Worst punishment you have ever carried out

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Anonymous wrote:During high school, I took the car keys away for a week. He lied to me about wearing his retainer. Silly, I know, but don't lie to me. He had to take the bus to school and I would pick him up from athletic practice.

This is a standard go to for my teen driver. Driving is the ultimate privilege.

I took a phone for the the full summer a few years ago. He was 15 at the time.

I’ve had 10 days of “hard labor” (mainly yard work, mopping floors, cleaning walls, power washing house), with no electronics. Once labor was over he would read. He read a book a day for ten days.

What did he do each time?

[Anonymous]

Recently my well-behaved daughter has lied about some small things. I find it very upsetting, in that I feel it shows a lack of trust in me. That she feels the truth will upset me. These are the kind of lies where it would have been an opportunity for her to explain herself, or argue that one of my rules is too rigid. I tend to respond well to such things, so I'm not sure why the lies. Maybe to just avoid discussion?

I found these articles a little helpful regarding lying
https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/parenting/wp/2015/02/24/what-ive-learned-when-teens-lie/?utm_term=.7752ef3bc63f
https://consumer.healthday.com/encyclopedia/children-s-health-10/child-development-news-124/lying-ages-12-to-16-645694.html


and of course, they say in young kids it's not a bad sign
https://www.nytimes.com/2018/01/05/opinion/sunday/children-lying-intelligence.html

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:During high school, I took the car keys away for a week. He lied to me about wearing his retainer. Silly, I know, but don't lie to me. He had to take the bus to school and I would pick him up from athletic practice.

That’s it?!

My worst was being grounded for the entire quarter if my grades dropped below a 97 (we didn’t have a 4.0 scale). No phone with friends, no going out, could only watch TV with my parents in the living room (we didn’t have TVs in our rooms anyway though).

97???Did you go to a school with a crazy amount of grade inflation? If not, that is crazy!

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Anonymous wrote:My oldest (now 28) lied about playing video games late one night. He was about 11 at the time. I told him I was taking his Xbox. He said I couldn't because it was a gift from his grandparents. Instead of arguing, I cut the power to his room. His room was on the third floor and on a separate circuit from the rest of the house. He did homework with a lantern for a week. Super great parenting moment.

LOL . I aspire to this level of parenting genius. Well done.

It's well balanced against my epic fails.

Why would you let a kid have a tv and gaming system in his room? That was the bigger issue.

Because clearly I am not nearly as good a parent as you are. That kid is a college professor at a huge state university. I have four college grads all with great jobs. I'm going to claim success.

Look, it’s the Mom of Five! And I am totally on her side this time!

Bravo on the stroke of parenting genius, Mom of Five...bravo!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I caught my 14 year doing mean girl type things via text. Nothing crazy and nothing directly to the other girl but she was basically making fun of said girl to her friends. I will have NONE of that. So I took away her highly prized Lululemon pants. She had 2 pairs. One from xmas and one that took 8 weeks or so of babysitting money to buy. And I wore them. Every single day. I would change from my work pants while leaving work and make sure she saw that I had those suckers on every.single.day. Did it for 6 weeks straight. Of course when she earned them back she could never wear them again because "I stretched them out with my mom butt."

Suprised she didn’t lose them again for that comment!

Seriously,though, good on you for not tolerating any bullying behavior from your teen(s)!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Requiring 12 or 13 yo to clean the house from top to bottom. I don't even remember what she did to deserve it, but I recall that it took her a few days of work.

How do you get someone to do that? And to do it well?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I caught my 14 year doing mean girl type things via text. Nothing crazy and nothing directly to the other girl but she was basically making fun of said girl to her friends. I will have NONE of that. So I took away her highly prized Lululemon pants. She had 2 pairs. One from xmas and one that took 8 weeks or so of babysitting money to buy. And I wore them. Every single day. I would change from my work pants while leaving work and make sure she saw that I had those suckers on every.single.day. Did it for 6 weeks straight. Of course when she earned them back she could never wear them again because "I stretched them out with my mom butt."

Suprised she didn’t lose them again for that comment!

Seriously,though, good on you for not tolerating any bullying behavior from your teen(s)!

+1 yeah bullies are BAD

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I caught my 14 year doing mean girl type things via text. Nothing crazy and nothing directly to the other girl but she was basically making fun of said girl to her friends. I will have NONE of that. So I took away her highly prized Lululemon pants. She had 2 pairs. One from xmas and one that took 8 weeks or so of babysitting money to buy. And I wore them. Every single day. I would change from my work pants while leaving work and make sure she saw that I had those suckers on every.single.day. Did it for 6 weeks straight. Of course when she earned them back she could never wear them again because "I stretched them out with my mom butt."

LOL

I’m laying on my couch here with the flu and this just made me seriously LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I caught my 14 year doing mean girl type things via text. Nothing crazy and nothing directly to the other girl but she was basically making fun of said girl to her friends. I will have NONE of that. So I took away her highly prized Lululemon pants. She had 2 pairs. One from xmas and one that took 8 weeks or so of babysitting money to buy. And I wore them. Every single day. I would change from my work pants while leaving work and make sure she saw that I had those suckers on every.single.day. Did it for 6 weeks straight. Of course when she earned them back she could never wear them again because "I stretched them out with my mom butt."

LOL

I’m laying on my couch here with the flu and this just made me seriously LOL

What neighborhood are you in? I want to know if it's safe to go outside.
Hope you get better soon.

[Anonymous]

canceled their vacation but DW and I still went without them. We called on the grandparents to babysit and had a great time! It was due to nonstop sibling fighting that kept escalating. Very effective! They have been better to each other since we did it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I caught my 14 year doing mean girl type things via text. Nothing crazy and nothing directly to the other girl but she was basically making fun of said girl to her friends. I will have NONE of that. So I took away her highly prized Lululemon pants. She had 2 pairs. One from xmas and one that took 8 weeks or so of babysitting money to buy. And I wore them. Every single day. I would change from my work pants while leaving work and make sure she saw that I had those suckers on every.single.day. Did it for 6 weeks straight. Of course when she earned them back she could never wear them again because "I stretched them out with my mom butt."

DAMN!! I mean to even come up with the added jab of wearing them everyday!?! You win. You are not one to be ***** with!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter lied and told me her father approved something she knew I would have said no to (we're divorced and she was at his house the day before). Since I try not to undercut him and it didn't fall into that category of safety, I let it go. Soon after he and I talked about something else and he said how surprised he was that I signed off on this thing, because it didn't sound like something I'd approve.

So first, lesson learned on my part that I should have fact-checked. Now for the punishment...for some reason I still had an ancient flip phone in my drawer. It turns out that it takes the same SIM card as my child's smart phone. So out came the card and in it went to the flip phone. The smart phone stayed in my possession for a week. I swear, it was worse for her than just not having a phone, because in theory she could do things like text but it was incredibly hard and frustrating. By the end of the week she was begging for her phone back. Lately all I have to do is say the phrase "flip phone" and she reverses course on whatever she's doing.

[Anonymous]

Waterboarding