Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
When she lives with grandparents, she never misses or talks about us. All she cares about is play, eat & tv at this age. When she lives with us back for 6 weeks, she never misses or talks about grandparents at all (I was surprised). Even grandparents called long distance, she only said hello & a few words, then handed me back the phone & wanted to continue to watch her tv or play with her toys. She is happy as long as either one of us is with her, take her out, and play with her. That is why I am not worried too much about bonding.
Based on this, you should be. If she doesn't miss you and easily goes from adult to adult, not looking back or wondering where you are, the hasn't attached and bonding should be your number one priority.
This is not necessarily my true. My kids have always spent 2-3 weeks with their grandparents in the summer since they were infants and NEVER missed us. And my khusband DS have no attachment issues
Agree. Don't worry about this. All those stories about kids missing Daddy, Mommy... all made up stories by parents missing their spouse out of codependency not mature love. We traveled a lot, and DH was overseas when we were here, and vice versa, and at that age kids didn't miss him. That starts later, not at 3. Parents projecting, in my circle one parent traveling a lot is non stop occurrence, and none of my friends' kids ever complain even older, nor do my friends ever mention that kids are missing one or the other parent. This is actually positive sign about your DD, she is adaptable and will be fine.
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