DH received a Valentines Day card from another woman

[Anonymous]

I'd open it.

"Sorry I opened your mail, honey, but it never occurred to me that a woman would send you a Valentine. I thought it was for Larla."

[Anonymous]

Op is never coming back.

[Anonymous]

She isn't coming back because she opened it.

[Anonymous]

Op sucks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d have opened it and thrown it in the trash.

+1

[Anonymous]

How long has she been sending him cards? How do they each other, and how are they good friends? I don't even send my good friends Valentine's cards, and we've been friends since we were 3 years old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she Asian? What’s their actual relationship? It’s closer to lunar new year than it is to Valentines. You know, red envelopes aren’t always what you think.

She's not Asian, although I suppose it could be a lunar new year card. But that's still weird.

It is weird. I would confront your DH. "Why is some woman sending you a valentine card? This is highly inappropriate."

-signed an Asian American woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she Asian? What’s their actual relationship? It’s closer to lunar new year than it is to Valentines. You know, red envelopes aren’t always what you think.

She's not Asian, although I suppose it could be a lunar new year card. But that's still weird.

Not if she's in the habit of sending cards for all occasions. It would make sense, actually. In Asia, people give New Year's cards or the little red enveloped with a crisp new bill. In Japan, there's no money, but you have the social obligation to send a card to literally all your private and professional acquaintance.

So what you do is that you open it because you "thought it was a Lunar New Year's card". And who knows, maybe there's money in it

OP already said she wasn’t Asian. But thanks for white-splaining.

[Anonymous]

Where are you Op?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d have opened it and thrown it in the trash.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d have opened it and thrown it in the trash.

+1.

And your DH would still be cheating on you.

[Anonymous]

I'd have opened it and told him I didn't even look at the name- I assumed it was from DH to me. I'd then have told him I was pretty surprised someone would send that. I'd never not tell him or hide/throw it out.

Though recently on here some lady said her DH gave valentines gifts to female coworkers and that floored me too. I associate this holiday with a 'gifts are for your partner/spouse only' vibe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I usually don’t get the mail, but was home sick today, and did walk down to the mailbox.

And what’s there but a red envelope addressed to DH, almost definitely a Valentines Day card from a woman he knows. He claims to be “just good friends” with this woman, but a Valentines Day card???

I didn’t open it. This woman loves to send little cards and notes- she sends postcards all the time, which is weird, but at least I can read them. There is nothing obviously inappropriate about the postcards, but it’s stilll weird...

I’m sure he’ll just brush it off as “no big deal”. But it is a big deal, right? What do I say to DH? Or do I just let it go?

Give him an amazing BJ tonight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op sucks

On the contrary, I have the impression that OP doesn't suck enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who opens any interesting looking mail to dh? If you want to send him a secret I won’t read make it look like an invoice.

I would open it too. It wouldn’t even be a big deal in either end. I would just shrug and say - yeah, I opened it.
But that’s assuming this all is innocent. Obviously a different conversation
If something g is going on. Or I would look over his should as I opened it. And it wouldn’t be a big deal. And if he opened something f for me it would be fine. I do t underpays the big issue.