How your father treats you determines your future relationships with men
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Anonymous
| *choose someone like my dad |
Anonymous
^Signed, Bitter "Non-Bad Boy" Man |
Anonymous
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I had an emotionally abusive, alcoholic father. I felt no love for him, ever.
I married a wonderful, kind man who is emotionally there for me. Maybe I got lucky.... |
Anonymous
| My dad was there physically but wasn't really "there" in that he never paid me any attention. He also used me as a pawn to get back at my mom after they divorced (withholding money/paying for things for me as a child to make her pay for things despite her being the one paying him child support). As a result, I desperately sought out male attention as a I got older. I would say this is the more classic "daddy issues" you hear about. I confused guys giving me physical attention for love. I was never not casually dating/"talking" to a guy or in a long term relationship (serial monogomy). I felt scared to not have a man in my life I think because I was missing that security from my father. I've been married for 2 years (together for over 7 years) and my husband is not at all like my father. He pays me a lot of attention, actually he complains that I'm not affectionate enough. Clearly I've been in therapy for this haha. |
Anonymous
This. Your parents are role modeling for everything for you - how to love each other, how to parent, how to run a household, how to treat elderly parents, how hard to work, how to resolve conflicts, how to made decisions together, etc. Hopefully they hang out with other families or family friends so you see other models, for better or for worse. |