but it can still happen.

Also, they’ve been dressing themselves for years and they pick identical outfits about once a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When it becomes clear which twin is Evil and which one is Good.

[Anonymous]

Never! https://www.sftravel.com/article/10-facts-about-san-franciscos-favorite-twins

[Anonymous]

I like when they aren't dressed alike, so I can tell them apart. However, it is fine for special occasions (holidays, formal pictures, and the like). Although with Holidays, while I appreciate the thought and planning, it would be easier to tell them apart if they are dressed differently.

[Anonymous]

Awww it was fun and MUCH easier. But 4 at the latest. Twins are twice as many clothes for daycare/ preschool. We had same outfits different colors & all coordinating solid colors as they got older. They will have different identities and desires. It will sort itself out. No need to be heavy handed from day one.

[Anonymous]

It used to crack me up when people would get this long serious face and sincerely tell me how to dress my toddlers differently. Oooookkkkk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I work with (adult) identical female twins who dress alike, have the same haircut, etc. It is.. different.

I think I know them! (Or at least I hope I do, because I can't imagine more than one set.)
If it's the same set of women, one is now married - so how does that even work? Do they call each other every morning? Do they have a schedule for the week? And what does the husband think of this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I work with (adult) identical female twins who dress alike, have the same haircut, etc. It is.. different.

I think I know them! (Or at least I hope I do, because I can't imagine more than one set.)
If it's the same set of women, one is now married - so how does that even work? Do they call each other every morning? Do they have a schedule for the week? And what does the husband think of this?

I think I do too, or this is far more common than I would have thought!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have identical twins and I specifically dressed them differently (assigned colors) from birth so other people could tell them apart.

Then they went through a stage around 3-4 when they insisted on dressing alike all the time, so of course I let them, but made sure they had sliiiiighly different shoes.

From the age of 5 to now (7), they have been increasingly dressing differently, though occasionally they will specifically choose to wear the same thing.

My sons friends are identical twins and the different shoes and backpacks are a godsend. Their faces are slightly different so that when they are standing next to each other I can tell them apart but otherwise the shoes are massivly helpful.

[Anonymous]

My 8 year old identical girl twins sometimes go through a matching stage and they specifically want to wear the same thing. Whatever - we don’t care either way

[Anonymous]

I am an identical twin- please never do this.

[Anonymous]

When strangers from the internet tell you to???

You do you, I’ll do me. So much damn judgement that people aren’t even allowed to dress their own children without being ridiculed, goodness!