Wish I married a smart and ambitious man

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I am smart, high libido, and ambitious. Reasonably successful salary according to DCUM standards. Yes, I want a man that can match my drive. It's hard doing things alone and your man is content sitting and watching football all day or zoned out from his edible usage.

So, I am still looking. . .

P.S. I feel like my high libido is a curse.

Is there anything in between? It feels like on DCUM men are lumped into two categories: ultra-intense, 80 hour a week biglaw/lobbying/consulting/surgeon types who bring home $1million+ at the peak of their careers OR dudes who live in their parents' basement smoking weed and maybe make a few bucks walking dogs on the side. Is there any room for the government attorney making $120k with a decent work/life balance? Or the family medicine doctor who can leave work at 4:30 to pick up his kids?

Are we that incapable of seeing any nuance in this situation?

Everything here. That is no work/life balance at all.

When our kids were at home DH would leave for work at 7am dropping my youngest off at the bus stop and get home around 7pm or a bit later. When he was home he rarely did business work and that includes weekends. He was very successful and he made it all work. The people who worked for him always appreciated his work life balance because it affected their lives. Within our group of friends there were other men who did the same thing.

WTF? 7am bus stop? That’s must have been a high schooler.

And in what world is 7pm work life ‘balance’ — I assume you SAH b/c otherwise you would not have been fooled by his gaslighting. I’m sure his employees loved working 10+ days, haha did they tell you this or was that his story?

I thought that poster was satirizing a lot of DCUM posts we see from women about their husbands. Obviously out of the house for 12 hours, leaving at 7 and getting home at 7, is not work life balance. The touch about the employees "appreciating" their 12-hour days was a masterful touch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I am smart, high libido, and ambitious. Reasonably successful salary according to DCUM standards. Yes, I want a man that can match my drive. It's hard doing things alone and your man is content sitting and watching football all day or zoned out from his edible usage.

So, I am still looking. . .

P.S. I feel like my high libido is a curse.

Is there anything in between? It feels like on DCUM men are lumped into two categories: ultra-intense, 80 hour a week biglaw/lobbying/consulting/surgeon types who bring home $1million+ at the peak of their careers OR dudes who live in their parents' basement smoking weed and maybe make a few bucks walking dogs on the side. Is there any room for the government attorney making $120k with a decent work/life balance? Or the family medicine doctor who can leave work at 4:30 to pick up his kids?

Are we that incapable of seeing any nuance in this situation?

Mine's a psychiatrist; banker's hours and about $180K/yr.. He's outside building a swingset right now, and just made me a new cup of coffee. I'm grading papers that didn't get graded last week because we had houseguests and a b'day party (I work PT).

He actually quit Family Practice for psych because of the hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I am smart, high libido, and ambitious. Reasonably successful salary according to DCUM standards. Yes, I want a man that can match my drive. It's hard doing things alone and your man is content sitting and watching football all day or zoned out from his edible usage.

So, I am still looking. . .

P.S. I feel like my high libido is a curse.

Is there anything in between? It feels like on DCUM men are lumped into two categories: ultra-intense, 80 hour a week biglaw/lobbying/consulting/surgeon types who bring home $1million+ at the peak of their careers OR dudes who live in their parents' basement smoking weed and maybe make a few bucks walking dogs on the side. Is there any room for the government attorney making $120k with a decent work/life balance? Or the family medicine doctor who can leave work at 4:30 to pick up his kids?

Are we that incapable of seeing any nuance in this situation?

Everything here. That is no work/life balance at all.

When our kids were at home DH would leave for work at 7am dropping my youngest off at the bus stop and get home around 7pm or a bit later. When he was home he rarely did business work and that includes weekends. He was very successful and he made it all work. The people who worked for him always appreciated his work life balance because it affected their lives. Within our group of friends there were other men who did the same thing.

WTF? 7am bus stop? That’s must have been a high schooler.

And in what world is 7pm work life ‘balance’ — I assume you SAH b/c otherwise you would not have been fooled by his gaslighting. I’m sure his employees loved working 10+ days, haha did they tell you this or was that his story?

I thought that poster was satirizing a lot of DCUM posts we see from women about their husbands. Obviously out of the house for 12 hours, leaving at 7 and getting home at 7, is not work life balance. The touch about the employees "appreciating" their 12-hour days was a masterful touch.

Maybe... but that is pretty subtle...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I am smart, high libido, and ambitious. Reasonably successful salary according to DCUM standards. Yes, I want a man that can match my drive. It's hard doing things alone and your man is content sitting and watching football all day or zoned out from his edible usage.

So, I am still looking. . .

P.S. I feel like my high libido is a curse.

Is there anything in between? It feels like on DCUM men are lumped into two categories: ultra-intense, 80 hour a week biglaw/lobbying/consulting/surgeon types who bring home $1million+ at the peak of their careers OR dudes who live in their parents' basement smoking weed and maybe make a few bucks walking dogs on the side. Is there any room for the government attorney making $120k with a decent work/life balance? Or the family medicine doctor who can leave work at 4:30 to pick up his kids?

Are we that incapable of seeing any nuance in this situation?

Mine's a psychiatrist; banker's hours and about $180K/yr.. He's outside building a swingset right now, and just made me a new cup of coffee. I'm grading papers that didn't get graded last week because we had houseguests and a b'day party (I work PT).

He actually quit Family Practice for psych because of the hours.

Yeah some medical specialist have a sweet hourly rate and flexibility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I am smart, high libido, and ambitious. Reasonably successful salary according to DCUM standards. Yes, I want a man that can match my drive. It's hard doing things alone and your man is content sitting and watching football all day or zoned out from his edible usage.

So, I am still looking. . .

P.S. I feel like my high libido is a curse.

Is there anything in between? It feels like on DCUM men are lumped into two categories: ultra-intense, 80 hour a week biglaw/lobbying/consulting/surgeon types who bring home $1million+ at the peak of their careers OR dudes who live in their parents' basement smoking weed and maybe make a few bucks walking dogs on the side. Is there any room for the government attorney making $120k with a decent work/life balance? Or the family medicine doctor who can leave work at 4:30 to pick up his kids?

Are we that incapable of seeing any nuance in this situation?

Mine's a psychiatrist; banker's hours and about $180K/yr.. He's outside building a swingset right now, and just made me a new cup of coffee. I'm grading papers that didn't get graded last week because we had houseguests and a b'day party (I work PT).

He actually quit Family Practice for psych because of the hours.

According to the bulk of the posters on here, your husband is an underemployed bum and you're a sucker for putting up with it.

[Anonymous]

I've always told my wife her biggest weakness is a penchant for pretty boys...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I am smart, high libido, and ambitious. Reasonably successful salary according to DCUM standards. Yes, I want a man that can match my drive. It's hard doing things alone and your man is content sitting and watching football all day or zoned out from his edible usage.

So, I am still looking. . .

P.S. I feel like my high libido is a curse.

Is there anything in between? It feels like on DCUM men are lumped into two categories: ultra-intense, 80 hour a week biglaw/lobbying/consulting/surgeon types who bring home $1million+ at the peak of their careers OR dudes who live in their parents' basement smoking weed and maybe make a few bucks walking dogs on the side. Is there any room for the government attorney making $120k with a decent work/life balance? Or the family medicine doctor who can leave work at 4:30 to pick up his kids?

Are we that incapable of seeing any nuance in this situation?

Mine's a psychiatrist; banker's hours and about $180K/yr.. He's outside building a swingset right now, and just made me a new cup of coffee. I'm grading papers that didn't get graded last week because we had houseguests and a b'day party (I work PT).

He actually quit Family Practice for psych because of the hours.

Your husband’s an asshole who doesn’t accept insurance and charges $700 an hour to treat suffering people. Kids go without care because they can’t afford his services. Chew on that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I am smart, high libido, and ambitious. Reasonably successful salary according to DCUM standards. Yes, I want a man that can match my drive. It's hard doing things alone and your man is content sitting and watching football all day or zoned out from his edible usage.

So, I am still looking. . .

P.S. I feel like my high libido is a curse.

Is there anything in between? It feels like on DCUM men are lumped into two categories: ultra-intense, 80 hour a week biglaw/lobbying/consulting/surgeon types who bring home $1million+ at the peak of their careers OR dudes who live in their parents' basement smoking weed and maybe make a few bucks walking dogs on the side. Is there any room for the government attorney making $120k with a decent work/life balance? Or the family medicine doctor who can leave work at 4:30 to pick up his kids?

Are we that incapable of seeing any nuance in this situation?

Mine's a psychiatrist; banker's hours and about $180K/yr.. He's outside building a swingset right now, and just made me a new cup of coffee. I'm grading papers that didn't get graded last week because we had houseguests and a b'day party (I work PT).

He actually quit Family Practice for psych because of the hours.

Yeah some medical specialist have a sweet hourly rate and flexibility.

Of course. I mean he didn’t go to med school to help people, he went there to get a high salary and f$$koff at home half the day!
Weeee haaawwwww.